Author/Dou Dangfeng, Henan

Focus introduction

In 2007, an authoritative national survey showed that 1 in every five middle school students thought about suicide, and 6.5% of them had made a suicide plan. However, in the eyes of many adults, many children commit suicide because they don't want to cut their hair, do their homework, and have an unsatisfactory exam. Therefore, they all lament that today's children can't stand setbacks and should strengthen frustration education. What happened to the children? Is it really because it is too fragile?

Focus playback

On April 3rd, 2065438, at around 9: 30/KLOC-0, Li Xinyue, a girl from Class 1, Grade 8 14, Dongying City, Shandong Province, jumped from the window on the fifth floor of her home. /kloc-on the morning of 0/4, she left her loving parents, relatives, teachers and classmates forever because of ineffective rescue.

Why did Li Xinyue jump off a building? What makes this cheerful, optimistic, easy-going and gentle girl choose to end her young life in such an extreme way? According to Li Xinyue's mother, Careful Yue 13 came back early after school in the afternoon, told her about the broadcast gymnastics competition happily and asked for chicken wings this weekend. After dinner that day 19: 07, the little mother received a short message from the teacher to her parents asking the girls who didn't have their hair cut to do it this weekend. Hearing this, Xiao's mood changed immediately, and he firmly said "don't cut". "That's impossible. The teacher has come to the third text message to remind me that I have to cut it anyway. " Xiao Xinyue firmly said "no" to her mother, then rose from her chair, went straight to the sofa in the living room, opened the window, and hesitated for a second before jumping down. ...

It is understood that there is a regulation in Dongying Shengli No.1 Middle School: boys keep flat heads and girls keep sports heads. It has been 2 1 year since the school stipulated what hairstyle students should wear, and many girls suffer from this regulation every year. The reporter saw the students returning to school at the entrance of Shengli No.1 Middle School, No.55 Jinan Road, Dongying City. Almost all the students have long hair and wear the same school uniform, but their height and walking posture are different. If you don't pay attention to observation, you can't tell which one is a boy and which one is a girl from behind.

While packing up his daughter's belongings, Li Xinyue's father found an article entitled "Desiring respect", which was written by his daughter Li Xinyue in the seventh grade. One paragraph reads: "Not long ago, my mother had a big fight with me because of my hair. The thing is, because of the school rules of No.1 Middle School, students must manage their own sports heads, but I don't want to abide by this rule, because hair is my most important thing. It is no exaggeration to say that hair is everything to me, better than all people and things, but the teacher insisted that I have a haircut. I still can't help it under the struggle, so I was escorted by the teacher to get a haircut ... "

Focus analysis

"Hair is everything to me" may seem naive to adults, but who didn't have some weird fairy ideas when they were young? In fact, the most important thing is the title of this composition-"Desiring to be respected". Should adults have a good talk with Xin Yue to know and understand her feelings about hair?

-Excerpted from Xinhuanet

Suicide is not only an act of self-attack, but also an act of self-protection and self-defense: it constitutes a person's last attempt to safeguard his dignity and self-worth. The deep-seated cause of suicide is that the self-worth of the suicide has been seriously hurt. Because they can't find other ways to maintain this value, they have to react so violently and take the most extreme way-suicide-to make a final protest.

-Caster: Anger and Attack

In the face of tragedy, adults should think about whether we have created a world full of security and vitality for children, whether we have squatted down to look at children, listened carefully to their thoughts and made them feel respected. If not, it won't help if you just look at your child's troubles from the standpoint of adults.

-Yu: the change of educational concept: the premise to solve the problem of adolescent suicide in China.

Focus and ask questions

Lack of Life and Frustration Education Every time we see boys and girls commit suicide in the flower season, we should reflect on two points besides the education system: First, strengthen frustration education so that the flowers in these greenhouses can withstand the wind and rain. The second is to strengthen life education, so that children have awe of life and know that life is precious only once and cannot be given up easily.

-Excerpted from Tencent. com "

Frustration education lacks love. What is the purpose of frustration education? It is to let children have a strong heart, no matter what kind of ups and downs they encounter, they can cross the past and survive tenaciously in what kind of adversity, which is to let children have the ability to resist pressure. So, what is the best frustration education? It is to ask the parents of the child to stand with the child forever and tell the child, baby, it doesn't matter. Tell your child that adults love him who succeeds and he who fails, so that children can broaden their horizons and not get entangled in a trivial matter that outsiders may think is insignificant. Regrettably, when carrying out frustration education, both schools and parents often only carry out frustration education for the sake of frustration education, with only the surface of frustration and no essence of love and encouragement. Is this frustration education effective?

-Excerpt from Dajiang Net

Life education is actually a kind of terror education. Although life education has appeared in many schools in recent years, in the eyes of some educators, life education is death education, and death education is the education of experiencing and watching death, so that students can watch movies full of blood and horror. Indeed, if you don't know death, you can't know life. However, death education is not terror education. What's the use of extreme death education besides leaving a psychological shadow on children? Real life education includes a series of systematic knowledge such as the knowledge of death, the prevention of danger, the perception of life and the cultivation of self-esteem. Our education is not unknown, but the question is, under the background of utilitarian education, who can hold their breath to develop such a set of courses, and which school is willing to occupy the space of exam-oriented education to attend such a set of courses?

-Excerpted from Tencent. com "

Strict school rules lack respect for students. Why do schools need to make school rules? Most basically, this is to ensure the normal order of the school. At a higher level, it can help cultivate civic awareness and let children know what order is, what rights are, what obligations are and what responsibilities are. This is very similar to the law. The lowest purpose of law is order, and the highest purpose is freedom. Therefore, a good school regulation is the best example of civic awareness enlightenment, and the premise of a good school regulation must be humanistic and must respect students' basic rights. On the other hand, what else does our current school rules have besides compulsory, compulsory and re-compulsory? Without rights, how can we talk about respect? After all, any system should be people-oriented, not people-oriented.

-Excerpt from International Online

Focus and link

When does the juvenile concentration camp close?

1996, a man named Xu Xiangyang founded the first selective poverty education school in China. Later, people found that this industry was really "stupid and rich" and came quickly. This is because most of the children sent are rich, and they can afford the starting price. Although the course introduction boasts the all-round development of "moral, intellectual, physical and artistic work", it is essentially nothing more than two words-"punishment".

20/kloc-February, according to Zhejiang Online, a group of problem of juvenile who were rebellious in the eyes of their parents were sent to Zhejiang Youth Behavior Correction Training and Education Reception Center. Originally, I hoped that children could correct their shortcomings and re-establish correct values in a special educational environment. Unexpectedly, they fell into the "magic cave". Here, these children from Yiwu, Ningbo, Quzhou and other places not only have to receive "devil-like" physical training, but also suffer inhuman treatment such as electric batons, cold water splashing on their bodies, standing on the wall, doing child labor, licking stools and even sexual assault.

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What "stick education" lacks is the basic respect for people, and people are not treated as people. To solve this problem from the root, what is needed is real love for people and respect for human nature. Therefore, the essence of "stick education" is slavery education. Is it better to be a slave who studies hard or an upright person who stands up independently? If you don't envy independence, why do many people envy Jiang Wen's phrase "stand up and earn money"?

When are the school rules in Ren Lei?

On March 28th, 20 12, Hangzhou Changhe Senior High School held a class meeting for Grade Two. At the meeting, several regulations were formulated: "The distance between boys and girls should not be less than 50 cm at ordinary times", "Boys and girls should not eat at the same table", "Boys and girls should not appear on campus alone in pairs", "No swimming and eating on campus" and "No watching Hunan Satellite TV on weekends" ...

In order to make boys more like men and girls more like women, Zhengzhou No.18 Middle School tried out new school rules in February 20 12. Article 28 "Masculine boy" criteria: respect girls' normal communication, no nagging, no scolding, no trouble, courage and firmness, no fear of setbacks, hero worship, steady mental health, clear sense of justice in love and hate, healthy and elegant life, courtesy to people, no rudeness, no strange hair, no fancy clothes, etc. The 20 standards of "Xiuhui Girl" are: self-esteem, self-love, honesty and incorruptibility, correct and moderate heterosexual communication, striving to be a lady with excellent moral character and profound knowledge, not chasing or scolding boys, being careless with others, not being vain, ashamed to speak, dignified in manners, self-reliant, competitive and so on. And named 22 "masculine boys" and 22 "Xiuhui girls".

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The shaping of children's values, outlook on life and world outlook needs the guidance of schools, parents and society, but we can't make many daunting rules in the name of education or love. Every life is unique and cannot be copied. Educators can't stifle children's dreams and desires in order to "manage" children, so as to turn children into robots without desires.

Free and open German primary schools

Don't wear school uniforms at school. On the German campus, children wear colorful clothes, because the school never requires them to wear school uniforms, and there is no uniform school uniform at all. The purpose is to reflect the development of "personality" and let children develop "personality" from an early age and play "personality".

Self-study classes are like markets. In German classrooms, children's self-study classes are absolutely free. Reading, listening to MP3, playing video games, drawing, eating fruit, studying toy drawings … really go our separate ways and have fun! Not only are self-study classes like this, but ordinary classes are also relatively "free". In class, children can choose their sitting posture at will, and the school actually encourages students to chew gum in class to "concentrate, improve cognitive ability and relax stress".

Students grade themselves. In Germany, after the exam, the teacher never corrects the test paper, but gives it to the students themselves. The teacher explained them in front, and the students marked the following correct answers on their papers. Why is the teacher so assured of his students? Because in the eyes of German students, "deceiving yourself" is the most shameful behavior, so there will never be a phenomenon of "false marks". This grading method can not only help children develop honest character and habits from an early age, but also further consolidate basic knowledge.

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From kindergarten teachers teaching children to be disciplined and sit upright in class, to graduate enrollment still taking scores as the final standard, and then we are getting farther and farther away from the Nobel Prize, we really should calm down and think. What killed the nature of children in China? What killed China children's sense of innovation? Education, perhaps only by giving children freedom from childhood and keeping them away from some red tape, can ignite the spark of innovation!

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"Students refuse to cut their hair short and jump off a building": How to reflect on our current education?

/kloc-Li Xinyue, a 0/4-year-old girl from Class 1, Grade 8, Shengli No.1 Middle School in Dongying City, Shandong Province, jumped off the fifth floor of her home because she didn't want to cut her hair short as required by the school. After being rescued, she left her parents, relatives, teachers and classmates who loved her forever.

A teenage girl ended her young life like this. In addition to regret, some people complain that the school rules are too harsh, some people question that the family is too fond of it, and some people think that the child's will is extremely fragile. It seems that all parties are responsible, but it seems that there is not much fault. Learn from a painful experience, what kind of alarm has this kind of incident sounded to us?

With regard to this kind of tragedy, we often dwell too much on the fuse of the incident, while ignoring the fundamental cause of the tragedy-the mental health of teenagers. Parents and teachers will pay attention to and take care of children with headaches and brain fever. Children's psychological extremes, even extreme emotions, are often ignored and can't get timely psychological counseling or psychological help.

Almost every school can find an office with a sign of "psychological counseling room", but if you look closely, you will find that there are many doors here all the year round. Why is the "psychological counseling room" almost unattended? Because in our concept of China people, "mental unhealthy" is roughly equal to "mental derangement". Therefore, for fear of being laughed at, students will basically not consult, and schools will not care too much about the consultation room, because few people patronize it. Over time, the "psychological counseling room" has become the decoration for the school to cope with the superior inspection.

In view of the current lack of adolescent mental health education, I think it is advisable to remedy it from the following three aspects:

First, increase publicity, create a good social environment atmosphere for seeing a psychologist in time if there are psychological problems, and regard "psychological consultation" as a routine for ordinary people. In fact, in western developed countries, seeing a psychiatrist is as common as seeing a cold. Cui Yongyuan, a beloved CCTV celebrity, admitted that he suffered from "depression", but this did not affect his image in people's minds at all.

Second, vigorously carry out revolutionary tradition education. At present, some children can't get over it when they encounter some setbacks or trivial things, which is inseparable from not receiving revolutionary traditional education at ordinary times. It is very helpful to tell stories similar to the hard struggle of the Red Army in the Long March to climb the snow-capped mountains and cross the grassland, which will improve the psychological will of young people.

Third, guide children to read more inspirational books. Knowing more about the inspirational stories of celebrities is an effective way to enhance the spirit of self-improvement. For example, the true story introduced in the book "Good Education Lights Life": Nick Gisich, an Australian, was born without limbs, but he bravely faced his physical disability and created a miracle of life. Isn't this spirit of cherishing life, loving life and being grateful for self-improvement worth learning from young friends?

Hidden dangers are more dangerous than open flames, and prevention is better than disaster relief. Only by taking practical actions, doing a good job in psychological health education for teenagers and helping them to establish a healthy psychology of cherishing life, being strong and brave, and being grateful and self-reliant, can we prevent such a tragedy from happening at the source.

(Excerpted from People's Daily Online)

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Although everyone has a different understanding of school rules, I hope that when making school rules, the school should be as humane as possible and less mandatory. Parents should also understand that beating and cursing blindly is not a desirable way to educate their children. Pay more attention to caring for children, communicate with them more, and understand what children really need. Therefore, it is not empty talk to give children more respect. Don't despise their wishes just because they are young. Schools, teachers and parents should kneel down with a smile, look directly into the children's eyes and talk to them attentively. If children really have such channels of expression, then it is just around the corner to solve their psychological problems.

Focus and application

Read the following materials and write as required.

The little girl caught a beautiful bird and showed it to her grandmother. Grandma said, "Baby, do you really like it?" "Of course." "Then let it be." "Why?" "Because it doesn't like cages, life in cages will kill it." Grandmother said sternly, "You should always remember that if you really like something alive, the first thing you should give it is freedom."

Requirements: self-determination, self-selected style, self-made title; Do not copy, not less than 600 words.

Writing instruction

The little girl likes this beautiful bird, but her grandmother said sternly, "If you really like living things, the first thing to give it is freedom." So this question is intended to guide candidates to think about the relationship between life and freedom, and how to love what they love.

Love has a great influence, but we must pay attention to the way. We should think and look at things rationally with mature eyes, and we should not make a series of stupid things in the name of "love" because of prejudice or prejudice.