1. Often violence against children, but also complain that children have a bad temper.
In life, we can often see some parents complain that their children have a bad temper and are too impatient, but they never reflect on whether they often use violence in the process of educating their children. Children are a mirror of parents. They are like their parents, and their temper is greatly influenced by their parents.
2. Never care about children's study, and often accuse children of not studying hard.
The reason why many children are particularly rebellious in adolescence is that parents don't care enough about their children. Some parents not only don't care about their children's study, but also accuse their children of not studying hard when they don't do well in the exam. This unbalanced way of education will make children more disgusted with learning, and sometimes it will worsen the parent-child relationship between them.
3. Often forcibly control children's lives, and complain that children have no ideas of their own.
Some of our parents have strong personalities and like to listen to everything by themselves, so does family education. In the early days of family education, children are always used to listening to their own opinions and are not allowed to have opinions contrary to their own. Over time, the child's personality will become particularly timid, opinionated and completely independent.
There is an old saying: if you give it, you will get it, and if you give it, you will get it. In other words, if you set a superior goal, you will get an intermediate result, and if you set an intermediate goal, you will get a subordinate result. If we can set higher learning goals, we will get better results.
Seven criteria for successful parents: First, high moral character, healthy personality, and setting an example.
Second, clear goals, firm beliefs, perseverance and patience.
Third, study hard, keep making progress, be good at communication, and convince people by reasoning.
Fourth, match words with deeds, keep promises, temper justice with mercy, and distinguish rewards and punishments.
Fifth, broad-minded, calm, careful and diligent.
Sixth, develop in an all-round way, break through individuality, care for and create harmony.
There are no perfect people in the world!
What successful parents have in common: family members have enterprising spirit and noble moral sentiments, family members have harmonious relationships and strong learning atmosphere, parents and children have good educational methods and attitudes, hardworking and thrifty lifestyles and optimistic attitudes, and a clean and tidy family environment, all of which our parents try their best to provide for their children.
In fact, parents and children can't rely on only one emotion to educate. Without professional knowledge and skills, they can't play the role of lifelong teachers for children! From the beginning of life, parents need to give their children sufficient psychological nutrition-unconditional love and acceptance, sense of security, sense of belonging ... This is the root of their life and the source of their growth.
It is suggested that young parents must strive to be a coach-type parent who integrates knowledge and practice, learn and strive to give their children full acceptance, trust, love and support, and become their lifelong friends. Really realize what a successful family education is, find the right family education method and avoid detours.
So, what is family education? The most important task of family education is to respect the law of children's natural growth, cultivate children's sound personality, let children know themselves, and then tap their potential, not to be eager for quick success, not to be encouraged. Parents should cultivate their children's various life and survival abilities from an early age, such as doing their own things, expressing themselves independently, sympathizing, asking for help from their peers, controlling their emotions, and interacting with their peers. Instead of just focusing on children's grades.
No one can succeed casually. Success and achievement must be accumulated, with a solid foundation and diligent planning. To help children lay the foundation, the most critical education period is their infancy and childhood. Parents should give their children correct guidance and scientific education, give full play to their natural advantages, and thus lead their children to the road of success and happiness in the future.
In a word, family education is the self-management and self-growth of parents, not the restraint and punishment of children. As parents, don't always say that children are our future, and we are our children's future. Therefore, from today on, please learn to be the best you can be, make yourself the pride of children, get the "parental qualification certificate", experience the happiness of getting along well with children, and make education no longer a headache.