My parents usually take a shower together and wash each other's underwear. Never avoid each other when changing clothes. In my family, my mother can change clothes anywhere, but my father can't ... Of course, my mother helped me wash my underwear when I was a child. But through these words and deeds, they told me that it is normal for couples to have no privacy. Later, my grandfather got colon cancer, which was his two daughters. My mother and I, menstruating, help him urinate and wipe his body. My mother told me that if my father or husband is like this one day, it is normal to do such a thing as a close relative.
Because the sex education I have been exposed to since I was a child is so open and calm that I have no shame when I face sex. I watched the unedited version of Lust, Caution for the first time in junior high school. I know all the positions of XO in it. Curious about what's inside. Later, I saw a book on female psychology bought by my mother on my parents' bookshelf, and some of it was devoted to sexual psychology and matters needing attention in husband and wife's life. I finished reading this book very hungry. . Suddenly enlightened. In this way, I was only 14 years old and basically had no secrets about sex. Later, I was ashamed and told my parents these things. I didn't expect them to be surprised and angry after listening. Instead, he told me calmly: "Every life comes like that, and husband and wife have X lives after marriage."
I said, "Will you enjoy X alive?" Mom said: "Of course, this is determined by the physiological structure. But when the work is too busy, I don't think about it. "
Then they suddenly asked me, "So have you learned Wei Zi now?" I answered seriously, "That's harmful to my health. I won't try. " Mother said: "it is normal to have such an idea if you are impulsive." You are in adolescence. " In such a calm question and answer, those "difficult" topics suddenly seem unremarkable.
Later, my parents told me that even if I went to the movies to learn about sex, there was nothing shameful. It's better to say it openly than to take a detour in your heart.
In high school, I was introverted. My parents took the initiative to say to me, "We know you won't fall in love early, but we want you to associate with boys. Boys have some advantages that girls don't have. " Later, I met a primary school classmate on the bus, who was a boy. We had a good chat all the way. Later, when I arrived at the station, he offered to visit my house. I called my mother first with doubts to explain the situation. I didn't expect her to say enthusiastically over there, "Of course, you can also invite him to dinner." Later, the boy chatted at my house for a while and repaired the computer by the way. There's nothing else behind. From then on, I felt that it was nothing to associate with boys and take them home. No different from girls.
Later, my mother's high school heterosexual friends sometimes invited him to dinner and even came to my house as a guest. My father said nothing. He even volunteered to tell me, "It's good to have a boyfriend. You can be friends even if you don't get married. You can still help when it's critical. So don't think about other places just because the other person is a boy. " Later, my father's classmates got together and drank with female classmates until late at night. That's what my mother told me. They didn't have any doubts because the other party had friends of the opposite sex.
I read some romance novels some time ago, and my mother even asked me which one I liked, so she bought it for me. In her opinion, it is normal for adolescent girls to love reading such books. Later, when I was a sophomore, I had a boy deskmate, and the relationship was quite good. When my parents found out, they even congratulated me on having a friend of the opposite sex and asked me to invite him to play at home.
The reason why my parents are open to me in sex education is because I have been conservative and lonely since I was a child. Even though I have known a lot about love since I was a child, I have never been interested in this aspect. Later, after experiencing romance novels, even calcium tablets and ivy, I still firmly believed that I was asexual. The open sex education I have experienced since childhood only makes me more calm about sex, but I know I don't want these and I don't yearn for love.
Now I see many parents earnestly hope that their children will not only understand sexual knowledge, but also be afraid of learning badly. When I saw on the Internet that some children suppressed themselves because of sexual impulse, they secretly Wei Zi. Even the books on the Internet specially for adolescent boys and girls have promoted sex education between men and women to a time of different temperaments and even different social roles. I feel deeply sad and grateful. I'm glad that my parents' sex education, which was open to me since I was a child, made me understand everything, and I can also accept those sexual concepts that other parents regard as "a scourge".
I am also glad that I didn't take a detour because I knew about it too early, but I just felt "very ordinary". Sadly, many parents and even experts put sex education online and divide it into gender and age groups. Stop children from accepting normal love and suppress their sexual instinct without correct guidance. Those children who go to Wei Zi with shame and even commit crimes are distorted by the demonized "sex education" just because their normal desires are not satisfied.