The sentence "Don't let your children lose at the starting line" is familiar to parents, and the scene of direct education in the film also brings me deep feelings.
The whole play tells the story of a middle-class parent choosing a school in a comedy way. They try not to let their children lose at the starting line because they don't want them to go to the same school as them. They hope that by choosing a prestigious school, their children can rise to the upper class!
1. Is prestigious school education really winning at the starting line?
The English movie poster at the starting line reads:
Parents who are willing to make every effort to get their children into good schools. Parents are those who will spare no effort to get their children into the right schools.
This is also the case in China. Parents are trying their best to do one thing-give their children a better education. So from the beginning of choosing a kindergarten, a school choice war without smoke continued to start. This is really a game for children and a stadium for parents.
"If you can't read a good primary school, you won't get a good junior high school. If you can't read junior high school well, how can you go to a key high school? The key high school has a cost-recovery rate of more than 95%, so you still have to worry about 985,211?"
"It's getting harder and harder for children in rural areas to get into good schools. You are a middle-class child like me. You have no worries about food and clothing, your parents are intellectuals, and you were born in a big city like Beijing. Therefore, enjoying this unique condition in educational resources is completely beyond the reach of many foreign children or rural children. "
But we have to think about a problem. Is it really winning at the starting line to go to a prestigious school and enjoy elite education?
There is a sentence on the poster of China movie:
Even if you become a person you hate, let your children get the best education.
The film reflects the dilemma of choosing a school, and the final outcome of the film is the "starting line" or the "bottom line" of being a man.
At the end of the film, my father Raj's words are very emotional: "You tried your best to get them into this school, not that you helped them, but that they helped you." In this era, people only value children's ability, not their character. "Although some people criticized too chicken soup and forced tears, I still felt wonderful.
We often say that it is very important to cultivate future-oriented children, including imagination, creativity, reading ability, social adaptability, emotional intelligence, adversity quotient, financial quotient and so on. But we can't forget virtue education, not to mention parents' words and deeds are in the eyes of children. The best education for children is the example of parents.
These people don't lack ability, what they lack is the bottom line of being a man. As parents, we must always remind ourselves what is the most important thing to educate our children.
3. Can a child who wins at the starting line win life?
I once read a report that the parents of a pair of university professors, their son went to primary school at the age of 4 and a half, and got a doctorate at the age of 19. After graduation, my son ate popcorn and snacks at home all day, didn't want to do anything, and was unhappy all day. Parents are now worried about how to cheer up their children and make them happy all day.
Their children won at the starting line, but didn't win their lives. I lost popcorn and snacks in my childhood, so I buried myself in my studies. Now that I have got my degree, the tasks assigned by my parents have been completed, but my life has no direction and motivation, and popcorn has become the only fun.
Of course, this example does not mean that all prodigies will have problems when they grow up. Children's growth path will be affected by many factors, not so much inevitability.
But I want to tell my parents that every child is different.
Rousseau said: "In the order of life, childhood has its place, that is, adults should be regarded as adults and children should be regarded as children."
Don't be afraid that children will lose at the starting line, and let them live like children. We should allow them to grow at their own pace, accumulate strength and get ready to go, in order to win the long-distance running of life.
The starting line reflects what we really love?
"The Starting Line" inspired parents a lot and was also a spiritual baptism. Do we love our children's future, or do we want their vanity to succeed?
When I was a child, when I was a junior high school student, my mother wanted to transfer my account to my uncle's house in advance, so that I could go to school nearby and go directly to key junior high schools. I am particularly unhappy to learn this news. I asked my mother why she went to that school.
My mother said that the quality of teaching in that school is good and the school spirit is good. You will have more opportunities to attend key high schools in the future! This will give you a chance to go to a key university and have a good job after graduation.
But I always feel that something is wrong. I don't want to be accused of going through the back door after I enter school. So in the end, I didn't ask my mother to transfer my account, so I decided to go to the ordinary junior high school at my doorstep.
At school, students will laugh at teachers, be undisciplined in class, form gangs and fight after class ... but here, I always know what I should do, because I have a goal in my heart, that is, to be admitted to that key high school through my efforts.
The infinite yearning for key high schools inspired me to study, so I became one of the few outstanding students in this junior high school. My teachers like me very much and often give me a small stove. Finally, I took the early entrance examination for key high schools, and got into that key high school as I wished.
Now that I think about it, it was my parents who passed on the correct values to me. They respected my choice, but in retrospect, I couldn't help worrying about my parents. If I make such a choice, whether my heart is strong enough to allow him to go to a school with such a school spirit, I may be extremely worried that he will learn to smoke, drink and fight.
My parents' great trust in me enabled me to grow up smoothly in that school. I didn't get into any bad habits. They will tell me everything I meet, and I am not afraid of anything with them. Now that I think about it, I am very grateful for their understanding and support. I also want to learn from them and give this trust to my children.
The pattern and vision of parents are the starting line for children.
So what is the starting line? In my opinion, the pattern and vision of parents are the real starting line for children.
Next year, Guoguo will also be faced with the choice of schools, whether to attend ordinary public primary schools at home, buy school districts to enter key primary schools, or spend a lot of money to choose international schools.
When the choice was placed in front of me, I was extremely anxious a few years ago. I am afraid that my wrong choice will lead to the misfortune of my child's life. At that time, I infinitely magnified the influence of school education.
After several years of self-growth, I have completely put it down now. Maybe I will choose a public primary school and let Guoguo take the national college entrance examination. Maybe we won't choose the school district, but let nature take its course.
Because in the triangle of school education, social education and family education, I can't change social education, but I can choose the right school education within my power, and I will do my best to do a good job in family education and leave my children's future path to myself.
As a mother, I will live hard and influence him with my own practical actions. As for class, in fact, I have never considered it, because I don't think it is an obstacle to people's development, just like the children in the film sang:
"There is only one life, but I have a hundred desires, and nothing can stop me from moving forward!"
Yes, I firmly believe that our destiny is in our own hands.
As an entrepreneur who has been fighting in the field of family education, I am unable to change the social environment, but I can pass on my life wisdom to my parents through books.
I believe that no matter what kind of school our children choose, family education is the most important. Being a wise parent and knowing the parents of children is the responsibility of parents all their lives!