In life, parents often use material rewards to motivate their children to study hard or complete tasks.
Because material rewards will bring obvious results to parents, parents use material rewards, but in fact, material rewards seem to have quick results, but they do more harm than good to children.
When her daughter, Yu Yu, just entered the kindergarten to have a campus experience, the teachers always took out some thoughtful little stationery or gifts as a reward for the children's excellent performance. Children are usually happy to share small gifts with me. After learning about children's happiness at the beginning, as parents, they unconsciously put material rewards into practice at home.
When my daughter entered primary school and started a formal campus life, she gradually began to bargain with me with her parents' mentality. "If I get full marks, you should buy me a present." At first, I was forced to pay attention to my children's grades, and my daughter's demands were acquiesced. However, with the passage of time, rewards seem to be the motivation for daughters to learn. When learning doesn't pay off, my daughter will even give up learning.
It seems that material rewards can help parents motivate their children better, but as an educational method, material rewards will make children lose their initiative and even start bargaining with their parents. Many parents choose to use material rewards to reward their children for studying hard and being patient and obedient. It seems that material rewards are a perfect way of education, but in fact, long-term use of material rewards to motivate children will only cause hidden dangers to their lives.
Long-term use of material rewards will only bring hidden dangers to children. It changes children's learning purpose and destroys their spirit of seeking truth from facts. For children, the fundamental motivation for learning comes from the desire for knowledge and the attitude of seeking truth from facts. When material rewards are used as bait for children to learn, children's attitude towards learning begins to change gradually, and learning becomes a utilitarian task. Children begin to lack the spirit of seeking truth from facts and regard learning as a means to complete tasks. Parents' long-term use of material rewards will only make children's attitude towards learning more utilitarian, even ambitious and unrealistic.
Children who have lost the initiative to use material rewards for a long time encourage their parents to complete their tasks or study hard, which will only make parents gradually lose their initiative in the process of material rewards. Parents use rewards to encourage their children to study hard and listen carefully, but in the end they may become children who use their parents' wishes to blackmail their parents and rely on rewards to complete their tasks. In the end, parents will gradually lose the initiative under the threat of children, and even be used by children.
Material rewards will only make children more utilitarian and even more greedy. Children are always curious about new things in life. Brand-new electronic products, even game equipment they have never owned, will attract their attention. When parents use material rewards to ask their children to complete certain tasks, children may form a wrong view of money and think that everything can be achieved through money. The child's desire will gradually expand under the reward of parents, and even go astray.
Learning and doing housework, as a child's own task, originally did not need any reward. However, in order to urge children to complete tasks that lack interest as much as possible, most parents choose to motivate their children by material means. After a long time, children will regard their tasks as requirements for completing material rewards. In fact, in the process of educating children, parents should use material rewards carefully. Second, how should parents motivate their children 1. Parents should set an example for their children. In the process of educating children, parents should start from themselves and provide a good example for their children. In addition, when children are in a learning state, parents should try to reduce entertainment activities, and parents should try to avoid contact with electronic products or even play games. Otherwise, children will question their parents, thus reducing their motivation to learn. Therefore, parents should spend as much time with their children as possible, study with them and help them develop good study habits. 2. Increase interaction with children In the process of educating children, parents should be able to increase interaction with their children, and parents can share the joys and sorrows of the day with their children through fixed activity time. Through family interaction, parents can establish a good parent-child relationship with their children, understand their bright spots and problems, and help them return to their own behavior. 3. Give children spiritual rewards as much as possible and reduce unnecessary material rewards. According to the research of American psychologists, it is children who really inspire children to move forward, and the internal driving force is the encouragement and support of parents. When children make progress, parents may wish to give spiritual rewards and praise as much as possible, so that children can establish self-awareness. What can really help children realize their self-worth is spiritual encouragement from their parents and elders, not material rewards. Children are the fruits of parents' life. Parents should constantly learn to change themselves in the process of educating their children and help them know themselves, rather than simply encouraging them through material rewards.