Facts speak plainer than words. Through concrete examples, let students understand that this haggle over every ounce character is not desirable, which not only affects the other party's emotions and feelings, but also brings serious consequences.
(1) The teacher tells stories to help students distinguish right from wrong. Teachers may use positive and negative examples to guide students to understand that if they encounter something that makes them angry, they must be "theorized", which often leads to some reckless actions and often leads to consequences that outweigh the benefits. On the contrary, if you can calmly handle and "dominate" your emotions, you may get a turn for the better. For example, I often tell my students a story: one day, a mage was about to open the door and go out, but he was knocked down by a burly man, his glasses were smashed and his eyelids were poked green. But the big man who hit people was not ashamed at all and said confidently, "Who told you to wear glasses?" The mage smiled and said nothing. The big fellow asked in surprise, "Hello! Monk, why aren't you angry? " The mage said, "Why do you have to be angry? Anger can neither restore glasses, nor make the bruises on the face disappear, and relieve the pain. Besides, being angry will only enlarge the trouble. If it is swearing at you, or violent fighting, it will definitely cause more karma and bad karma, and it will not resolve things. If I had opened the door a minute earlier or a minute later, I could have avoided a collision. Maybe this collision also resolved a bad relationship. Thank you for helping me eliminate karma? " The big fellow was very moved after hearing this. He asked many questions about the titles of Buddha and mage, and then left with some understanding. After a long time, one day the mage received a registered letter of 5000 yuan, which was sent by the big fellow. It turns out that Han didn't know how to work hard when he was young. After graduation, he was very upset and didn't know how to treat his wife well after marriage. One day, he forgot to take his briefcase at work and went home halfway to get it, only to find his wife talking and laughing with a man at home. He impulsively ran into the kitchen, took a kitchen knife, tried to kill them first, and then committed suicide to end it all. Unexpectedly, when the man turned back in panic, his glasses fell off his face. For an instant, he remembered the teacher's teaching, calmed himself down and reflected on his mistakes. Now his life is very happy and his work is handy. I specially sent 5,000 yuan to thank Master for his kindness. On the other hand, I also asked Master to pray for their karma. The mage's tolerance brought the great man consciousness and taught him to treat others with tolerance.
(2) Let students "speak for themselves", because of the emotional unhappiness caused by impulsiveness and narrowness, or the pain of "revenge", or the surprise obtained after "cold treatment", let them understand that contradictions can be resolved and forgiveness is the source of happiness. Because this kind of equal communication between children can be accepted by children and inspired by them.
(3) the power of example, the role of great men. According to the actual situation, tell students the profound philosophy of stories such as "Apologize with a humble apology" and "Guo Ziyi holds no personal enmity" in time, so that students can understand that having a broad mind is a necessary accomplishment.
Second, create a good environment and improve education methods.
(1) Parents are advised to create a good family environment. It is suggested that parents should not only create a harmonious and relaxed family environment for their children, but also advocate strict and appropriate education methods to guide their children to form a good personality through correct words and deeds.
(2) Teachers should set an example and be good at controlling their emotions. Teachers should show generosity and tolerance in their usual words and deeds, avoid the tendency of haggling over every ounce, and infect students with an open mind and generous attitude of "the prime minister can hold a boat in his stomach" so that students can be influenced by personality charm.
Third, teach methods to let students learn tolerance.
(1) Teach students how to actively resolve contradictions and build a bridge for students to learn tolerance. Many students are thin-skinned. Even if they are aware of their mistakes, they often refuse to admit their mistakes in person for the sake of so-called "self-esteem" and "face", thus causing tension between them. On the one hand, teachers can tell students that admitting mistakes is a brave act; On the other hand, you can also teach students some methods of euphemistic apology, such as writing a note and asking other students to say sorry for you and make a small gift. In this way, through the initiative of the wrong party to admit mistakes, students have created opportunities to learn tolerance.
(2) Suggest that students put themselves in their own shoes and learn to be tolerant. Many contradictions arise because students pay too much attention to their own feelings. They often preset some "rules" in their minds, thinking about what others should and should not do. If the other party violates the rules, it will cause dissatisfaction and even hostility. Through empathy, students can understand that these rules in their minds may not be very reasonable under certain circumstances; Some actions of the other party may be caused by a temporary fever; If you do something wrong, others will always hold grudges, you will suffer, and so on. Make students learn to tolerate others, and learn to tolerate others' shortcomings while accepting others.
(3) Teach students how to adjust their emotions and avoid impulsiveness. Pupils' emotions come and go quickly, often like a storm. When they have friction with their classmates or companions and feel wronged, they often take some radical words and deeds. Therefore, it is very necessary to teach them some ways to adjust their emotions, so that they can dominate their emotions and not be too impulsive. Such as: listening to music to relieve emotions; Leave the scene and divert attention; Keep a diary and talk with long friends; Find a remote place to shout and vent your emotions, etc.
Fourth, create situations to enhance students' tolerance.
"Frustration" can often exercise a person's will, and teachers can create situations that cause students' dissatisfaction and grievances, thus enhancing students' endurance. For example, in group activities, everyone takes turns to be the teaser, and others can tease him in various ways to make the teaser angry. If the scoffer stays calm within three minutes, even if he succeeds, he will be replaced by a scoffer, and so on. This activity allows students to practice in an atmosphere of laughter and abuse, while still maintaining a relaxed mood. If you can have this kind of tolerance, it is not easy to compete with your classmates and even fight. It should be noted that when students are asked to ridicule others in activities, they should respect each other's prices and avoid false ones coming true.
In short, training students to have a broader mind than the sky, as Wei Shusheng said: "From the perspective of tens of thousands of years of human history and tens of thousands of light-years of galaxies, we can see the earth, people, society, life and where we are, so that we can go with the flow and be proactive." Mr. Ma, a well-known democrat, also mentioned in the book "New Curriculum Practice" that it is necessary to strengthen the cultivation of students' minds and horizons and bring them into the educational policy. It can be seen how important it is to cultivate students' broad mind.