In family education, children should be left blank appropriately, so that they have a small space and their own play time. It is the best help for children, like that middle-aged uncle, who only thinks about his son not losing to others, but finally the child is unhappy.
Some parents may be unfamiliar with the word "blank space", so what is "blank space"?
What is the art of "blank space"? Speaking of blank space, have you ever heard of "Lonely Fishing in the Cold River" by China Southern Song Dynasty painter Ma Yuan? This is a blank model.
In the eyes of many masters of art, they like to fill the picture, but Ma Yuan is different. He has a sense of proportion, and he thinks that a square inch of land also shows the width of heaven and earth, which is the key point of his success. Blank space makes this painting more appealing, making people feel quieter and more imaginative!
I once read a very reasonable story about Zen. A rich businessman feels that he is not happy enough. I don't know why, he is rich, but his life is not happy at all. He hopes to find a Zen master to guide him. After going, the Zen master listened to his "complaint" and saw that the Zen master picked up the kettle and kept pouring water into the cup until the water overflowed.
The rich businessman thought that the Zen master was too old to see, so he kept reminding: "The water is full, full, don't pour it again." The Zen master said, "Your life is like this cup. It is full, with no blank, and nothing can be put into it." The wealthy businessman immediately woke up and lived a full and happy life from now on.
Art needs blank space, life needs blank space, and education needs blank space. The art of blank space can be reflected not only in painting, but also in the "blank space" of parents' education for their children!
Everyone knows that we should pay attention to the ways and means of educating children. Many books also list examples of how to educate children, including taking children to study, tutoring, traveling, etc., but there is another way, which is to give children a certain amount of study time and space and let them arrange their own time. This is the art of leaving blank in education. Only when a painting is properly left blank can it have a reasonable framework; A photo can only highlight the theme if it is properly left blank. Similarly, for education, children can grow spontaneously and get enlightenment from reflection only by leaving blank space properly.
So is family education. For children's education, we can also use "blank space" to make rational use of it, so that children can feel the relationship between parents and children.
Parent-child communication needs to be properly left blank. Tao Xingzhi wrote in the article "Creative Children Education": "We have found that children are creative, and we must further emancipate their creativity."
His "Six Emancipations" is a kind of "blank education" in the final analysis;
One is to emancipate his mind so that he can think; The second is to liberate his hands and make him capable; The third is to liberate his eyes so that he can see; The fourth is to free his mouth so that he can speak; The fifth is to liberate his space and let him go to the big society of nature to gain more knowledge; Sixth, make time for him, don't fill up his homework list, and don't force him to catch the exam.
Recently, the popular variety "Mom is Superman 3", with her excellent parenting style, Huo Siyan has numerous strengths, and her blank academic qualifications are worthy of our praise and reference.
In the new program, uh-huh proposed to make juice for mom, so the problem came. He is only five years old and doesn't know how to make juice yet. Huo Siyan also knows that it is definitely impossible for his son to make a glass of juice. She didn't talk endlessly, and she didn't always interfere with the children, but waited quietly and didn't stop the ridiculous behavior of Uh-huh. He simply thinks that juice = water+fruit, and now he is carefully selecting blueberries and cherries.
I tasted it and it didn't taste, so I tried to put two cups together and keep stirring. Natural taste is average, but Huo Siyan tries his best to cooperate with his son "delicious".
Even if her son was wrong in the whole process, she looked at him quietly, instead of pointing fingers at the child, but guided the child to try different methods.
The blank education in Huo Siyan is to leave room for children's imagination, so that Uh-huh can grow up in his own way within a safe range.
A good parent-child relationship is like a friend. Give children enough space, and children will give their parents enough space.
Parents' over-protection, over-interference, paying too much attention to their own ideas and ignoring their children's ideas will make children's physical and mental development unbalanced in their immature minds, and even become a stumbling block on their growth path.