At this age before the child is 3 years old, parents are often the biggest headache in the face of unreasonable noise and help from children. They should control their children and not use corporal punishment.
Cold treatment. When a child makes unreasonable noise, don't pay attention to him, let alone give him positive stimulation, lest the child establish a conditioned reflex between his noise and the satisfaction of adults.
Natural consequence law. For children who like to touch things, they can touch hot food without causing physical harm, so that they can directly experience the harm.
Tell the child with an angry expression that his behavior is wrong. You can write your anger on your face. At this stage, children have learned to act according to adults' faces. Many children will stop their wrong behavior when they see the angry expression of adults.
Tell the truth. Explain some simple truths to your child and make it clear that doing so will bring him direct harm. For example, if a bottle is opened, it will be scalded and hurt like an injection.
You can hit a child in four situations.
1, if children like to touch some dangerous things and go to some unsafe places, but they are too young to understand the seriousness of their behavior, or they can't control themselves, and their families don't have enough time to look after them. For example, many children like to fiddle with the power plug, open the water bottle and play with fire. If it is stopped in time and effectively, it will have unimaginable consequences.
2. Some behaviors, habits and psychological tendencies of children may develop into illegal or immoral behaviors when they grow up, such as stealing money from home to buy things they like; There are also many little boys who like to bully weak children and take pleasure in it.
3, too selfish, self-centered tendency is serious, and there is no place for others in my heart. Some spoiled children never want to share their own things with others, and they don't know how to care about others. In the long run, it is difficult to get along with classmates after entering school, and it is impossible to adapt to society after entering society. Parents should help them correct this tendency in time.
Parents or teachers reminded him of the rules many times, but he still deliberately fouled, and even refused to admit his mistake after the foul. Next time he wants to commit another crime, he can hit the child. To put it simply, if he keeps on teaching, he can fight.
Special reminder: children can't fight around.
Although it is advocated that children can be beaten under certain circumstances, it is not the other extreme: beating children cruelly or indiscriminately, hitting them wherever they are caught, whether on the head or on the face. Don't spank your child with whips, slippers and other tools, and don't pat his head, eyes and ears. When implementing corporal punishment, we should pay attention to the following points:
1, punish in time, and don't settle accounts. We should adhere to the principle that mistakes must be punished, so that children's mistakes can be linked to the unhappiness caused by punishment. In this way, when he does these wrong things again in the future, he will immediately think of the unpleasant experience brought by punishment.
2. Be reasonable and tell your child what to do next time. When punishing, tell the child why he hit him. Beating people can only prevent the wrong behavior from happening again, but it can't bring the right behavior. Only by letting the child know his mistake and the harm he caused will he not make it again. Because the child is still young, even if he really said "I won't dare next time", he may not know what to do next time. Therefore, it is necessary for parents to guide their children correctly. Tell him the correct way to do it. Moreover, we should also consider whether the way we put forward is beyond the boundaries of children and whether the advice given to him is easy to do, not that children can't do it at all.
Don't hit the child in front of outsiders. Although children are small, they have their own face, especially in front of friends. Once others know that he has been beaten, older children may think it is a great shame like adults.
4. You can't beat your child often. As the saying goes, "If you scold often, you are not afraid to fight often." If your child is often beaten, it will become "hard and soft" because of "battle-hardened". Remember, corporal punishment is definitely not the main means of education.
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