The height of children's future growth is the result of parents' guidance. Family education is no less important than knowledge education in schools. As the main body of education, parents' primary task is to learn to learn and learn to grow up. After all, there is no "parent school" in the world, and no one is born a qualified parent.
In the process of education, cooperation between husband and wife is very important. If they tear each other apart, the children will suffer the consequences in the end. Husband and wife should reach some consensus before education, so as to achieve better cooperation and win-win in education and better children.
1. When one party is in charge of the other party's intervention in disciplining children, the most taboo thing is that you say a word to me, and it is easy to abide by one party's rules, but if you want to satisfy everyone, the children may not know what to do. More importantly, it will lower the prestige of parents and make children disobedient.
There must be only one voice to discipline children. When one spouse is in charge of the children, the intervention of the other spouse will make them at a loss and don't know who to listen to. When parents play the good COP and the bad COP, children will naturally weigh the pros and cons and automatically approach the side that is beneficial to them. As a result, the other party will lose the trust of the children, which may affect the feelings between husband and wife.
Children look at their faces when they are young. Have it both ways may not treat others sincerely when he grows up, because he didn't learn to speak principles since he was a child.
Only when the husband and wife form an alliance and maintain a consistent position in the face of big and big issues, can children accurately distinguish right from wrong and make continuous progress.
Even if two people have different educational concepts, they can't show them in front of their children. If you don't agree with each other's practice, don't refute it in front of the children. Don't interfere yet, and then discuss with each other when the children are away.
Adults must have a tacit understanding on the issue of disciplining children, that is, when one person is disciplining, others can't intervene, let alone undermine each other. No matter how good the education is, it can't compare with husband and wife.
2. Husband and wife don't quarrel in front of children. There is no husband and wife who don't quarrel, especially in the face of children's education. Different opinions are certain, but don't argue fiercely in front of the children.
When a family variety show was broadcast, the Junyan Jiao family got along in an enviable way. Her father and daughter often "confide in each other", and the communication atmosphere between them is intimate and pleasant. When the family goes out to travel, her father often says, "Your mother and I still have the same topic" and turns to show his love to his wife, leaving his daughter to "eat dog food".
Being a parent's "light bulb" is actually a kind of happiness "redundant feeling". Many netizens also envy the family's mode of getting along. When talking about his educational model, Junyan Jiao's father mentioned the key point of "avoiding children when quarreling".
Children who grow up in such a harmonious environment are spiritually "rich second generation". They learned how to respect others in the process of growing up, and even lovers can't quarrel casually because of their close relationship.
Parents' love can give children a full sense of security and exert a subtle influence on the formation of children's three views. If parents often quarrel fiercely in front of their children, it will do great harm to their children.
For children, when they were young, their parents quarreled or even started fighting in front of themselves, which was no less than a frightening horror film, and it might be a lifelong childhood shadow. It is possible that children will become grumpy or afraid of getting married when they grow up.
Good parents can build a good psychological foundation for their children. Parents who often quarrel fiercely in front of their children will also cause negative emotions such as psychological anxiety, helplessness and fear to their children, making them feel insecure or leaving psychological shadows. Even if you are an adult or have your own family, the scene of parents quarreling in front of you will often appear in front of you.
Husband and wife should not criticize each other's elders in front of their children, saying that love is exclusive, and marriage needs two families to tolerate each other. Be tolerant of people who love each other in different ways. In their own eyes, they may be irrelevant people, but to each other, they are all very important people in life.
Some children will disrespect the elderly, yell at them, or have a lot of opinions, which may be influenced by their parents' criticism of the elderly.
In some families, parents are busy with work and children are taken care of by the elderly. However, different parenting concepts may lead young couples to dictate to the elderly, or generate a lot of dissatisfaction. The voice of complaining often echoes in children's ears, and naturally children will not respect the elderly if they listen too much.
Therefore, parents should not complain about the elderly in front of their children, let alone quarrel because of husband and wife. The shortcomings in children are sometimes not terrible. What is terrible is that parents, as leaders of children's lives, lack correct family values and educational methods.
Many years later, the child's words and deeds are the shadow of his parents. If they are not satisfied with the old man's practice, they can communicate privately. Don't involve children in the contradiction between adults, and don't criticize each other's elders in front of children, otherwise children will become stingy, unreasonable and don't know how to respect and filial piety their elders.
Children's childhood education is mostly based on their parents' example, and everything comes down to their parents' correct behavior and words and deeds. Parents want their children to distinguish right from wrong, be confident in the sunshine and respect others, but what they need is their parents' patience in life.
Children are a mirror of their parents, and some bad habits of children can often be traced back to their parents.
Only when one parent does not interfere with the other's education casually and can reach a consensus in front of the child can the child establish a stable view of right and wrong. Only when parents don't quarrel fiercely in front of their children can children feel enough security. Only when parents don't criticize the elderly in front of their children can children know how to respect the elderly. Couples must have some rules in advance when they are educating, so that their children can move towards an excellent road.