It was a weekend night, and my daughter came up to me after finishing her homework and said, Dad! Why not play a song for me? Then, I began to search for "inflammable and explosive" according to the song title that the child said. I said helplessly: there is such a song title! Then, the daughter began to listen to the song and hummed. At the same time, looking at the handsome guy on the screen of the mobile phone, there is an intoxicated look. Since then, my daughter has been very fond of this boy named "Huahua". When I saw "Huahua" appear on TV, I was so intoxicated that my soul was almost sucked away by Huahua. My intuition tells me: no, the child shows signs of idolization.
I was really scared. No, ten horses can't stop me. Why are you so flustered? Because I immediately thought of a person-Yang Lijuan, the crazy fan of Andy Lau. For Yang Lijuan, her worship began with a beautiful fairy tale and ended in ruin. She is a living case, which makes all of us have a more rational understanding of idolatry. Anything, once sensibility overcomes reason, then anything crazy will happen. This may also reflect a typical problem in today's society. Many people in idolization are sick and very sick! How to treat idolization is the first problem before us.
Do you remember the stars you chased in those years?
Probably everyone has their own pursuit of stars, some are actors, some are network celebrities, some are heroes, and so on. They have made such great achievements in their respective fields that their fans are crazy about it. For example, the wall of my room is covered with photos of stars, the concert venue is always open, and the star's birthday constellation is coming. It seems that this is also the standard for hardcore fans. And donate more than half of a month's salary to their favorite online celebrities, but turn off the lights and eat noodles. Even, some people finally spent all their money, only to draw water with a sieve. All these are the real characteristics of idolization in today's society.
We have forgotten what idolize's original intention is.
What is the root cause of this phenomenon today? Please allow me to expose this pain point: that is, everyone chased idolize too hastily, but they all forgot what idolize's initial intention was. We are not going to pursue those superficial flashy things, because they can't stand the cleaning of lead China. We should learn why they have made such great achievements, and how much hardships and efforts they have made for their dreams. This is what we should learn, and this is the ultimate goal of idolization, okay? Now, this has become a blind spot and is almost ignored by everyone.
Guide children to be rational and idolized.
So, in order to idolize my daughter, I had to find a way-I began to do my homework, collected a lot of information about "Huahua" silently, and began to wonder how to find a good opportunity to guide my children correctly. One day, I took the initiative to watch Ace to Ace with my daughter, and I got all kinds of fun. After watching TV, I asked my daughter: Son, you like flowers so much, but do you really know flowers? She paused for a moment, then shook her head. I said while the iron was hot, "Turn on the computer and let's get to know our favorite stars!" " "
I opened the information of Huahua and deliberately read it out loud: Huahua, formerly known as Hua Chenyu,/kloc-0 was born in Shiyan City, Hubei Province on February 7, 990. China is a male singer and composer and graduated from Wuhan Conservatory of Music. Then there are many honors for him. Dressed in golden armor, he is loved by thousands of people. My daughter was intoxicated after hearing this, hehe.
I continued to read aloud: he was exposed to music since he was a child. Before the fifth grade in primary school, flute was his favorite. As he grew older, he was no longer satisfied with the music world brought by flute and began to learn piano. Although the process was not smooth sailing, he quickly reached the tenth grade of piano by his own efforts. When he graduated from junior high school, he had already planned his future. In 2009, I took the college entrance examination. He wanted to go to Wuhan Conservatory of Music, and got full marks in professional courses, but he missed out on his favorite institution of higher learning because he missed one point in cultural courses. But he insisted on being admitted to Wuhan Conservatory of Music. In the second year, I got more than 20 points higher in culture class and got excellent grades in professional courses. I successfully entered Wuhan Conservatory of Music to study music, and finally achieved today's achievements.
My reading came to an abrupt end at this moment. I said, "son, do you understand the point?" If you want to succeed, you must first know your fields and hobbies, then make your own plans and dreams, and then work hard for this goal, even if you encounter more setbacks, don't give up. Huahua finally realized her life dream by being admitted to a university in the field of music. Then, son, should you also learn from Huahua, study hard, enter an institution of higher learning, and realize your dreams? My daughter's answer naturally satisfied me. The most important thing is: does she understand the purpose of idolization? Is to work hard like a star, improve yourself and make yourself as good as a star in the future.
Never forget why you started, and your mission will be completed.
I easily solved the problem of children's worship. In the whole process, I didn't order my daughter to ban idolization. She naturally has no rebellious emotions, and has achieved the goal of correctly guiding children how to be rational in idolization. It is good to have ideals, goals and idolize. However, if the purpose is not pure and the direction is not correct, it will go astray and even be possessed, which will not pay off. In the future, when asked who is the star in the heart of the motherland's flowers, I want to hear the answer: Yuan Lao, the father of rice, Zhong Lao, the unparalleled man in China ... or the same sentence: Only by not forgetting your active mind can you achieve your ultimate goal.