First of all, I was moved by the title of this book. There are 65,438+000 possibilities in education, which means there are many ways to show the infinite possibilities of life, instead of crowding on a wooden bridge. I know that all the characters in this book are students of Miss Li. Don't these vivid cases point to the final result of education? We should cultivate a person from the perspective of school education, not only by his graduation grades, but also by whether he can make them grow up and succeed. More importantly, we should grow up, get married and become a harmonious member of this huge national machine and society. As a teacher, only with a deeper understanding of this point can we be clear and firm in our educational career and better guide parents who are more and more anxious and entangled.
This book tells the story of 36 students of Teacher Li. Through diaries, compositions, photos and various materials, it shows the growth stories of their student days and the education of Teacher Li. At the same time, over the years, Miss Li has kept close contact with these students, showing their current work and life through field interviews, visits and correspondence.
Among them, there are high-tech talents who have settled overseas and physical education teachers who have settled in towns and villages; There are famous entrepreneurs and bus drivers who work day after day; There are excellent university professors and obscure bank counters; There are cultural messengers who communicate with China and foreign countries, and football coaches who reprimand Fang Qiu and strategize on the court. At that time, there were many gifted scholars with outstanding achievements, but most of them were mediocre and unattractive. There were even many so-called "fat heads" and "Zhu Wenzi" who were naughty, stubborn and incorrigible, which broke Miss Li's heart. No matter what happens, now they have become a kind, honest, diligent and enterprising person, who loves their work and creates their own wonderful things. Dare to take responsibility in the family, be good at management, and live an ordinary and happy life. Their stories are true, simple and practical; All the students talked about Mr. Li's education and influence on them, which benefited them for life. After reading this book, it brought me deep thoughts and feelings. I want to talk about how to be a teacher, how to be a parent and how to be myself.
First, how to be a teacher
Miss Li loves each of her children selflessly and gives them different care and guidance. For example, An Chao, Zhang Ling and Zou Bing, no matter how naughty or troublesome those children are, they never leave, never leave, never beat or scold, and never discriminate. But to give more humanistic care, more attention, communication and encouragement. The so-called tireless, tireless teaching, teacher Li really did this.
For talented students, such as Wang Hongchuan, Chen Zheng, Zhang Jinsong, Fu Rui and Hu Xiarong. Teacher Li gave them ideological guidance, broadened their horizons and improved their realm, which not only enabled them to achieve excellent academic performance, but also helped them establish the pattern and realm of "being born for the world, standing for future generations and being harmonious for the world".
Through various forms, Mr. Li has created a warm and loving group for middle school students such as Zhang Chunyin, Zhang Chunyin and so on, so that their hearts can be nourished by beauty. When I grow up, even an ordinary person can enjoy that peace and security. I am clever, kind, practical, diligent and worthy of my heart.
Einstein said: What is education? In other words, when you forget everything taught in school, the rest is education. Almost all the students are talking about Miss Li, saying that they have forgotten the topics and knowledge points that Miss Li taught them in those years. But they all turned the phrase "Let people be happy because of my existence" into a life belief. And repeatedly stressed that the qualities such as "kindness, integrity, diligence, progress, warmth, sincerity, unity and self-discipline" taught by Teacher Li have become the most precious wealth. The so-called "teachers are easy to find, but hard to find" is the best proof.
Second, how to be a parent
For a long time, I was anxious about my child's education, because I found that she was not a very smart person. The most important thing is that she has no "education" and no special skills, and her personality and temper are not very good. I often wonder how she will get into high school in the future. How to survive without a skill? Bad personality and temper will lead to bad interpersonal relationship, and no one will help her. When people are anxious, they will lose patience. When facing your children, your movements will be distorted and your voice will be out of tune. The child is in adolescence, and his resistance is particularly strong. So the two of us are like Mars hitting the earth, and it's not peaceful to have chickens flying and dogs jumping at home.
"100 possibilities of education" greatly eased my parenting anxiety. Li Jiawen, an urchin who didn't wake up in junior high school, can also become a doctor; Song Zhangzongwei, who was born with congenital deficiency, can make his dreams shine and live so wantonly and enviably; As a standard "poor student", Zhang Ling can also be a football coach who leads the team to win glory for the province. Li X, who once stole a huge sum of money, did not go astray, but was self-reliant, hardworking and kind. Considering the examples of these people, I believe my children will not be bad when they grow up. There are 100 possibilities for a child's future. Just because she doesn't lead today doesn't mean she can't lead tomorrow. Maybe she will have an epiphany after experiencing some accidental things, and the child will be different from now on.
To say the least, even if she fails to enter a key university and becomes a "winner" in the secular sense, so what? Didn't Miss Li say "Happiness is more important than Excellence"? She is kind, honest, diligent and enterprising. Just be an ordinary worker and live a down-to-earth and plain life.
No matter whether my child can be admitted to a key university, have a decent job and live a rich life, I will give her unconditional love. Parents bring their children into this world without their consent. The most important purpose is not to ask her to be excellent and outstanding, but to make her happy. Let her be loved by more people and learn to love more people at the same time, so that our mother and daughter can enjoy this wonderful adventure life. That's all that matters.
? This book made me really put down my obsession, accepted that our child would be ordinary after all, and accepted that she might not be as good as her parents in the future; Of course, this does not mean that we are going to "lie flat" all the way and let it die, but that we understand that I should "do something". On the one hand, practicing a good relationship is better than a good education. We try our best to create an interesting, loving, warm and harmonious family atmosphere so that children can grow up psychologically. On the other hand, we attach great importance to parents' words and deeds. What kind of person do we expect our children to become? We must first become that kind of person.
Miraculously, when we really let go of anxiety and expectation, there are only surprises in life. During this period, the parent-child relationship has improved a lot, and children are more motivated and conscious in their studies.
3. How to be yourself
After reading 100 The Possibility of Education, I found that why Mr. Li had such a profound influence on students was entirely due to his nature of being a man and doing things. If he is not a kind, honest and practical person, how can he teach these things to his children? If he is not a compassionate, kind and compassionate person, how can he leave so many warm and unforgettable memories for students? If he is not a person who loves life and works hard, how can it affect so many students' successful careers and happy families when they grow up?
Lead by example, intergenerational transmission is the most important secret of education. Through this book, I firmly believe that educating people is the truth of self-cultivation. The so-called education is just a kind of cultivation, in order to meet a better self. Only when I become better, my children and my students will become better.
I love studying even more. I joined Mr. Li's doctoral workstation and kept reading, writing, thinking and practicing with Mr. Li. I found my spiritual home here and wrote a romantic fairy tale about education with a group of teachers of the same size;
I love life more. He has a wide range of interests and is curious about movies, travel, fitness and storage. I believe that only by living brilliantly can we teach brilliantly.
I love others more. Always have compassion, kindness and compassion, observe the pain of others, feel the emotions of others, and quietly make people happy because of my existence.
I also love myself more, and often boast that I have no conscience. I think that only people with high self-worth will have a high-level self-esteem system, and people with high self-esteem will make themselves happier.
Finally, I want to say that with the rapid development of science and technology, artificial intelligence is becoming more and more advanced, and the way for students to acquire knowledge is becoming more and more convenient and efficient. When many jobs in society will be replaced by artificial intelligence, will teachers face the same crisis?
Professor Kai-fu Lee's answer is no, he said: Love distinguishes us from artificial intelligence. 100 the possibility of education tells us that the irreplaceable core strength of teachers lies in: we nourish childlike innocence with love, soothe emotions with emotion, shape personality with personality, and light up the spirit with spirit!