With the continuous improvement of urbanization, more and more people flow into cities, mostly young and middle-aged, which leads to the universality of family education for special groups. Although some parents who go out to work bring their children to their cities, most parents can't bring their children with them because of work, so these children live with grandparents or grandparents and can't feel the warmth of their parents. Some children's parents work hard all the year round and cannot communicate effectively with their children. Some parents haven't even met their children for a year, which leads to the long-term education of special groups, which is very unfavorable to the growth of children.

First, intergenerational family education problems

The problems existing in intergenerational family education are mainly reflected in children's learning education, moral quality education and psychological education.

First, in terms of children's study and education, because their parents are not around, they are very lacking in care and love, which is easy to produce negative emotions and affect their study. In addition, grandparents' low educational level and relatively backward educational concepts have led to children's learning not being effectively guided. In addition, grandparents rarely communicate with the school, which leads to the children's learning situation can not be reflected at home in time, even if it can be reflected at home, it has not been well solved.

Secondly, as far as children's moral quality education is concerned, because grandparents are more fond of their children, they are not bound by their words and deeds, but only care about their material life and ignore their spiritual life. In addition, children are also affected by social bad factors and are vulnerable to infringement.

Thirdly, in the aspect of children's psychological education, because children are separated from their parents for a long time and lack corresponding emotional communication, children form bad psychology such as loneliness and inferiority. In severe cases, they may form extreme, extreme and irritable personalities, which is not conducive to their psychological development and growth. These psychological problems are not formed in a short time, but when children are away from their parents for a long time. Once psychological problems occur, there is no communication object, which will eventually affect the growth of children.

(1) Coordinate the tripartite relationship to ensure intergenerational family education. To solve the problems existing in the current intergenerational family education, we can mainly solve them from three aspects: intergenerational educators, parents of children and the school itself. First of all, grandparents, who are directly responsible for the current family education, should change the old educational concept, care about children's growth in many ways, communicate with children more emotionally, and meet children's various needs in principle. Secondly, although the children's parents are far away from home, necessary emotional communication and communication are essential. Children's parents should not only meet their children's material needs, but also meet their emotional needs, especially at present, network communication is relatively developed, and video calls are more convenient. They can enhance their feelings with their children through video chat, thus keeping their children in a good state of mind. Finally, as an important educational institution for children, schools should be responsible for their healthy growth and study. Schools should take special care of students of different generations, carefully observe their words and deeds, and communicate with parents in time. In addition, we should pay more attention to students' learning and psychological activities to ensure that children can grow up healthily. (2) Improving the overall level of family education Because the intergenerational family education is extensive and long-term, grandparents should shoulder the responsibility of family education and actively guide family education through the cooperation of schools to make up for the absence of parents in family education. In order to ensure the effectiveness of intergenerational family education for special groups, grandparents should foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, change all kinds of problems caused by improper education in the process of family education, pass on the hardships and frugality of the older generation to children, and let children develop good habits, thus giving play to the effectiveness of intergenerational family education.

In short, with the increasingly fierce social competition and forced by family livelihood, children's parents go out to work, which leads to the emergence of intergenerational family education, which has a great impact on children's growth. In order to solve various problems existing in the current intergenerational family education, we should start from families, schools and other aspects to ensure children's learning, growth and mental health.