How to guide children not to compare?
1. Parents should set an example.
Many parents keep up with the joneses, and she also wants to buy things bought by others. When other people change cars, they have to clamor for a change. If parents are such people, then children will also form the psychology of keeping up with the joneses. Therefore, if parents want their children to have this kind of psychology, they must set an example.
2. Help children to establish correct and positive concepts.
It is normal for children to keep up with the joneses. If skillfully guided, the psychology of comparing with others will become self-motivated. We can find the bright spots of positive energy such as sunshine and kindness in children, and we can also find them from others. Let children compare and think with this as a reference. Examples can be studying hard, dancing, helping parents with housework, respecting the elderly and so on. Let children have a sense of superiority in these aspects and feel that what they do is more meaningful than owning those expensive toys or other people's big cars and houses. In the long run, it can not only successfully solve children's comparison psychology, but also help children establish correct values.
3. Guide correctly, don't cry poor
When a child wants something, the excuse that parents don't buy it is usually "no money at home". No matter what the family's economic conditions are, saying these things will not change the child's mind. The correct way is to ask the child patiently why he really wants this thing, and then help the child analyze whether this thing is useful or not. Then, we don't treat them as children, but tell them equally why not buy them. Let the children decide for themselves, and the average child will give up rationally at this time.
4. Let children know what they really need.
Learning tools are necessary for children to learn, and parents can satisfy 100%. However, snacks and toys are optional consumption items. You can ask your parents to buy some occasionally, but you can't ask your parents to buy some every day, and you can't make a fuss or force yourself because of your parents' refusal.
For example, when buying clothes, some children blindly pursue famous brands, thinking that others are wearing good brands. If they don't buy good brands to wear, they will be complacent and lift their heads. It is necessary to guide children to understand that what is expensive is not necessarily good, but what suits them is the best. Parents should teach their children to distinguish between products they just need and products they can't buy. Only by making children aware of the difference between the two can we make them spend rationally and plan their own expenses reasonably.
Now people's lives are getting better and better, and children are gradually beginning to compare their living conditions with each other. So how should we correctly guide children not to compare?
5. Create an environment without comparison for children;
In ancient times, Meng Mu said, "The purpose of moving is to let the children get close to Zhu Zhechi". If the peers around the child are willing to learn and communicate with each other, then the child will naturally concentrate on learning in order to integrate into it.
6. Communicate with children more:
Let the child be willing to communicate with his parents, otherwise, no matter how good the education is, he will not listen, and it will be futile. Parents seldom care about him at ordinary times, so he naturally won't listen to it when he thinks about it.
7. Keep children optimistic:
Whether a child is positive or not has a lot to do with whether he is satisfied with the family environment, whether he has a harmonious relationship with his parents and whether he has hobbies. If the mood is positive, happy and calm, his preferences, desires and pursuits will not be just simple material enjoyment.
8. Stimulate children's curiosity:
As parents, they should chat with their children more, stimulate their curiosity and cultivate their interest in learning knowledge. They can also invite high-quality college students to help their children at home and set a positive example. If a child is rich in all aspects of knowledge, his thoughts will be rich, and his spiritual pursuit will not fall into the stereotype. Children with higher spiritual pursuits are not easy to indulge in material sensory enjoyment.
9. Deal with the comparison problem in a reasonable way:
When comparing children with others, parents and teachers should conduct reasonable education according to the children's situation and handle the children's comparison problems with clever methods. For example: studying, running, playing and so on.