Xiao Ceng has been worried about her daughter's English study. My daughter's English performance has been unsatisfactory since she entered primary school.

By observing the children's learning situation, Xiao Ceng found that her English was not bad, but she had no interest in learning.

In order to train children normally, if there is fruit at home, they will consciously ask English names, but children will not pick up crops at all.

Later, Xiao Ceng thought of a way. Knowing that children like Japanese anime, he found an English version of My Neighbor Totoro to show them.

Animation is really attractive to children. Although there are only Chinese subtitles, children still enjoy it.

Not only that, when students go home to play, they especially want to broadcast this cartoon.

Children can understand when they see their daughters? English? Everyone thinks she is very powerful, and she is proud that her children are praised.

After this time, children's initiative in learning English has improved.

I usually ask her a word, and everyone is happy to answer. Now I am still making up my previous English courses and immersed in the joy of learning English.

Xiao Ceng is glad to see this change in children. In fact, this is the use of psychological skills? Bird cage effect? .

What is this? Bird cage effect? ? Bird cage effect? It was discovered and certified by psychologist James.

The specific meaning is: occasionally people get an item they don't need, and on this basis, they continue to add more things they don't need. This psychological phenomenon of being alienated by things is called? Bird cage logic? .

Psychological suggestion is the most important feature of birdcage effect, which can directly affect people's behavior.

In the process of educating children, learning to use this can improve their initiative.

There are many such situations in life, why are children being? Bird cage effect? Traction, what is the real reason?

▼? Bird cage effect? Story:

Bird cage effect? The source is a bet between James and Carlson.

James said confidently at that time: I will definitely let you have a bird soon. ?

Carlson never had a bird, so he didn't trust James at all.

Later, James gave Carlson a birdcage, but there were no birds in it. Everyone suspects that Carlson raised the bird to death. Because of other people's eyes, Carlson finally bought a bird.

People think of birds when they see birdcages, which is influenced by inertial thinking.

Carlson doesn't need birds at all, but others think it's normal for him to have birds, which puts pressure on him and makes him feel that raising birds is the right behavior.

The same applies to educating children. This kind of psychological suggestion given by others will make children have independent interests.

Why? Bird cage effect? Can it work?

1)? Inertial thinking? The combination of limitation and curiosity.

Most people are deeply influenced by inertial thinking. When people only see superficial phenomena, they will habitually make inferences based on common sense.

It is precisely because of the limitation of thinking that it is difficult for people to see the essence of things clearly. With curiosity, it will produce? Blind spot of thought? .

For example, children don't like cucumbers very much, but they like KFC very much.

If you hide cucumber strips in chicken rolls and add more meat, children will be immersed in the excitement of eating KFC and forget their dislike of cucumbers.

so this is it？ Blind spot of thought? The most typical characters can be seen everywhere in life.

2) Implication and pressure brought by public opinion.

Children have a weak sense of independent thinking and a strong sense of conformity.

Everyone lives in a group and is easily influenced by others. Sometimes children clearly know what they are good at, and in order to follow everyone's footsteps, they choose with everyone.

If you show uniqueness, you will be under pressure. And conformity is being? Bird cage? Typical performance.

Visible,? Bird cage effect? There are advantages and disadvantages, which may lead to the formation of good habits, and may also bind one's mind because of conformity.

So, parents are using it? Bird cage effect? At the same time, it needs to be treated dialectically.

Parents should learn to use it? Bird cage effect? , how to operate? Bird cage effect? The necessary condition is to provide? Bird cage? What does the child need? Bird cage? What is this? This is a problem that parents should focus on.

Generally speaking, parents should provide their children with suitable choices and let them develop in which direction.

And those unnecessary choices can be decisively eliminated.

▼ Operation steps:

Step one: find your child's interest and throw it out? Bird cage?

American psychologist Roma? Bruner said: the best stimulus for learning is interest in learning materials, not external goals such as grades or competition. ?

With interest, children will have the motivation to learn and the spirit to persist. When they encounter setbacks, they will also go upstream.

It can be said that you found something that children are interested in. Throw a birdcage? The best way.

★ Did you find it? High interest? Specific practices:

(1) Play

Parents should spend more time with their children instead of always being condescending and straightforward.

In the process of communicating with children, take the initiative to understand their interests, instead of waiting for them to tell you what they like. Maybe they don't understand it themselves.

It is a good idea for parents to spend more time and think more about their children's interests, and to play with their children more.

② Try to cultivate children's interest.

If the child does not show obvious interest, parents can let the child try more and see what he likes.

For example, let children learn music, painting and writing. If children want to learn, they should try their best to support them as long as conditions permit.

What a child can persist in is usually his interest.

Step 2: use the front skillfully? Psychological suggestion?

Francis Bacon said: Knowledge is a kind of happiness, and curiosity is the bud of knowledge.

The most fundamental reason why children are unwilling to learn is that they are not interested enough. Parents can help.

Children are in the stage of strong curiosity, and everything with magical color can attract their attention.

For example, children don't like doing homework, can they use it? Magic exercise book? Ways to attract children's attention.

★ Specific practices:

①? Amplification advantage method? Make a magic exercise book

Children are not interested in boring homework, but they have no resistance to beautiful homework books.

Parents can buy one for their children? Magic exercise book? Let children feel that doing homework is like casting spells, thus arousing their full interest.

②? Praise method? Let the children feel satisfied.

Children's homework is a long process, and the charm of books alone will not last long. Parents can praise their children when appropriate.

For example, good handwriting and good language organization give children a sense of excitement and more motivation to learn.

③? Law of expectation? Let children turn parents' expectations into goals.

Children really want to behave themselves in front of their parents. If the child is already in a learning state, parents can provide the child with goals appropriately.

Children who want to be affirmed will move towards their own goals and strive to meet their parents' expectations.

Step three: jump out? Inertial thinking? Is it useless to abandon it? Bird cage?

Bird cage? There are advantages and disadvantages, positive effects should be effectively utilized, and negative effects should be actively avoided.

And the most important thing to do this is to jump out? Inertial thinking? It is difficult, but it is not impossible.

★ Jump out? Inertial thinking? Specific practices:

(1) Put yourself in the other's shoes and make sure? Bird cage? Really useful for children.

Many efforts are the wishful thinking of parents. Only by giving children what they are really interested in can they learn actively.

What if? Bird cage? If it is not the child's interest, it may become imprisonment, which will not only improve the child's interest, but will have the opposite effect.

② Transforming reverse thinking and observable analysis? Bird cage? The role of

Children's own resolution is not enough, and sometimes they jump into the wrong circle because of conformity.

At this time, parents should analyze the pros and cons in advance and tell their children to avoid children going too far and wasting time.

Children's learning autonomy can only be achieved by internal strength. As long as parents do a good job of guidance, distinguish what is conducive to children's development, and try to let children take fewer detours, it is already very good.