Moreover, some parents think that work is too busy, so it is better to send their children to learn some knowledge, cultivate some interests and play with them everywhere. In either case, most parents admit that they are "investing" in their children's education.
However, is this the case? The fact is that on the one hand, children are miserable and lack normal play time, especially outdoor sports time; On the other hand, if children are handed over to training institutions, parents will spend less time with their children and have less opportunities for parent-child interaction. Over time, the two generations are alienated and emotionally alienated.
There is no denying that education needs investment, including time, energy and money. Among all kinds of inputs, emotional input is undoubtedly the most important, and the cultivation of emotion needs long-term companionship.
Many parents put the cart before the horse, thinking that investing a lot of money is a good parent, but ignoring the importance of companionship. How can we achieve truly high-quality "companionship"? Parents need to do the following:
First, ensure the company time.
Time with you is the most basic. Many parents say that they are too busy to spend time with their children. But time is the same for everyone, but time is spent in different places.
Everyone's time value ranking is orderly. If you take your child's growth as the most important thing, no matter how busy you are, you will take time to accompany your child and put other things behind.
The growth of a child is irreversible. Once it is missed, it will be missed forever. No matter how busy you are every day, parents need to spend some time with their children. Parents can take turns to accompany them and let their children feel their love.
Second, ensure the quality of companionship.
Some parents seem to accompany their children every day, but the children are playing with toys and brushing their "friends circle" with their mobile phones. If such companionship is companionship, it is at best an inferior companionship in name only.
The real "companionship" is not "we are together" but that we do our own things, but that we have interaction and growth. This kind of companionship can nourish children's hearts and enrich their spiritual world.
Parents and children can read a book together and even play a role; You can play with toys together, make Lego together, and guide children to give full play to their imagination ... Real companionship must be devoted.
Third, when you are with children, you need to respect them.
Some parents put on airs when accompanying their children, condescending to guide their children how to behave, or scoff at their children's games and let them play carefully.
True companionship requires parents to respect their children, look at the world from their perspective, and cannot force children to give up just because their games are naive.
If you keep suppressing your children while accompanying them, they will gradually lose themselves, think that they are unimportant, and they will also lack their own opinions and obey their parents.
When accompanying children, parents should put down their posture, regard themselves as their children's friends, treat children equally, and sincerely praise their every creativity and practice.
Children who grow up with good parents will develop healthily both physically and mentally. If we regard life as a marathon, such children will undoubtedly run further, so the companionship of parents is the best "investment" in education.