In marriage, you are the kind side, but many times, kindness is used as a reason to bully you. However, some people are hostile to the other half from the beginning, and even fight. Such marriages are often unfortunate. Therefore, the root of a happy marriage is to be good to each other.
My name is Xiao Jing, and I got married after dating my boyfriend Ju Hua for a year. However, after less than two years of marriage, I asked him for a divorce. I want to divorce him for many reasons, just accumulated grievances.
When I was still in love with him, my family wanted to buy a car. Chrysanthemum said to me, "write your name on the car you bought at home." In the future, if you want to take it to repair your car, your family should call you. It is convenient to repair the car after writing the name. "
I said with a grain of salt, "Really? Does it depend on who has a car to repair it? "
When I really went to buy a car, he followed us and asked me, "Do you have your ID card?"
I said, "I don't have an ID card." He was very unhappy, so I said, "Ask the salesman yourself. It is convenient to buy a car and write a name. "
It's the car. Because I want to take my mother out, it's all arranged in advance, and I specifically told Chrysanthemum in advance that I want to use the car this Thursday. As a result, on Wednesday, he suddenly said to me, "I will drive my parents home tomorrow, and I will use the car tomorrow."
I was a little angry, so I said to him, "I clearly said I would use the car first, that is, Thursday, and I will go out with my mother." We have already made an appointment with the old Chinese doctor, and it is difficult for him to make an appointment. "
Chrysanthemum said to me with certainty, "You didn't tell me you had something to do on Thursday, so what should I do with this car?" I know that he always thinks that this car is bought by my family, so I have been suppressing him on the matter of using the car. Later, he said to me, "Did your family pay for this car alone? My family has money, too, okay? What makes you decide who can use the car! "
I really couldn't figure out what money his family spent, so I asked, "Is the car from your family? Why don't I know? "
Chrysanthemum confidently said to me, "Have you forgotten? At that time, the car was parked downstairs and two tires were punctured, but I spent 1400 to change two tires! "
I was speechless, so I hung up on him.
Later, we got married, but there were contradictions. Many people may wonder. Obviously, before marriage, they all thought this kind of personality was inappropriate. Why do I still want to marry him? In fact, I am a very affectionate person. Chrysanthemum was my first love, and I was reluctant to let it go, so they tied the knot for more than a year and got married.
Not long after we got married, my mother wanted to buy a small apartment for rent, so I helped her with all kinds of formalities. That day, I just went to my mother's house to get the information. When I got home and sat on the sofa, Chrysanthemum leaned over and said to me, "Why don't you just transfer your mother's house directly to your name, which will save you trouble in the future." I know what he means. In this case, the small apartment is the property under my husband and wife's name. I ignored him and got up and entered the room.
Once, I discussed with Chrysanthemum and said, "Because my father is gone, I want to visit my parents every week. After all, everyone is in Beijing, not far away. "
He said reluctantly, "This is not good. Who do you think is married and goes back to her family every week? "
I was very unhappy because I had a cold war with him for several days.
Later, my mother found a stepmother, and I actually supported it. After all, someone can take care of my mother when I'm not at home. This uncle is honest and kind to my mother, but he just doesn't have a house. After he lived with my mother, he lived in her house. Within two years, my uncle was ill, had a cerebral infarction, and it was a little inconvenient to move. My mother has been taking care of him.
After my father-in-law knew about this, he told his relatives that my mother had never seen a man and got a disabled old man to keep at home. After I learned about it, I also kept a forbearing attitude. After all, my father-in-law is an elder, and I don't want to argue with him so as not to embarrass everyone.
In fact, the contradictions between us are usually piled up by small things. I have never expressed my inner thoughts with him, but I basically submit to humiliation. Such behavior is actually fatal in marriage.
Chrysanthemum's work has not been very good, so I said to my mother-in-law, "If there are relatives at home who can help, it is also good to find a driver for Chrysanthemum, driving for the leader or something." Because chrysanthemum has no other skills. "
My mother-in-law immediately rejected me and said, "No, you let my son drive the car for the leader. Too tired to get to and from work on time. What should I do if my son is exhausted? " I didn't make any noise, so I took it as a tacit understanding with my mother-in-law
When I was unemployed, my mother-in-law said to me, "The supermarket downstairs is recruiting people. You can be a cashier or tallyman. Don't stay at home all day. " I didn't answer my mother-in-law. Isn't the cashier tired Standing all day, the tallyman has to run around moving goods, which is more tiring than being a driver. No wonder my mother-in-law is willing to let me do coolies and work hard for this family.
Later, my friends and I raised money to open a farmhouse. Chrysanthemum lives in the city, and I live in the countryside. I can only go home once a month. We had a quarrel, which happened to be the holiday of 1 1 month. When his parents came to help us, I gave up my usual room.
In fact, before this, when I quarreled with Chrysanthemum, he had already started fighting with me. I insisted on divorcing him after I finished my work. When I was busy that day, he called me to his parents' room and asked me, "Do you want a divorce?"
I said, "Yes." Show his parents where he hurt me.
He said, "Then we will stay with you for one night and leave early tomorrow morning."
I agreed, because the accommodation was full that day, and only one game room had a bed board, so I went to sleep in that room. But when I went upstairs, I found it was just a bed board, no pillows and no bedding. When I was going downstairs to get it, I found that all three of them had turned off the lights and slept. I thought, my divorce may be the most correct decision in my life. Their family never really cared about me. All they saw was themselves.
Divorced for more than two years now. I had a better car when I first got divorced. I can go wherever I want, and I don't have to think about how to arrange the car. We still take care of my mother's stepmother. Although this uncle has nothing but a little pension, we don't want anything from him, just think we should be kind.
After reading Xiao Jing's case, I was deeply touched. I was really unlucky. But fortunately, Xiao Jing finally stopped in time and chose a divorce. Life is even better than when she got married. Therefore, women must be cautious before getting married. After all, it is related to one's own life. Some people say that marriage is equivalent to a woman's second life. A good marriage is a comedy life, and a bad marriage is a tragedy life.
Good people believe that their character will not be too bad. It can be seen that Chrysanthemum is not a kind person, not even his family. When Xiao Jing and Ju Hua had an argument, Ju Hua played Xiao Jing, but her parents-in-law did nothing and didn't teach her son a lesson. You know, domestic violence is the missile of marriage. Once it explodes, it will be water under the bridge.
Be kind in marriage, but don't be blind.