First, learn to accept children's shortcomings. When parents adopt psychological suggestion education methods, they must first learn to accept their children's shortcomings in order to help them grow up positively. Psychological suggestion is to let children realize their Excellence when facing setbacks and difficulties, even when facing mistakes. After all, everything has two sides. When children have shortcomings, they must also have advantages. Only when parents recognize and accept their children's shortcomings can they really use psychological hints. For example, some children are always slow to do their homework. Some parents think that this is a child's character defect and that he is procrastinating. But at this time, some parents will tell their children by psychological suggestion that he is slow because he is meticulous and organized. They will say to their children, "It would be better if we can improve the speed on this basis."
The purpose of these two different ways of language communication is to improve the speed of children's homework, but the former only attacks children for being too slow, while the latter finds children's shortcomings in this behavior and helps them understand their advantages. When parents encourage their children's strengths rather than their weaknesses, they can gain strength from them and push them forward. Therefore, in general, when communicating with children's psychological hints, we should learn to accept their shortcomings instead of blindly attacking them.
Second, become a firm force behind children. The most important thing about psychological suggestion is that in addition to verbal communication, parents should also become a firm force behind their children and learn to trust them. Faith is the basis of communication and the development of family relations, which requires parents to be the strength of children and learn to choose and trust their children firmly when anything happens. On this basis, the communication between parents and children can be smoother, and the role of psychological suggestion will be fully exerted.
For example, when others criticize their children, parents should learn to refute each other. Other people's evaluation of children is not important, but parents' views play a decisive role in children's minds. In this case, if parents echo each other's criticism, it will do a certain blow to the child, and using more psychological hints will not help the child restore confidence and help him establish a good attitude. Therefore, parents should learn to be the force behind their children and learn to trust and support their children. In any case, children can trust their parents, so parents should be clear about their identity and power over their children, so as to better carry out psychological suggestion education methods.
Third, the positive power given by language suggestion. Language suggestion has positive power at any time. Both parents' verbal hints to children, work or friends can bring positive energy to each other. Especially in family education, parents' casual encouragement to their children may become their lifelong goal. For example, some parents will tell their children "I believe you can achieve such good results in the future" when they get good grades or win excellent awards at a young age, which is equivalent to planting the seeds of success in their hearts. Many children will take their parents' verbal cues as their goals and gain positive power from them, which shows that parents' psychological cues to children are very useful.
Generally speaking, in family education, parents should learn to accept their children's shortcomings, find out their potential advantages and develop their advantages. In this process, children can be helped to correct their shortcomings through language hints. This way is conducive to the development of parent-child relationship and the positive growth of children.