Children in a rebellious period can't listen to criticism, let alone blame. Most children can't stand their parents' violent temper. Many children bluntly said that what I resisted was not the preaching of the matter itself, but the bad temper and bad mood of my parents. The most important thing is to hate parents' condescending and strong attitude!
In the face of parents' criticism and preaching, many children's first reaction is to argue. Later, parents became more severe, and children began to pout and refused to give way to each other. Their parents are getting more and more angry, and their children either shout, "From now on, leave me alone." Some children even pushed their parents out of the door and refused to let them into their rooms, and the cold war began. What should parents do in the face of this situation?
First, parents are adults, at least two years older than their children. They quarreled with their children in their teens until the Cold War, so they had to reflect on their emotional intelligence and family education ability and urgently needed to make up lessons. Parents should first sincerely apologize to their children. Get the child's understanding.
Second, children who have just quarreled and are still in emotional adjustment generally don't want to communicate with their parents for the time being, which is completely understandable. It is necessary to directly state that the child is modest and steady, and let the child choose a time to sit down and communicate.
Third, when the two sides agree to communicate, they must be sincere, and parents should put a low profile and talk to their children on an equal footing.
Fourth, parents should tell the reasons for criticizing their children, let them understand their parents' difficulties, and then let them say what they want to say, including their views on their parents and their heartfelt feelings.
Fifth, sometimes tutoring is also a housework that is difficult for honest officials to decide. There will be something wrong on both sides. Children can repeat the scene at that time, confirm each other, and then the two sides will analyze and communicate.
Finally, take responsibility for each other, make clear who is wrong, and work out the next steps for both sides to deal with such incidents. Moreover, the two sides have agreed that if there is a dispute, communication cannot be refused.
Good family education cannot be achieved overnight. Parents and children need to communicate frequently, talk more and respect their children. There is no fixed teaching method, which is for reference only.