1. calmly face the child's puppy love and guide it correctly.

Parents should not panic when they find signs of puppy love. They should help their children enthusiastically. You can tell them that liking the specific opposite sex in your mind will happen to children at this stage, but this kind of liking can only be maintained at the level of friendship, not "love", because you are in the golden age of long body and long knowledge, and your physical and mental development is not yet mature.

2. Respect children and treat them coldly.

Parents should not sneer, scold or even punish their children when they are excited about the object they admire, let alone rush to school, the other party's home or complain to their neighbors, which will cause a storm in the city. It is necessary to tell children that less than 3% of junior and senior high school students fall in love, and puppy love has an impact on middle school students' learning. If you can't continue your studies because you are in love, even if you get married, life will be full of ups and downs and conflicts.

3. It helps to understand the harm and transfer emotions.

Let children clearly understand the harm of puppy love and overcome this immature feeling with reason. The most direct harm of puppy love is that it seriously interferes with learning. If handled well, puppy love can produce "synergy" and guide children to shift their time and energy to intense study and healthy after-school hobbies. In this way, their minds and horizons will be broadened, their ambitions will be lofty, they will be full of vitality and move forward forever.

4. Change the cognitive concept and adjust the anxiety mentality.

There is no such thing as puppy love in academia! It's all artificial fabrication! If we must define "falling in love before 16 years old" as "puppy love", our ancestors are all "puppy love"! Therefore, "puppy love" is not terrible. The terrible thing is that you don't "practice early" and then fall in love. There is a practice in Japan that is worth learning. Japanese schools allow junior high school students to express their love to the opposite sex in public.

5. Accept and bless your child's feelings.

If you know that your child is in love in the most tense preparation stage. Don't fly into a rage or even give the child a violent friction. You should be very happy (in fact, there are hidden worries in your heart, but be steady and don't pass them on to your children) and praise your children's charm. It's gratifying that someone likes them! At the same time, children at this stage are in a rebellious period! Their stimulation system has been generated under the impetus of physiological development, but their control system will mature at the age of 18 to 20. If parents want to interfere and stop, it is easy to wake up their stimulus system and then do something irrational.

6. Establish a good family relationship on the basis of acceptance.

At this time, both husband and wife should put aside all contradictions! No matter how big the contradiction between the two sides is, it is better to help the children through the dangerous period! Why do children choose to fall in love in the third grade? Of course, there are many reasons, but one cannot be ignored, and that is family reasons. If he gets enough love at home, he doesn't need to look for a substitute outside.

How to help children establish a correct view of love?

First, the so-called puppy love, we don't call it puppy love now, because it is difficult to define puppy love, so we change the so-called puppy love into green love, which belongs to the internship stage of formal love. Parents don't have to be anxious or even afraid about their children's so-called puppy love. Deal with it, so-called puppy love will also promote children's growth and study.

Second, children have no puppy love. Parents are also worried about their children and stare at them from time to time. This is totally unnecessary anxiety. It is a distrust of children and can only cause children's disgust. Under the reverse action, it may play a role in promoting puppy love, which is not worth the candle. Take the most appropriate way, or understand the rational attitude, to meet the fact that children are in love with youth. The most appropriate way is, first of all, the child may enter the early stage of youth love, that is, when the child is about nine years old.

Third, when children enter the early adolescence, parents should complete the enlightenment education of their children's love. The way is to use the topic to play, don't ask the child about it directly. Effectively eliminate children's alert psychology and create an atmosphere in which parents and children talk about sensitive topics. No matter whether the child will have a young love or not, the mother will not be afraid when she is ready to communicate. As long as parents and children keep in communication, mothers will be in an active position. After listening to her advice, she will teach her children how to be safe and how to fall in love correctly.

Fourth, when the child has some doubts, for example, the child writes a note to the girl, but the girl doesn't answer it, and the child doesn't understand what is going on with her, or the boy asks the child out to meet, but the child wants to go but doesn't want to go. When you ask your mother how to deal with these things, it is the best time to carry out emotional education, aesthetic education, etiquette education, risk education and safety education in love.

If the child's love for youth is in full swing, it can't be contained, and it is in danger of losing control. The first thing parents should do is to calm their anxiety, tension, anger and fear. Because the above emotions are irrational and it is harmful to deal with children's problems, we must first calm our anger and calm our emotions. On this basis, face problems, discuss problems with children and listen to their explanations. Whether the child's behavior is right or not, it is always the child's emotional expression that needs to be respected.

In fact, it is normal for children to have some crises during their growth. There is no need for parents to make a fuss and panic. Therefore, in any case, we should keep ourselves calm and rational, so that parents are wise.