Duoduo is known by people through Where is Dad Going 2. She is careful and sensible, proficient in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, and plays well, whether it is piano or guitar. Besides these, her English is also very good. She once voiced Ice Age 2, and she is really a talented girl.
Some time ago, when I watched The Life I yearn for, Huang Lei talked about her "parenting experience", which I think we can learn from.
Huang Lei said, "I never treated her like a child. She is a considerate person. She has her secrets, her thoughts and her life. She does not belong to me. We are independent individuals. I won't impose my will on her. We get along like friends. I want to teach her that this is right and that is wrong. I don't like to pretend to be my father. In my opinion, instead of preaching, let her experience it herself.
If she doesn't do something, she will bear the consequences of not doing it and be responsible for herself.
I especially object to the saying that winning is at the starting line. Whoever wins at the starting line is a sprint. Have you ever seen a marathon runner? Life is a marathon, not a sprint. Let children have a good attitude towards life and gradually understand their own life. "
Huang Lei also said that the best education is the love of parents. In this love, we should not only have enough love and protection, but also have the ability to cultivate children's independent thinking and face the unknown.
Educating children is also an art, and parents should pay attention to methods and skills when educating children.
Resolve the influence of differences and contradictions
When our parents disagree, we should take a few minutes to think about it: the way we solve contradictions will be seen by the child, which will affect his outlook on life and attitude towards others. To fully consider the future happiness of children, parents need to use flexible and suggestive methods to resolve their differences instead of quarreling and fighting.
Control your emotions and solve them reasonably.
It is important to avoid strong confrontation, but we should seek the right time to make up for it. When one spouse's education method is not right, parents should avoid discussing their opinions with their children, put forward their opinions rationally, pay attention to their words and deeds, and keep a positive attitude to avoid more shocking things.
Actively listen and communicate.
Parents should communicate more about their children's education, listen to each other's reasons and understand each other's real thoughts. When there are differences, try to reach an agreement; Parents and children should communicate with each other. As parents, we should listen to their children's thoughts patiently and communicate with them actively, so that children can feel that their thoughts and opinions can also be taken seriously, so that children will accept their parents' opinions more consciously and actively.
Establish "parental rights" together
"Parental power" is extremely important in children's growing consciousness. Its existence will make children have a normative meaning in some cases and understand what is "can do" and what is "can't do". Don't leave room in front of the children. If someone is willing to excuse your child when he realizes that he has done something wrong, he will relax his vigilance and lose the authority of his parents.