1, cultivate children's correct sense of competition
Competition consciousness is closely related to self-consciousness, and only by comparing with others can clear self-consciousness be revealed. Childhood is a critical period for the development of children's self-awareness. In order to develop their own personal psychology, they need to have a unique and private experience different from others, thus showing their independent personality. In order to express themselves in front of different objects, children need to know how their words and deeds will affect their image in the eyes of others. The germination of competitive consciousness is an important manifestation of children's self-awareness development, and parents should give timely support and correct guidance.
2. Cultivate children's healthy competitive mentality.
As the first teacher of children, parents play an extremely important role in cultivating children's healthy competitive mentality.
In the process of cultivating children's sense of competition, children should also understand that competition should not be narrow and selfish, and competition should have a broad mind; Competition should not be insidious and calculating people secretly, but should go hand in hand and surpass it with strength; Competition does not exclude cooperation. Without a good spirit of cooperation and collective belief, the strong who work alone are lonely and difficult to succeed.
3. Guide children to look at competition positively.
Whether it is success or failure, the result will be fleeting, and life will face numerous competitions and tests, none of which can determine our long life. Regardless of winning or losing, don't care too much about the given result, but look at what we can find and learn, and we can do better in the face of the next goal. We should teach children to value and enjoy the process of competition, because in the final analysis, life is a process, not a result. Man's progress lies in constantly surpassing himself, not comparing with others.
4. Educate children to learn tolerance in competition.
In real life, some children who fail in the competition often show unhappy emotions, are hostile to the winning party, show that they no longer make friends with each other, and even encourage other partners to isolate him. This also reflects that these children have not been able to face the competition actively and correctly, which requires parents to cultivate their children's sense of competition, improve their competitive ethics and educate their children to learn tolerance in competition. Let children understand that competition should not be narrow and selfish, and competitors should have a broad mind.
5. Eliminate children's jealousy in the competition.
Ruofan, whose children have just entered primary school, said that it is right for parents to let their children actively participate in the competition, but they should not take "first" as the sole purpose of the competition, but should pay more attention to the good qualities cultivated by their children in the process of participation, such as calmness, calmness and cheerfulness. These personality qualities are much more important than "first".
As parents, to cultivate their children's competitiveness, we must let them know that only those who bid farewell to jealousy can win the final competition and achieve excellent results. Jealousy is a dark psychology that exists in the competition between people. It is very harmful to children. Therefore, while cultivating children's competitive consciousness, we should pay more attention to cultivating children's competitive virtue.
6. Change ideas and encourage competition.
In the past, we often used "obedient" and "obedient" as the criteria for evaluating good children. In fact, such children lack personal opinions on problems and are unable to resist pressure. From the perspective of children's future survival and development, we should cultivate children's independent consciousness, strong will, the spirit of daring to think, speak and do, and the courage to meet challenges, setbacks and hardships, and encourage children to bravely go out of the classroom, out of their families and communities, into society, and experience life and competition.
7. Cultivate and develop children's personality.
Psychological research shows that personality and competitiveness are closely linked. To develop children's personality, we should start from their own needs and interests, so that children not only have a broad knowledge background, but also have several special talents and skills, and have a relatively perfect personality. Children who are self-care, independent, self-disciplined and confident often have a stronger sense of competition and competitiveness than others. Children with outstanding personality often contain endless competitive power.
8. Encourage children to innovate.
Without innovation, it is impossible to make progress, and without progress, it will lose the foundation for winning in the competition. When educating children, parents should be good at stimulating their desire and interest in knowledge, encouraging children to participate in thinking, doing more things, moving their eyes and talking more, so that children can be good at finding problems, asking questions and trying to solve problems with their own ideas. Don't use traditional ready-made answers and traditional educational models to limit children's thinking. When children show their "new ideas" and "new inventions", parents should
9. Encourage children to believe in themselves.
Encourage children to see the world with their own eyes, express their inner feelings in their own words, judge right and wrong with their own values, and thus decide how to live, study and be a man, give themselves a correct position, and believe that they have the strength and ability to achieve the correct goals they pursue. Let children know that after doing their best, they can be a winner who keeps working hard or an indomitable loser, instead of paying too much attention to the game itself. Believing in yourself is a kind of "self-competition consciousness" in itself. A child who doesn't even believe in himself has basically lost the ability to compete with others. He certainly won't be full of energy and optimism, and he won't even have a sense of "assurance and success" in doing anything.
10 to help children find a competitive advantage.
Encourage children to build self-confidence and dare to face competition. Everyone can't be all-rounder, which has advantages and disadvantages. It can help children find their own advantages and build firm self-confidence, which is the first thing that qualified parents should do in the face of competition. Parents should guide their children to tap their own advantages, constantly strengthen them, and let them get rid of their inferiority complex and become confident; Helping children discover their strengths and advantages is a good way to overcome the fear of competition.
A person's interests and talents are various, so we should pay attention to giving full play to their strengths and tapping their potential, so as to increase the chances of success and reduce setbacks. At the same time, there is competition and there is victory or defeat. Even if you are at a disadvantage, you should keep a positive attitude, instead of belittling or destroying the other party in order to gain your own advantages, or being jealous or taking improper measures, not to be devastated.
1 1. Encourage children's achievements in time.
Parents should be good at discovering the advantages of their children and give them affirmation in time. For example, some children are temporarily behind in academic performance, but they are good at pictures. Parents should affirm their children's painting ability and encourage them to make more efforts in painting.
Praise children's efforts and their progress in this process, instead of just focusing on the results. When the child is trying something hard, when the child's ability is improved, and when the child can become a source of motivation for others, give the child some positive responses. As soon as children talk about their grades, they immediately lead the conversation to other things.
12. Encourage children to do what they can and cultivate their independent consciousness and ability.
The ability to live independently is the basis of competition. Without independence, there can be no sense of competition. The biggest weakness of the only child is poor independence and strong dependence. Parents must establish the concept of "I can do it myself" and cultivate the ability of "I can do it myself". When he knows how to collect toys, dress himself and wash handkerchiefs, let him do it himself. Although his toys are untidy, his clothes are slow, and his handkerchief is not clean, every time he finishes something independently, he will be praised for doing it well and encouraged to continue. In fact, every attempt of his children is a great success, which will increase their confidence.
The best way. Children should be educated that only labor can produce; Only by working hard can we succeed. Through proper labor (such as letting three-year-old children button themselves, tie their own shoelaces, wash their hands and faces, etc.). ) and timely education, children will form a sense of labor from an early age. This is the basis for children to dare to compete.
13. Teach children to cooperate in competition.
The fiercer the competition, the more important the sense of cooperation. Because personal strength is always small, many things need to be solved in cooperation. Only in cooperation can individuals learn from each other and gain greater development by exchanging needed items. Pharmacists' children can develop well when they grow up. Parents should pay attention to cultivating their children's spirit of cooperation and sense of competition. Let children realize that competition is not to ask too much of themselves and despise others, but to realize that everyone in the group has their own strengths and weaknesses through competition awareness.
14, advocating children's healthy competition
To cultivate children's sense of competition, parents should advocate healthy competition as the starting point and ultimate goal, and educate their children to understand the principles of healthy competition.
Benign competition includes four aspects: fairness, justice, openness and justice. Fairness means winning by one's own strength; Justice means courtesy and honesty; Openness, that is, competition should not be narrow and selfish; Public interest is above all else, that is, competition should not secretly calculate others, but should go hand in hand and surpass others by its own strength. Parents should guide their children to follow these four aspects for healthy competition.
In addition, let children learn to cooperate in the competition. Parents should be soberly aware that there is not only competition but also cooperation in creating and developing this world, and children should be trained to cooperate in competition. Only competition without cooperation can only cause isolation, bring tension to classmates and add a lot of trouble to oneself, which is very unfavorable to life and career.
15, educate children to correctly treat the outcome in the competition.
Where there is competition, there is victory and failure. Parents should let their children know that if they win, they should think that one mountain is higher and the end point is always ahead. When they fail, don't think that the world is not here. The key is to find out the original reason for the failure. The direction of efforts. If you win, you will be complacent, and if you lose, you will be dejected and despondent, all of which are manifestations of lack of good sense of competition.
Competition consciousness is closely related to self-consciousness, and only by comparing with others can clear self-consciousness be revealed. Childhood is a critical period for the development of children's self-awareness. In order to develop their own personal psychology, they need to have a unique and private experience different from others, thus showing their independent personality. In order to express themselves in front of different objects, children need to know how their words and deeds will affect their image in the eyes of others. The germination of competitive consciousness is an important manifestation of children's self-awareness development, and parents should give timely support and correct guidance.