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Education is an art list of the four most effective family education arts.
First of all, talk about
In family education, the most common way is to talk. The quality of conversation is closely related to the art of conversation.
Conversation is a conversation between parents and children in a democratic and harmonious atmosphere. The timing of the conversation should be appropriate, and the topic of conversation should be beneficial and interesting to children. Before talking, parents should induce their children to talk freely, and then give back their opinions higher than their children as gifts.
The art of conversation is mainly embodied in the capture of conversation opportunities and the use of conversation methods. Generally speaking, parents and children should not talk when they are in a bad mood, especially when they are angry. Don't talk until the whole story is clear; Please don't have a critical conversation when there are outsiders, especially guests present; At the dinner table, before the children go to bed, it is not appropriate to have a critical conversation. What are the characteristics of family education? At the last moment, it teaches? Therefore, the timing of education should be flexible, and everything should be based on the needs of education, especially the effect of education, and the acceptance of children. There are many ways to talk, such as rambling, investigation, encouragement, serious criticism and education. Among them, rambling, that is, talking freely and happily without being limited by time, place and content, is often a popular way of talking for children.
Second, the art of activities with children
Family atmosphere is one of the important factors in the implementation of family education, and activities with children are one of the effective ways to create a good family atmosphere. In life, parents and children have many opportunities for activities.
Take the children to the wild. Nature is beautiful: flowers in spring, cicadas in summer, fallen leaves in autumn, and snow in winter all attract children infinitely. Parents take their children for an outing in the season, and the pleasing natural scenery will bring their children beautiful reverie and longing, and call back their parents' memories of childhood fun. A common mood and a common language make the distance between the old and the young disappear at once, and how much educational content can be carried out at this moment.
Take the children sightseeing. Children are happiest when they can travel abroad during holidays. Those places of interest and various exhibitions are worth seeing. During the visit, if parents can give incisive explanations, children are most admired; If the obvious knowledge is insufficient, parents will be forced to look up books and materials, so as to win the children's hearts.
Take the children shopping. When children are young, they like to go shopping with their parents, and by the way, they can order things that people like to eat. Parents can take the opportunity to introduce commodity knowledge and instill the truth of frugality. When children grow up, they can shop for their families and themselves. Parents can be accompanied by staff officers, chatting while buying, chatting while watching and chatting while walking. It is a good opportunity for education that two generations do not guard against each other.
Have fun with the children. After dinner, on holidays, the whole family shows their strengths, fights and talks about everything, which fills the family with a happy atmosphere and enhances the cohesion of the family and the interest of life.
Parents and children have a lot to do together. The purpose of joint activities is to eliminate the generation gap, harmonize feelings, entertain and educate, and let family education be carried out in joyful, cordial and unrestrained activities.
Third, the art of praise and reward.
Praise and reward children can encourage them to repeat the formation of good habits; Praise and reward can stimulate children's self-motivation, help cultivate children's self-esteem and sense of honor, cultivate children's self-discipline, enhance children's sense of right and wrong, and help deepen the feelings between parents and children.
The child's re-election has fulfilled the parents' demands and hopes and can be praised and rewarded; Children who behave well can also be praised and rewarded, although they are only signs; Children have completed an arduous task, shown brave quality or perseverance, and can also be praised and rewarded by their parents. Parents should praise and reward their children for winning the honorary title.
There are many ways to praise and reward children, and spiritual reward should be the main one. For example: praise, approval, nodding, smiling, intimacy, etc. Can achieve the goal of inspiring children to make progress. There should also be material rewards. For young children, necessary material rewards are also a good means of education. You can send books, clothes, toys, school supplies, etc. But be careful with your money, and don't let your child's young age and pure heart get copper smell too early.
Parents should seize the opportunity of praise and reward. When a child is excited, it comes and goes quickly. Parents should grasp their children's psychological pulse, praise and reward them in time, so that their good performance can be strengthened and consolidated. If it's Monday morning quarterback, it will weaken the incentive.
Again, praise or reward should be realistic, because this is an evaluation of children, and children should know themselves in praise and reward. Too high, easy for children to be blindly satisfied; Too low, and it is not easy to achieve the purpose of motivation. In addition, parents should be sincere when praising and rewarding, and it is best not to promise in advance. Once they make a promise, they should keep it. Never bargain with your child about the degree of reward.
Fourth, the art of apologizing to children.
In family life, parents often say something wrong, do something wrong, and even wronged their children. How to deal with such problems is really one of the arts of family education.
Parents and children should have a democratic and equal relationship in the family. Parents should take the initiative to apologize if they have done something wrong or wronged their children. This will neither affect the prestige of parents nor damage their dignity; On the contrary, it will set an example for children to correct their mistakes, and will make children sincerely admire their parents' quality and cultivation, so as to trust their parents more and be close to them; The dignity of parents will not be reduced, but will be higher, which will also form a relaxed, harmonious and democratic atmosphere conducive to the growth of children in the family.
Of course, when parents apologize and admit their mistakes, especially for their children, they must be sincere, not perfunctory, not looking for objective reasons, and sincerely seek forgiveness.