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Source: Xinhuanet

Data Map: Zhongguancun No.2 Primary School

Original title: Beijing Zhongguancun No.2 Primary School: The students involved are not enough to constitute a "school bullying"

Xinhua Viewpoint official Weibo 12 13 News Recently, the "bullying incident in Zhongguancun, Beijing" has aroused public concern. In this regard, Zhongguancun No.2 Primary School disclosed the investigation to Xinhua News Agency in the early morning of 13, which was identified as an "accidental incident", which was not enough to determine that the students involved constituted "bullying" or "violence" on campus. At the same time, the school said, "I deeply blame myself for the incident and apologize for the harm caused to students and parents." I will learn from it and handle it properly in the principle of seriousness, rationality, objectivity and fairness. (Xinhua News Agency reporter Wei, Liang)

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Earlier report: The truth of the "Zhongguancun Second Small Incident" in Beijing remains a mystery.

The campus incident in Zhongguancun, Beijing, recently exploded the circle of friends. Some parents said that their children were "bullied" by classmates and complained that the school did not handle it properly. Another "parent" posted on the Internet that everything happened for a reason. Parents should not only let their children take advantage, but also should not use public opinion to exert pressure.

The school responded on 10 that this was just "an incident between students and parents". The response not only failed to calm the situation, but also aroused a bigger storm of public opinion. In the eyes of many parents, Zhongguancun No.2 Primary School is a famous school in Haidian District, Beijing. How to deal with the famous school "school bullying" incident has aroused the concern and thinking of all parties.

On June 5438+0 1, Weibo, an official of Beijing Municipal Education Commission, quoted the relevant person in charge as saying that children are the future of the family, the future of the country and the nation. Children's physical and mental health is not only what parents expect, but also the top priority of the education administrative department.

Media investigation

The mother wrote that her son was humiliated at school.

Insomnia and irritability "acute emergency response"

Last weekend, an article entitled "Every mother and son are friends of life and death, I will accompany him to say no to school bullying" was widely spread in the circle of friends. The author claims that she is a mother and her son is a student of Zhongguancun No.2 Primary School. She just turned 10 years old and was bullied by her classmates at school, who used the "toilet garbage basket to buckle her head". After listening to the child's crying, she immediately called the class teacher for treatment, and said that after the incident, the child developed symptoms such as insomnia, irritability and fear of going to school, and was diagnosed as an acute emergency response. But parents failed to communicate with the school. Parents said that "the teacher described this as an' excessive joke', which made us roll with the punches and we couldn't accept it."

After this incident caused a heated discussion on the Internet, Zhongguancun No.2 Primary School issued a statement on 10: "Recently, an incident happened between three middle school students and their parents in our school, which aroused social concern. Since its establishment, the school has been actively trying to handle the related demands and contradictions and disputes between several parents objectively and fairly ... In addition, in view of the recent false statements about our school and related events on the Internet, our school will reserve the right to safeguard the reputation of students and schools through legal channels and investigate the responsibilities of relevant subjects. "

After Xinhua News Agency and People's Daily intervened in the investigation, the incident quickly boarded the Internet hot search. However, after the hot news appeared in 1 1, the incident ushered in a general reversal.

Event reversal

Some parents said that the poster exaggerated the facts.

"Mom is a screenwriter and is good at making up stories."

With the further fermentation of the incident, some different voices appeared on the Internet. Some netizens said that "things are not as described in the article at all, and there will be a reversal!"

Later, other "parents" sent a circle of friends saying that there was a reason for this, suggesting that the two sides had bad behavior with each other. The article said that it was just a fight between children in class, not a real bullying. It is also said that some parents only let their children take advantage. According to the article, the parents of the "bullied" students who posted posts "exaggerated the facts and used the topic", and some even posted that "they entered the school through finding relationships" and "their mothers are good at making up stories".

In a short weekend, the matter continued to ferment, and the original post was continuously forwarded by many official WeChat accounts and Weibo accounts, which triggered a hot discussion among netizens and various analysis articles emerged one after another.

Judging from the various "voices" of parents and schools, "recess exercises" do exist. How long has the "farce" between students in this school existed, how much is the "farce" and how much harm has it caused to students? There is no positive response in Zhongguancun. At the same time, more voices on the Internet commented that the voice of Zhongguancun No.2 Primary School was too bureaucratic, unable to communicate with parents on an equal footing, and even rose to an indifferent attitude.

Netizens questioned

What is the truth? Why is the school reply so indifferent?

The truth is unknown, but the online debate has heated up, with more than 36,000 comments on the original post alone.

Combing some WeChat official account news, some netizens said: "This is a matter between children and should be solved by children themselves. Parents come forward to complicate things. "

Some netizens think that parents should stand up. "When children are bullied and hurt, if parents don't stand up for the first time, then children will lose their sense of security and trust in their parents in the future." Some netizens think, "If I were the mother of a violent child, I would apologize immediately, try to solve the problem as soon as possible, and educate the child at the same time."

Some netizens believe that "we must stick to the end and safeguard the legitimate rights and interests of children." A netizen named "Zhang" said: "We must stick to it. Our parents are the last harbor for our children!" Some netizens believe that this mother must have no complaints, so she will use the Internet to "fight".

A netizen named Zifan said, "As a mother, haven't you ever taught your children to resist when they are bullied? I don't resist being bullied like this, and I dare not even tell the teacher. This long-term accumulation will cause children to form psychological problems. "

More netizens questioned the school's practice.

In the process of negotiating with the school, the mother who posted the post said that she was "attacked by the relevant leaders of the school and shouted loudly." Some netizens think: "The most terrible thing is not the behavior between children, but the attitude of the school."

Some netizens also expressed dissatisfaction with the school's statement: "This is a problem that happened in a' prestigious school' and concerns the vital interests of students. However, behind the school's practices, it exudes a strong breath of power, revealing detachment and arrogance."

Some netizens also think: "Schools should solve the problem as soon as possible, and should seriously understand the truth and treat it objectively!"

After the incident, the Xinhua News Agency reporter contacted the parents of both parties involved. The father of the "bullied" student said on 10 that the incident has not been properly resolved, and the child's mood is still unstable and he has not returned to school. "We need more time to focus on our children and adjust our emotions now, so that we can better face our children and lead them out of the predicament."

"Children are the future of the family and the future of the country and the nation. Children's physical and mental health is not only what parents expect, but also the top priority of the education administrative department, "said the head of the Beijing Municipal Education Commission 10 in an interview with reporters. The capital education system will attach great importance to and take the initiative to work for the physical and mental health of children from the perspective of everyone. Find problems, take them seriously and handle them properly. "

The Beijing Municipal Education Commission also called for attention to the health of every child in the incident, especially the psychological health counseling. Every adult who cares about children's physical and mental health should educate the children around him and not do anything that infringes on others.

The father of the child

"I regret that I didn't stand up to protect my son."

The child's father, Mr. Wang, told the reporter that since September this year, his son Lele (a pseudonym) began to frequently report to him that he was often attacked and harassed by a classmate in the same class and was nicknamed; Lele can avoid after class, but it is often harassed in class because the seats are together, which greatly interferes with class.

Lele talked about this matter many times, which made Mr. Wang gradually realize the seriousness of the matter. Teacher Wang took the initiative to communicate with the class teacher and the other parents. He once told his parents that Lele didn't like this kind of physical contact, including the so-called jokes and nicknames of the other party. "The nicknames mentioned by my children are insults and satire."

"The teacher said that he knew and wanted to know about it, but it didn't achieve good results. When I send my child to school every day, I can feel that he is helpless, but when I go home at night, I say that XXX harassed him. " Mr. Wang said that he later asked the school and hoped that the class teacher would open seats for two people. "The teacher said the effect is much better. After a short time, Lele didn't say that the class was disturbed. "

However, ten days after the seat was transferred, Lele was detained in the toilet garbage basket. "What I regret most is that when the child told me for the first time that he was violated, I didn't choose to stand up and protect him, but wanted him to solve the matter himself and let him avoid them."

"Children are more resistant to me now." Mr. Wang said that on the evening of the 9 th, the child suddenly burst into tears and trembled all over for more than 20 minutes. They can't help it, and the children won't let him near. Finally, he slowly calmed down in his mother's arms. "Only when he is really ready can we let him go to school."

Regarding the statement of Zhongguancun No.2 Primary School calling on the society to return the education problem to the school, Mr. Wang said that he was responsible for his words. His demands were: "Deal with and punish the violent children", "Protect my son from secondary injury", "Let the parents of the perpetrators apologize" and "The other party should bear the corresponding treatment expenses".

Experts say

Similar campus events cannot be regarded as simple "pranks"

The reporter noted that in May this year, the State Council issued the Notice on Special Governance in school bullying. April to July is the stage of self-examination and management for primary and secondary schools (including secondary vocational schools), and September to 65438+February is the stage of special supervision. On June 5438+065438+ 10, the Ministry of Education and other nine departments jointly issued the "Guiding Opinions on the Prevention and Control of Bullying and Violence among Primary and Secondary School Students", demanding that bullying and violence among students be prevented through education, punished according to law and comprehensively treated.

According to the statistics of the Ministry of Education, from May to August this year, 68 incidents in school bullying were reported. This time, the second small incident in Zhongguancun "exploded the circle of friends", which once again touched the long-term pain point of society.

Huang Zifang, a national second-level psychological counselor and a famous child and adolescent psychologist in Dalian, believes that "as a school, we must never treat similar campus events as simple' pranks', find out the root of the problem in time, and guide children to cultivate a stable way of thinking and code of conduct."

Huang Zifang believes that under the current educational model, most parents and schools put their children's academic performance first, ignoring the cultivation of mental health and sound personality. This incident has brought many inspirations to all parties. Parents should attach importance to family education. "We should attach importance to learning, and pay more attention to the cultivation of children's moral and mental health. Children should be encouraged to actively communicate with parents and schools so that children can grow up confidently, optimistically and happily. "

What is the truth of this matter? In the face of netizens' doubts, what are the answers of parents and schools of students suspected of bullying their classmates? Since the morning of 10, Xinhua News Agency and other media reporters have been in contact with Zhongguancun No.2 Primary School. As of 1 1, the parents of students suspected of bullying their classmates and the teachers in charge of moral education in the school have not given any reply to reporters.

Comment immediately

Governing "school bullying" must not be "mixed with mud"

Jiang jingjing

The "school bullying" incident in Zhongguancun No.2 Middle School is still fermenting, and the school bullying phenomenon has once again returned to public view and caused extensive discussion. In fact, this is a commonplace topic. Compared with the indifference of the whole society to such things at the beginning, public anger and rebound have become mainstream emotions. This change actually shows that with the awakening of people's awareness of rights, the reality faced by "school bullying" has undergone great changes.

The school bullying incident is largely related to improper education. On the one hand, the existing school education is extremely lacking in personality education and humanities education, and even if relevant courses are offered, they are often just a formality; On the other hand, many schools don't teach students enough skills of self-protection, which objectively increases the probability and harmful consequences of bullying ... Emphasizing the inculcation of subject knowledge while ignoring emotional counseling and personality guidance, as well as the natural remoteness of school education model, which greatly aggravates the consequences of school bullying.

It should be said that school bullying is a special kind of violence. However, for a long time in the past, school administrators did not realize the seriousness of this problem and only treated it as a "student dispute". Under this cognitive premise, most schools have not established a special mechanism for bullying prevention, intervention and emergency response. As a result, the lack of normalization prevention directly leads to the frequent occurrence of extremely bad cases. In some campuses, teachers rarely pay enough attention to the complaints of "bullied students", and those "dangerous students" who have been violent for a long time rarely get enough risk assessment and prior intervention. Compared with the prevalence in school bullying, our school has obviously not formed a set of corresponding standardized disposal methods.

Today, after case after case and discussion after discussion, we should find a set of widely applicable experiences and methods to effectively protect children from violence and bullying and govern school bullying. What we fear most is "muddling along". Only by "zero tolerance" for such cases can children grow up healthily and happily.

Excerpt from the online article "Every Mother and Child are Friends of Life and Death";

Today is my son's tenth birthday. It's a big day.

He didn't get up early to go to school with the stars as usual, but slept until the sun shone into his eyes through the gap in the curtain. After getting up, I drove forward a little bit in the Fourth Ring Road. The navigation destination was not the school, but the Sixth Hospital of Beijing Medical University.

After waiting for a long time, I saw the doctor, opened a bunch of checklists, dragged the children upstairs and downstairs in the maze of consulting rooms, and finally got all the report forms before the doctor got off work.

The female doctor looked at me helplessly. She should have left work an hour ago, but when she saw me coming back with a report of moderate anxiety and severe depression, she sat down and wrote down the diagnosis on her medical record: acute stress reaction.

"Don't let the children go to school. Rest at home for a week. It's not that important to learn something. It is good for parents to tutor themselves. Don't mention it again in front of the children. Don't put any pressure on children. You adults have to bear it and solve it. Remember! You can't take the kids to solve it. You must protect him. Hey, which school are you from? " It's my first time to see a doctor, and I've heard so much from the doctor.

"Oh, Zhongguancun No.2 Primary School." I seem to have recovered from my previous life and answered the doctor.

Ten years ago today, I gave birth to my son. Ten years ago today, my son came to me regardless of everything.

Every mother and son tried so hard to meet each other, but I didn't protect him.

Last Thursday, during the break, he went to the bathroom to pee alone, and then two boys in his class followed him. One blocked the door of his compartment and shouted, "xxx, I want to open the door to see your ass!" " "

Because the door lock of that carriage was broken, the son was afraid that the fat man who had been bothering him would rush in. He wants to pee and run out as soon as possible. At this time, another boy dropped a garbage basket from the next car and hit him on the head. Urine and paper wiped with shit splashed all over his face. When the two boys saw this scene, they ran away laughing. ...

He was left alone in the bathroom, and then he began to cry. He said he was so scared that his face was covered with urine. Because many boys are naughty, they often pee in the garbage basket.

When he came home and told me all this, the child was already shaking into a ball. I want to comfort him and take him to the bath. He burst into tears at once and told me that he had washed it in cold water for a long time at school and it was tasteless.

God, when I connected the intermittent phrases he shouted, I realized that he had been bullied on campus, in the boys' toilet in the fourth grade of primary school.

Every mother and son are friends of life and death. No matter how hard it is, the mother will say no to the campus bully with her 10-year-old son!

How to treat "school bullying"?

We should all read the novel Lord of the Flies.

"Ten years ago today, I gave birth to my son in my whole life; Ten years ago today, my son came to me regardless of everything. Every mother and son worked so hard to meet each other, but I didn't protect him. " This kind of writing is for every parent to read. Although the details of the matter are still being verified, school bullying's topic has once again attracted the attention of the society.

The "Second Little Event in Zhongguancun" that blew up the Internet is still fermenting, which reminds people of a novel published by william golding in 1954-Lord of the Flies. This novel tells the story of a group of children living on a desert island, who became very confused due to the lack of guidance from adults and eventually evolved into barbaric primitive people.

Literary and artistic works have always been a reflection of life.

Behind the "Zhongguancun Second Incident", it is reminiscent of a junior high school girl in Lantian County, Shaanxi Province who left home after being framed for "stealing money from other dormitories". Xiao Huang, a 0/6-year-old student from Toyo Middle School in Yongtai County, Fuzhou, was beaten by his classmates and suffered severe spleen bleeding. ...

The frequent occurrence of events in school bullying reveals that the coping and handling abilities of schools, teachers, parents and children are still seriously inadequate. School bullying, it can't be just an "excessive joke".

Facing school bullying, no one is a bystander. Facing up to the problem and solving it is the only way to prevent the delay and let the children grow up healthily in a safe environment.