Where are disobedient children sent for education? Shaanxi Guanmei Youth Life Experience Center-Professional Education Where are rebellious teenagers and disobedient children sent for education? Children are rebellious? Disobedient? Where to send him for education? Every parent wants his son to be a dragon and his daughter to be a phoenix. When children are disobedient, parents often use punishment to control their children, which seems to be something we are used to when raising children. But once this habit is formed and used for a long time, parents and children will pay a considerable price in the parent-child relationship. If adults often talk to children in angry and high-pitched voices for a long time, children will get used to adults' "yelling". If adults don't raise their voices and shout repeatedly in the future, it will be difficult for children to accept instructions, and once children get used to high-profile and rude voices, they will gradually adopt a "disobedient" attitude towards moderate and civilized education methods. ? So is punishment. Bad or frequent punishment will only make children feel pain, discomfort or suppressed will, and it is difficult to help children realize their mistakes and be willing to cooperate sincerely. When children are disobedient, Shaanxi Guanmei education experts point out the following gentle methods for parents' reference. (1) Explain the code of conduct to children. Sometimes children are disobedient and don't cooperate with adults because they don't understand or forget the rules of conduct. Remind the child again, which can make the child understand and understand, but pay attention to the expression and tone of the child when reminding the child. Don't shout. Explain or ask the child in a firm and gentle voice: "Remember? Whispering in a crowded place does not hinder others. " "Remember we are going to buy a present for grandma today. We won't buy anything else! " When explaining the rules to children, adults should avoid assuming that children are disobedient, such as "You have to say it hundreds of times before you will be obedient!" "This will make children more willful and stubborn. (2) Take the children or adults around you as an example. Although young children know the instructions and rules of adults, it is difficult to decide what to do. When they don't act or accept instructions, we think children are disobedient. Therefore, while letting children know the rules of action, they should also give him suggestions on how to do it, such as how to put books, how to collect toys, how to sit and how to say things. In addition to language, adults can also demonstrate to children, let them understand specific practices, use children's imitation to correct him or guide him, or hint to children: "Look! You can "be as quiet as that child" as that uncle did, tell the child specific goals and guide him to change his original bad behavior. (3) Reward and praise good behavior When children are disobedient, it is often to attract the attention of adults (the needs are not met). Therefore, children often use resistance (deliberately disobedient) or other disobedient ways (shouting) to make adults satisfy his wishes. For children's bad behavior, parents should first be calm and calm. A good way is to leave their children alone for a while until such nonsense stops or their attitude improves. This is a way to weaken bad behavior and let children know their parents' attitude by not responding to bad behavior. But what adults should actively do is to praise and reward good behavior, so that children can distinguish between good and bad, tolerance and prohibition. Therefore, when a child is disobedient, you can use praise to divert his behavior: "I remember that you are an enthusiastic child and you helped me last time ..." When rewarding and praising a child, you can let the child know his behavior in detail, instead of just praising the child: "You are great!" "That's very kind of you!" Instead, choose some benign sentences, such as "you are generous", "you are polite" and "you are enthusiastic" to make children's behavior more concrete.