Personality is plastic, and people and things in the surrounding environment will affect the formation of personality, so parents' educational attitude is very important, even affecting their children's fate and future.
Under the stick comes a dutiful son.
There is an old saying in China: "A dutiful son is born under a stick", and he believes in violence education. Admittedly, this sentence is too absolute, but it makes no sense.
It also has certain reference significance for the current atmosphere. Many parents treat their children as flowers in the greenhouse and take good care of them. They never have the heart to scold their children's education and develop their arrogant and willful character. Moreover, this educational attitude not only distorts the child's personality, but also makes the child's viability disappear. It is difficult to survive in the social competition of the law of the jungle, and it is impossible to achieve real growth simply by letting go of your own preferences. But you can't treat children with violence. Some parents also believe that violence will make children more obedient and easier to educate their children. However, they don't realize that excessive violence will make children form a submissive character. When encountering difficulties, they will only avoid and give in once, cowardice will put themselves in a safe environment, and ignorance of educational attitude will also cause.
It has lost its ability to fight, and it can't succeed.
Fu Lei's Family Letters
Fu Lei is a famous writer and educator in China. In the correspondence with his family, he integrated the educational thought of self-reliance into it through personal experience and sentiment, and gave his children a correct and gentle education. It is his educational attitude that makes his children become capable people without exception.
The educational attitude of great educators has enabled their children to develop a good character, know how to be modest and strong, and they all have a happy life.
postscript
Correct educational attitude plays a vital role in children's growth. Don't spoil or violence blindly, be firm and gentle, set an example, treat children with a correct attitude, and cultivate their perfect personality in the face of life.
The eagle spreads its wings and the butterfly flies. Educate children with correct educational attitude, so that they can enjoy the magnificence of life, the ups and downs of life and have a better life.
extreme
I have seen such a cartoon: under the tree, my son is reading a book, and my father is smashing apples on his head. My son's head has been smashed out of a lump, and his mother is still holding a basket full of apples high. The title of this cartoon is: Do not believe that you can't smash your son into Newton's second. This deeply mocks the mistakes in the way parents educate their children today. In my opinion, parents' educational methods for their children should keep pace with the times.
In this cartoon, the most thought-provoking thing is the bump on the child's head, which represents the harm of the old education method to the child, and reveals that parents should not use extreme old education methods to discipline the child, and extreme education methods will gradually make the child rebellious. Therefore, I think parents should guide their children, not discipline them.
What is even more shocking is the title of this cartoon: Don't believe that your son can't be the second Newton! I can understand parents' desire for their children's success, but too ambitious goals will only make children feel overwhelmed. Parents should guide their children to achieve small goals, so that they can step into the hall of success. For these small goals, you should also decide according to your dreams, and you can't force your children.
For the country and society, this kind of education is a great harm: all kinds of talents in society can not be developed, children will fall into the "Apple" crisis, unable to develop their own ideals, and will only lead to the disappearance of diversified talents in society.
Meng Mu is undoubtedly successful in educating children. After she found out that children like to imitate, what he did was not to discipline them, not to force them to correct, but to move near the college and guide them to become educated and well-read. As a result, Monk lived up to expectations and became an "Asian saint" after Confucius.
Please don't "smash apples" to educate your children. The method of copying is not suitable for every child. Every child is an independent individual. They have their own dreams. Please don't kill their dreams. Educational methods should vary from person to person.
Perhaps, many parents now educate their children by "smashing apples". Perhaps many children are still in the pain of being "smashed apples". Children should not suppress their dreams. Compulsory education is useless. At the same time, parents should learn more from Meng Mu, respect their children's ideals, and correctly guide their children to the palace of success.
Behind every successful person, there are parents who understand education. May parents in the world educate their children correctly and achieve the best life for their children!
Tisso
The ancients said: Honesty is the truth, and there is nothing wrong with it. Honesty is the foundation of establishing a person, a career and a country. A disgraceful thing happened to me about honesty and trustworthiness.
In the class, the academic performance is ok, and he is an excellent student in the teacher's mind. I made a bet with my good friend Li Ping to see who scored higher in each exam. We are all quietly trying to surpass each other.
After a math exam, the teacher asked me to go to the office to get the paper. I looked at the paper in my office and found that Ping Li was the sixth and I was the seventh, with a difference of 0. Five points! Students' contemptuous eyes, teachers' questions and parents' reprimands come to mind.
Somehow, my consciousness drove me to pick up the teacher's ballpoint pen and steal an answer to Ping Li's application problem. I thought happily, "Now she has to deduct at least one point. I am definitely higher than her score. " Then, I smiled and rode into the classroom. Say to the teacher, "Teacher, you corrected a problem in Ping Li." I said and gave it to the teacher with my finger. The teacher looked at the test paper and said, "Maybe I was suddenly." So I changed the question with a red pen, and I returned to my seat with peace of mind. After the teacher announced the results, Ping Li was ashamed of his frown.
After school, Ping Li and I walked side by side on the road, and I was silent for a long time. Ping Li patted me and I broke out in a cold sweat. She asked doubtfully, "Liang Liang, who do you think is so evil? You changed my answer to set me up. I recognized that it wasn't my handwriting! However, it is as good as your calligraphy. " Then she smiled foolishly. "What?" I was so scared that my legs went soft: "No, really no!" "It's okay! Don't be so serious, just kidding! " Say and Ping Li walked forward with a smile, but I stopped. At this time, the sun is burning and shining on me, which is very uncomfortable! Yeah, why would I do that? Ping Li trusted me so much, but I failed her? Don't! I can't lose my honesty.
"Ping Li", I looked down, "I changed your answer, yes! Ping Li, I'm sorry! " After a silence. Ping Li came slowly, and I looked down, unable to face her. She patted me with one hand and said, "Nothing! But be honest in the future! Don't ... "Before she finished, I swore," I won't do it again! " "Let's go, fool!" Looking at her back, her relaxed words echoed in my ears, and I understood that people can't be honest traitors.
Although it has been more than a year, every time I think of it, I should warn myself: be an honest person and be proud of honesty, because only honesty can have eternal friendship; Only by being honest can you face your friends frankly; Only honesty can make it easy to be a man.