1999, Wang Donghua published his 800,000-word educational monograph "Finding Mothers" which lasted for six years, systematically expounded his 10 great discovery of mother education for the first time, and called on the whole society to re-recognize the value of mothers. Once the book was published, it set off a strong wave in the book market and social ideological trend, and hundreds of millions of pairs of eyes turned to mother education, thus historically turning a new page in mother education. 10 found that:
The first discovery: most people's brains are blank at birth, will continue to form after birth, and will be born for the second time, that is, under the stimulation of various external information, people's brains can finally become smart and perfect. Early external information stimulation is not only of great significance to the perfection of human brain, but also has great impetus to the development of animal brain with less plasticity.
The second discovery: Wang Donghua believed that people were born three years premature and gradually separated after the age of three. There is a mirror image period in the first three years of life, and the child's brain absorbs everything he feels like a sponge. The child's first three years are not without memory. On the contrary, it is these memories that form the foundation of human life. People have an intellectual instinct that is more important than sexual instinct. Unlike sexual instinct, it developed several years ago. Once missed, the intellectual instinct will rapidly decrease and shrink. Therefore, a baby's year is by no means an ordinary year, and a child's year is equal to ten years. At the same time, Wang Donghua also reminded mothers that the first three years of children's intelligence development is the best period, but the mother's behavior has a greater impact on children. Don't just focus on children's intelligence and ignore the cultivation of children's behavior paradigm, which is much more important than intelligence.
The third discovery: Wang Donghua believes that the younger the child, the greater the role of the mother. The baby is connected with its mother at birth, so it has an ectopic pregnancy. The importance of breast-feeding lies not only in the nutritional supply of the body, but also in the close relationship between the skin and the heart. Through ectopic pregnancy, children and mothers have telepathy and form Oedipus complex. Oedipus complex is not a sexual complex, but a psychological complex. The powerful Oedipus complex finally produces psychological support, which is the origin of religion and belief. Wang Donghua reminded his mother that breast-feeding is a kind of mother-infant conjoined breast belt instead of umbilical cord, which is extremely important for children's spiritual development. Breastfeeding is a soft landing for the mother's physical recovery. It is best for the mother to raise the child herself, otherwise it is easy to have a psychological mixed-race between the biological stepmother and the child.
The fourth discovery: Wang Donghua believes that human growth consists of four main aspects: intelligence, will, morality and masculinity. Among these four things, the first is spirit, and the second is morality, which determines the correct direction of spirit and provides strong social support for the realization of spirit; The third is will, which provides individual non-intellectual support for the realization of masculinity. Finally, intelligence, which only provides instrumental help. Therefore, in the process of human growth, intelligence accounts for only a quarter at best. Wang Donghua reminded his mother that children can have early intellectual education before the age of three, and spiritual education should be given priority to after the age of six, especially children in junior and senior high schools. A better way is to let children read biographies of great men to feel their great minds.
The fifth discovery: Wang Donghua believes that human education has been in trouble at present. The performance of the dilemma is that no matter how good the education is, it can't save the decline of moral level, because the ideas and methods of education have come to an end. In his view, the education emphasized at present is all "explicit education", that is, face-to-face teaching and oral teaching, without paying attention to the more essential and important "potential education". Morality, courage, responsibility, etc. You can't work through the "education" of educators, but you can achieve your goals through the "doing" of educators. In the past, pedagogy was the pedagogy of teaching. The pedagogy after this will be the pedagogy of doing. For this kind of "latent education", Wang Donghua not only pointed out its existence and function, but also analyzed its characteristics in detail, namely habit education and chemistry education. Habitual education refers to behavioral learning, which turns education into spiritual learning, thus forming a new concept of education with current education.
The sixth discovery: Wang Donghua thinks that educating children is the biggest and deepest knowledge in the world, especially in the first few years of children's life. The most essential and important things in his life are given by his mother. This kind of education not only affects children's own life, but also strongly affects the growth of the next generation in the way of social inheritance. No education is more profound and lasting than mother education. Wang Donghua reminded his mother that you may not be a genius, but you can be the mother of a genius. She is the chief designer of children.
The seventh discovery: Mother's work is the most valuable work in our world, the noblest work in this society and the most creative work.
Wang Donghua reminded her mother that every mother who works hard for the healthy growth of her children will get rich love from society and children in the years to come.
The eighth discovery: Compared with father, mother has instinctive superiority in parenting. When children grow up, fathers play an increasingly important role. Father represents the outside world. Male characteristics are suitable for material reproduction, while female characteristics are suitable for population reproduction. The mistake of mankind lies in male centralism, which makes women give up parenting and engage in material reproduction that they are not good at. Wang Donghua reminded mothers and society that modern knowledge mothers generally feel too tired, because they give up their childcare responsibilities and then go to the society to find a job. This is a typical putting the cart before the horse.
The ninth discovery: Mother is the primary productive force. Throughout human history, an era of talent competition is an era of higher status of women, and motherhood is an era of attaching importance to children's education. Wang Donghua reminded the society that the hard truth of development is education, basic education, children's education and mothers' education! We must further improve our understanding of education. Education should be the first of all problems.
The tenth discovery: mother and baby must plan, and the parenting project must be an excellent project. Education must start with dolls, but who can catch dolls? It depends on the mother, and the mother can't be divorced from society. Therefore, it must be treated as a systematic project of the whole society. Family planning is nothing more than liberating women and controlling population, while maternal and child planning is to make mothers become mothers. Therefore, Wang Donghua proposed a mother-infant planning project with excellent knowledge, excellent physique, excellent love, excellent marriage, excellent pregnancy to childbirth, excellent parenting, excellent education and excellent environment. Wang Donghua reminded his mother that children are not someone's, children will become citizens of society, and children are the wealth of the whole society, so the whole society should care about children and mothers.
Excerpt from Looking for Mother