One day, a pupil came home from school, eating first, playing first, watching TV first, and kept dawdling without doing his homework. When parents find themselves talking or take compulsory or compulsory measures to ask their children to do homework immediately, because the children are still young and unable to resist their parents, they often just listen, but most children will return to the state of studying and doing homework with an unpleasant psychology. If children study in this state for a long time, it is natural to be tired of learning, but it is strange to be tired of learning. Many teachers have never studied family education and often mislead their parents. When they go home, they have to watch and stare at their children's homework. If parents also lack the scientific knowledge of modern family education, most parents will take the wrong way to accompany their children to complete the tasks assigned by teachers. What is more serious is that parents write homework instead of their children, or do homework in disguise.
Gu Xiaoming commented:
The poor quality of teaching in many places, except for some historical reasons, is because parents accompany them on a large scale. As a result, children are seemingly guarded and managed, but their learning ability is not cultivated. In some places, by the fifth grade of primary school, the rate of accompanying students is as high as 80%, which not only fails to cultivate their learning ability on time, but also develops their bad qualities and habits such as dependence on others and lack of sense of responsibility, which has become a killer that seriously affects the large-scale improvement of junior high school teaching quality.
Correct practice (advocated practice):
One day, a pupil came home from school, eating first, playing first, watching TV first, and kept dawdling without doing his homework. After the parents found out, they deliberately did not educate their children immediately. After dinner, the children played with toys for a while and then read books. When I was ready to lie in bed after washing my face and brushing my teeth, I remembered that I forgot to do my homework today. I was so anxious that I wanted to cry. This is the best time for parents to get involved in education.
Method 3: Help him like a parent. At this time, the only thing parents can do is to help their children put forward alternative suggestions: if you are willing to write today, stay a little longer and write today; If you want to write tomorrow morning, mom will call you an hour in advance; If you don't want to write in the morning, go to school tomorrow and tell the teacher that you forgot to write today's homework, so I won't write this time.
Method 4: affirm him like a teacher. Although the child wanted to sleep at that time, he probably felt that there was always something in his heart before he finished writing, so he said to write now. Parents say yes, then write now and praise the children for solving their own problems in time.
Children haven't done their homework once, so they shouldn't be said to be tired of learning. Formally speaking, weariness of learning should be learning rather than learning. For example, no homework, no school. From the content point of view, if you don't want to learn, you won't learn, and if you learn, you will slack off. Judging from the results, it has not reached its due level. There are so many reasons for being tired of learning that it is almost impossible to explain them clearly. Some come from early education, habits, personality, interests and environment. Even a word or thing from a teacher's parents can lead to children being tired of learning. It is more difficult to solve the problem than to form the cause of weariness. Need one person and one policy. It is difficult to find a square formula. You don't have to tell your children the truth about Mandarin. What is your interest in learning? Listen attentively in class, think carefully about the problem, finish the homework on time, and do the wrong questions again. In practice, it doesn't have much effect.
In my opinion, weariness of learning is an involuntary behavior in children's learning and an uncontrollable behavior. What do you mean involuntary? You just don't know. As far as children's own wishes are concerned, they also want to study hard. It is because of some factors that they can't study, work hard and persist. So it is hard to change. Sometimes it takes a lot of attempts, setbacks and repetitions. Fortunately, many children still can't solve the problem of being tired of learning.
Both children in my family have had the problem of being tired of learning. A daughter who hates learning just can't learn. But I can stay up after watching my favorite TV and surfing the Internet at night. In order to improve children's academic performance, parents also help to analyze the reasons, and the children themselves are very anxious, thinking of many ways and trying many methods. The effect is minimal. According to our analysis, it may be that computers and televisions distract children's attention and hinder them from entering the learning state. Senior three rented a house near the school for the children and hired a nanny. Besides studying, children have time to rest and eat. Without the environment of TV and computer, children gradually entered a learning-oriented state, and their academic performance has been greatly improved. The university continues to maintain. Although some money has been invested, it is still insignificant compared with the children's future. My son depends on rewards. The way to reward is after an accidental exam. When it comes to exam ranking, I said, in future exams, how much will be awarded for each person who advances? The child is really hard, and I really cashed it. There is a monthly exam in the second half of senior three, and children win prizes every month. The child was admitted to a key university. The child went to college, and he told me that rewards play a decisive role in improving academic performance and are recognition of achievements and efforts. At that time, my daughter was also a reward, and my daughter didn't buy my account. My conclusion is that as long as parents keep trying to find a way and don't give up, there is no way to say it will work.
I think there are three ways to solve the problem that children are tired of learning.
Do something. If one trick doesn't work, change it. We should aim at the characteristics of children. Copying others' may not have a good effect.
Second, we must persist. Never lose heart and never give up. If you can't do it once, try again. Not for one year, but for the second and third years. Work is natural.
Third, don't play hardball with children, don't worry, don't get angry. You have to do everything you can to get the child's consent. The child said, I have no self-control, I need my parents to watch, and my parents will watch. If you keep looking after your child for a month or two, the child will form a habit, and you will realize it without looking at the child. The child said that you don't have to look at me, and parents had better not look at me. If the child can't learn, then change the way that the child can accept. If children don't want to learn and hate learning, parents can also slow down. Wait for the time to be right.