Zi Han (a pseudonym) is a handsome boy, with heavy eyebrows and big eyes, talkative, bad hobbies and average grades. Teachers and classmates are all afraid of him.
The new English teacher learned his skills from June+10, 5438. That day, the English teacher asked a question, and Zi Han raised his hand. The teacher looked at the seating chart and said, "Please answer Li Yuhan" (English teacher is nearsighted). Zi Han burst into tears. That guy's heart was broken, and his crying made his ears tremble. The teacher couldn't figure out what was going on. He went down to the podium and asked for a long time, but there was no answer. After persuading for a long time, I still stretched my voice and cried. After 20 minutes, the English teacher was helpless and the monitor was smart. He ran to call the class teacher, who pulled Zihan to the office and cried all the way. The teachers in the noisy office frowned. The head teacher quickly contacted Zi Han's parents and told Zi Han that the new English teacher was crying because his name was wrong.
It turned out that Zi Han had a problem with his leg, and he was very sensitive when he was very young. When he was 1 1 years old, he became suspicious. When classmates are whispering together, they are talking about his legs behind his back. The teacher criticized him for not doing his homework carefully. It was the teacher who discriminated against his legs ... In short, everything in the world might make him unhappy. In the first grade, the teacher told Zi Han's mother: Children are physically disabled, so parents should not have psychological burden. We should raise them as normal children and be strict with them, otherwise the children will have psychological problems. Zi Han's mother doesn't agree with the teacher's point of view. She still tries to be kind to her children, dotes on them, and rolls around at home if she is a little unhappy. Zi Han's father taught his children not to be unreasonable, but his mother stopped him and shouted, "If you want to hit him, kill us both!" " The teachers and classmates in the class tried not to provoke him. The psychology teacher talked to him, but his mother refused. That's great. When something happened, he cried in the classroom and became very good at it. Now he can cry for the whole morning from the 2 minutes of senior one. Zi Han's father is depressed, so he can't educate his children. He can't see any hope. As long as the child cries at home, he will stay away from home for a long time. It is said that he filed for divorce a year ago because the family education did not agree, not for other reasons, and the marriage registration authority refused to approve it.
Comments: This is an extreme case, which reflects the problems existing in family education. The child's physical disability attracts the mother's overprotection, and repeated crying successfully attracts the mother's attention, which leads to the child's extremely sensitive psychological characteristics, and attracts the attention of adults through crying. Over-protection of mothers leads to cracks in family and marriage. While sighing sympathetically, we advised the class teacher to inform parents to take their children to a professional psychological counseling and treatment institution in Wuhan. Otherwise, children will not adapt to society in the future if they have been nursing psychologically.
Liu Dazhi (pseudonym), a sixth-grade freshman, wrote an article in the composition book the day before yesterday, "... I think, what is people living for?" ..... Many people live in a daze, just like walking dead. Living is actually meaningless! "Scared the teacher in charge to talk to Liu Tongxue, ask what this sentence means. Liu Tongxue smiled and said, "Teacher, I write very interesting! "When the teacher asked again, Liu Tongxue just admitted that it was written for fun, and there was no other meaning. The teacher quickly contacted the parents.
It turns out that when Liu Tongxue was five years old, his parents couldn't get along well and divorced. Dad left his six-year-old sister at his grandparents' house and went to Guangdong to work alone. Until the Spring Festival last year, my father brought my newly married young mother home, and the two children were in conflict at home. In September this year, the younger sister of Senior One was faced with the problem of re-selecting courses for the new college entrance examination. She is under a lot of pressure. The head teacher in charge of the high school told Dad Liu, and scared Dad Liu to resign and go home to greet the two children. "Estimated what my elder sister told my brother. They have very deep feelings and talk about everything. " Dad Liu told the sixth grade class teacher.
The head teacher told Dad Liu: This is the composition in recent days. If the younger brother is affected by the psychological pressure of his sister, it means that the psychological pressure of his sister has not been eliminated. Since the beginning of school, several high school students have jumped off buildings, which should attract enough attention! ..... Also, you have been out for 67 years, and your children still can't feel the care of their parents despite the care of their grandparents. Now that you are back, you should spend more time with your children and do your duty as a father! If possible, let the children meet their mother, who will comfort the two children. Liu's father kept nodding, saying that his sister's school psychology teacher was intervening and he was constantly enlightening her.
Comments: How important a complete family is to the healthy growth of children. Liu Dazhi and his sister are left-behind children. Fortunately, the two brothers and sisters are together and have a care. Family changes have left psychological trauma to children, who actually miss their mothers. The pressure of studying in high school left a psychological hidden danger for Sister Liu. If dad Liu fails to decompress his sister psychologically, the consequences will be unimaginable. "Principal, there are 50 children in our class, and 40 are left-behind children. If any child is in a bad mood, I, the class teacher, will talk to the child, relieve the child's troubles, let the child talk to his parents on the mobile phone and comfort the child's mind. That's all I can do, but I'm not their parents after all, and I can't do so much! I only hope that the teachers in our class will pay more attention to the children's emotions, speak softly and don't stimulate them, so that these poor children can graduate happily! " The sixth grade class teacher said.
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Let's summarize three paragraphs about educating people in eastern Hubei:
1. Behind every problem child, there must be a problem family. Our parents, living their own lives, harmonious husband and wife, and creating a warm family environment are fertile soil for children to grow up healthily and happily. Since children are brought into this world, it is our parents' responsibility to create a warm home for them.
2. Never artificially create left-behind children. If possible, parents should take their children to receive education together, no matter how hard and tired they are. Never take the trouble to send your children to private schools and give them to grandparents to create "left-behind children". Grandparents' consciences can't replace their parents, and teachers' consciences can't replace their parents.
Husband and wife must have the same concept when educating their children. Spoiling will only make children psychologically unable to wean, creating children with psychological problems, even children with physical defects should be treated and educated like normal children.