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While the mother is accompanying her children to grow up,

And become a better self.

Mother is the driving force for children to explore the world.

Just like flying a kite, a kite can fly higher as long as it is tied to the string, and mother is the tough kite string.

In the highest education, mothers and children grow up together, accompany each other on the way to growth, and finally meet better themselves.

Many mothers said, "I have forgotten who I am since I became a mother."

Yes, with the passage of time, that delicate girl has gradually become the Iron Lady.

The author of "parents who are not anxious, children who are more free" mentioned:

"A mother's heart is no longer smart, but it is thick and moist. They have a broader vision and see a bigger world. They are all cool! "

It took Zou Yuyan, a single mother, 29 years to send her son with cerebellar motor nerve damage to Harvard University. Even in the most difficult time, she didn't give up the child. In addition to insisting on rehabilitation training, she also guided him to overcome his shortcomings step by step in his study and life.

On March 20 16, her son was admitted to Harvard Law School, and her case shocked countless people!

Now, Zou Yuyan has started a new career because of her rich parenting experience. She and her children make progress together on the road of growth, making life more resilient.

There are many ordinary mothers like Zou Yuyan who have also gained a lot of happiness on the way to parenting education.

It can be said that the highest state of education is that mothers accompany their children to grow up and make themselves better!

Part 0 1

When mothers communicate with their children in positive language, children will also become more optimistic and enlightened people.

In a short film in Thailand, the little girl wanted to plant bean sprouts. Her mother knew it was difficult to do so, but she still accompanied her daughter to explore. Although she failed again and again, her mother always encouraged her daughter to "let's try together" and "let's find a way together".

Mom's words are like magical feed, nourishing children's curiosity about the world.

Thai short film "bean sprouts"

The author of "Parents' Language" mentioned:

The early language environment of children, that is, the language environment provided by parents, largely determines the development of children's innate potential, and the language of parents will have a far-reaching impact on children's own behavioral constraints and moral quality.

The most expensive education is free, in every word, sentence, conversation and mother-child interaction.

Therefore, when accompanying children to grow up, mothers will use positive and gentle language to guide their children, fully communicate with them and give them more opportunities to grow and exercise, then mothers will become more optimistic and open-minded.

the second part

When a mother takes her children close to nature and explores the world, she will also become a broad-minded person.

Many parents in China have enrolled many special classes, cram schools and interest classes for their children very early. On weekends and holidays, their children are locked in cages to study or learn talents, and there is no chance to get in touch with nature at all.

One of my sisters is different from most parents.

As long as she has time, she always takes her two daughters to experience new things in nature: taking her children to travel, attending exhibitions, enjoying flowers and watching chickens ..... Children can feel endless fun in one flower and one grass.

The author mentioned in "Give Children the Best Growth":

"We should observe the real growth process of children. If our children are no longer used to experiencing the magic of childhood and lose the will to pursue a leisurely life and dreams, there will be serious problems in society. "

Therefore, accompanying children to grow up is not only a way for children to further understand the world, but also a broader mind and vision for mothers.

the third part

Mothers respect their children's feelings and communicate with them equally, and at the same time, their children will become more assured and warmer.

In last year's hit TV series "Pi", your mother Lin kept her mouth shut and said it was "for your own good". She likes to complain to her children about the hardships of life and her own difficulties, and her emotions fluctuate with the changes of her children's grades, which makes her breathless.

Behind this kind of behavior, parents have a sense of control over their children. They want their children to be obedient, because obedient children are more likely to worry their parents.

Li Xinran mentioned in the "human Trojan horse plan":

Parents interfere too much with their children in parenting education, and they will implant a Trojan horse program that cannot be their own. Children often don't make their own decisions and don't know what they like and what they can do. Decisions can only be made by parents, and they lose the freedom to explore new knowledge.

I remember Huang Lei saying in "The Life I yearn for": "My wife and I never treat our daughter as children. She is a considerate person. She has her secrets, her thoughts and her life. "

One day, children need to face the world alone. Parents should let their children master the "steering wheel" of their own lives as early as possible, allow them to "disobey" some unprincipled problems in daily life, and let them learn to solve problems in conflicts.

Therefore, when accompanying children to grow up, mothers treat children as independent individuals equally, know how to respect their decisions, and listen to their inner voices attentively, which will also release their inner pressure and make their hearts warmer.

part four

Mothers know how to let children take the initiative to do things and cultivate their sense of value. At the same time, children will become more confident and empathetic.

Children who like to cling to their parents when they are young often lack independent personality when they grow up. They are called "Ma Baonan" or "Princess Disease". Behind these people, there should be a pair of parents who don't know how to let go.

They like to complain that their children are not independent or even incompetent, while continuing to help them do everything in detail.

There is a mother in Fukuoka, Japan who began to teach her to cook when her daughter Ahua was 4 years old. As long as she can, her mother lets her do it herself. Later, her mother died of illness, and Ahua was as independent as a little adult.

The mother thinks that children's study can be put in the second place. As long as you are healthy and can stand on your own feet, you can live no matter where you go or what you do in the future.

Adler mentioned in Inferiority and Transcendence:

A child has been looking for a sense of belonging and values all his life. A child's sense of value is that he realizes that his life is valuable, and the way to shape a child's sense of value is that parents should give their children opportunities to do things.

The value of a child comes not only from his academic performance, but also from his independence, helping others and sharing.

Therefore, in the process of accompanying children to grow up, mothers let children participate in family work, and children's values and sense of responsibility will gradually be established. In this process, mothers will learn to let go and become more confident and empathetic.

The fifth part

Mothers guide children to develop reading habits and fall in love with reading, and at the same time, children will become more knowledgeable and intelligent people.

In CCTV's "Host Contest", Dong Qing's on-site comments on the contestants were dubbed "net text teaching" and sent to the hot search again. Every comment is eloquent, revealing her rich knowledge reserves and cultural heritage.

Dong Qing mentioned in the interview that she thanked her parents for developing good reading habits from an early age. When she was a child, she copied idioms and recited ancient poems every day. When she was in middle school, she had to finish reading a famous book at home and abroad in three to five days. In Host Contest, Dong Qing always emphasized: "All learning is not quick, especially language ..."

Children's reading should not be a burden, but a habit and a consciousness.

Reading is a process of sowing seeds. If the roots of seedlings are firmly tied in advance and habits are formed, children will benefit a lot in their later lives.

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The author of How to Cultivate Children's Reading Ability also mentioned:

Reading is a habit, not a standard to judge a child's ability in one aspect. Children who love reading may not get good grades, but children who love reading must be thoughtful people. Reading can enrich children's lives, and more importantly, it can teach children the right way to look at things through reading.

Therefore, in the process of accompanying children to grow up, mothers will let children form the habit of reading and like reading, and mothers will become more knowledgeable and wise in this process.

Eggs broken from the outside are food on the table, and broken from the inside are fresh life.

A child is a living body, which is very complex and will iterate in the process of evolution. The logic of iteration depends on their own vitality, and the real education is to water them with love and grow sturdily.

Growing up is a lifetime thing, not only for children, but also for mothers. In the process of education, the lives of children and mothers will blossom and bear fruit at different levels, and eventually become better themselves.