Inferiority is closely related to the pursuit of superiority. People overcome their inferiority by striving for success. Excessive inferiority makes people seek easy compensation or deceptive satisfaction, which is called inferiority complex.
For example, the stuttering phenomenon of 13-year-old boy made him very angry and formed a vicious circle of nervous inferiority. He thought about suicide, and he also thought about impressing people around him, attracting attention and alleviating his inner difficulties. Therefore, he showed friendliness and got along well with others. If a boy loses courage, he won't believe that he will succeed by his own talent and hard work. If they lose their courage, these children will use the claws and acute angles endowed by nature to protect themselves to cope with an unaccustomed life. For example, if they can't control their own urine and urine and are laughed at by their peers, they will show a morbid sense of superiority. In fact, stuttering is a very small psychological problem. He just wants to grab other people's attention and time, and his new tricks attract parents' attention.
On the other hand, he gains the teacher's tolerance, gets the attention of others and stays away from the harm of other children through stuttering. At home, his mother is the only important person, and he is not interested in anyone else.
For the treatment of stuttering children, first of all, we encourage them to believe in their own abilities, their own strength, their own talents and have a sympathetic attitude towards them. Establish a good relationship with them, instead of scaring them severely. Give them physical and mental strength and self-confidence in different ways, let them feel independent, and believe that they can move towards everything in the future through hard work and practice.
The mistake of parents is to make vicious assertions and make their children feel timid. We should encourage children more. As the poet Virgil said, "I can because I believe". For example, a boy who can't swim is laughed at by everyone. If he is timid, he will take risks, which will only strengthen his cowardice of reality.
Cowardice is a personality trait that destroys all relationships. Cowardly people don't think of others, and he will win others' recognition and recognition at all costs. He is an individualist and has a positive attitude towards life. In the end, it will form suspicious, jealous and selfish personality characteristics.
Some children have formed a critical and critical character. If the children who realize the problem will reach a settlement with the environment and life, and finally strive to win the respect of others, the friendly feelings with their peers will not despise others, and even if others do something wrong, they will get lower credits. Such children are not easy to feel inferior and lose the courage to live.
The bounden duty of teachers is to make children full of hope for the future, and education with courage can be successful.
If the adults around the child criticize, the child will rarely be deeply stabbed, but after listening, the child will protect himself by belittling his talent and ability.
We observe the way children solve problems, and they evaluate themselves. If a child is timid, short of money or keeps a certain distance from the problem, such a child is considered lazy and absent-minded, and even teachers and parents think that these children lack ability and talent. In the pursuit of such a false sense of superiority, we will remember that an individual who cares about himself is a freak in life. Such children lack self-confidence and courage, but they are not lacking in ability.
A child has no sense of belonging to the crowd and is far away from the cooperation between people, so it is difficult to find social emotions. So psychologists and writers are most concerned about a person's eyes. He can judge others' opinions according to the way they look at us. Although we may have a wrong understanding, it is easy for us to judge whether there is goodness according to one's eyes.
Children who dare not look adults in the eye have doubts. This doesn't mean that their conscience has gone bad. They have bad habits. Experts believe that inferiority is innate, and family education is extremely important for children's growth and development. For example, if a child is born with organ defects, he will be addicted to himself and think that the world around him is cold and hostile. In addition, a weak child must rely on others to reduce the burden of life and rely on others to take care of him wholeheartedly. In the eyes of ordinary people, we think that most weak and ugly children have a strong sense of inferiority. There are two extreme ways for such a person. First, they are timid and aggressive. They are out of touch and don't talk much, but they all seek approval for others. Their social feelings are very weak. They have no hope for life and are unable to contribute to the world.
The solution is to tell him repeatedly to change his lifestyle. A child should be rich and brave, and be able to compensate himself for everything. The lack of children is due to the wrong development of the overall personality, because the overall personality deviates from the normal state and is in a dilemma.
Children's lack of ability and showing a kind of stupidity and indifference is not a sufficient basis for intelligence. Looking further at psychological inferiority and egocentricity, we can not only trace back to organ loss and physical defects, but also lead them to have nothing to do with these incomplete and complete environments.
Some resentful children use this character to destroy and poison other people's lives. Lack of courage to cope with the environment, trying to make up for powerlessness by bullying the weak or greatly improving friendliness. As long as others accept their control, their friendly attitude will be maintained. Such children often only associate with unfortunate people when they grow up, and such boys are willing to associate with very gentle and obedient girls, not because of the attraction of the opposite sex.
Personal feeling: Inferiority is a manifestation of children's powerlessness. We adults should be patient, encourage him slowly and let the children go on the right path. . .