A disobedient and stubborn child won't admit his mistake. What should they do? 1. First of all, adults should keep their promises and have the authority of adults, but they should not be above themselves, let alone beat children at every turn. They should know how to talk to children and understand their thoughts.
2. Secondly, if the child is really wrong, criticize and educate first, guide slowly, and encourage the child to correct his mistake. Don't let children have rebellious mentality, set an example for children and let them know that mistakes should be corrected, and mistakes will be punished.
3. If the child is rebellious, you can take the child close to nature, relax and let the child interact with others. If the situation is not optimistic, you can also consider looking for a psychiatrist.
What if the child is particularly stubborn? Let him go first. ...
When he eats,
Ask him: Why is it good, not bad?
Don't be so wordy in the future.
Guide him slowly and don't twist with him.
Let him have more contact with other children.
Don't blindly follow him.
Don't wait too long.
Otherwise, he will be at a loss.
What if the child is rude and stubborn? The child doesn't know what to do with others. They all follow the example of adults.
What if the child has a stubborn temper? Your child will be three years old soon, which is just the period when self-awareness germinates rapidly ~
Therefore, children have many "self" ideas and want to distinguish themselves from others (especially their parents)!
This can show self-strength and sense of control, which is very important for adults and children as well.
He often says "no", sometimes he doesn't say "no", on the contrary.
Suppressing children's performance and "energy release" will be counterproductive ~
But you can't let the child do whatever he wants with his stubborn temper ~
The following methods can help you better interact with your children:
1, when the child expresses negative opinions, calmly wait for him to express; The more intense the parents' reaction, the more children can feel the sense of control and the power of their negative expression;
2. When children express negative opinions that are not conducive to their own development (for example, I just don't sleep! ), calmly wait for the child's expression and tell him that he will get sick if he doesn't sleep; Besides, mom is sleepy and going to bed. Using actions to regulate children, while using the method of "pause" to stop pestering children, can make children's stubborn emotions calm down quickly;
3. Give children space to play independently, and don't interfere too much;
4. Establish parents' authority that is consistent with words and deeds. For example, a child wants to watch TV, but it takes too long and you don't want to show it to him. The child disagreed and cried stubbornly. Then your actions should support your words. If you can't watch, you can't watch, and you can't let your child control you by crying. Sometimes crying is just a means to threaten and test parents;
5. Give children "controllable" choices: Parents often ask some open-ended questions, and parents are not satisfied with the answers given by children. For example, ask children where to play on weekends. The child said, go to Disneyland. You can't take him with you every time, which makes the child stubbornly demand satisfaction. Give your child a satisfactory choice: go to the park or go roller skating in the square on weekends? Children not only satisfy the desire to control their choices, but also are under your control.
How to deal with children's stubbornness? Children are still young, their physiological functions and psychological development are still immature, and they often say the wrong things and do wrong things. This is inevitable. With the help of adults, they can recognize their mistakes and correct them. However, it is really annoying that some children do something wrong and refuse to admit their mistakes. Parents should carefully analyze the causes of children's bad behavior and give correct education on the basis of understanding children.
1, the child did something wrong and he didn't know it was wrong. For example, three or four-year-old children often put the buttons of their clothes wrong, put the soles of their socks on their feet, and wear two shoes inside out. Older children, especially boys, are naughty and competitive. Sometimes they will tear their clothes, or just to find the answer, they will tear the newly bought toys in a mess ... this is all caused by the child's physical and psychological characteristics, and he knows that there is nothing wrong. Parents should not blame their children too much for such mistakes, let alone say things that hurt their self-esteem. Such as "you are so stupid" and "you are so useless" and so on. Instead, we should give specific instructions on how to do it, constantly enrich the child's life experience, stimulate his proactive desire, learn more skills in the process of overcoming mistakes again and again, and learn to distinguish right from wrong.
The child did something wrong and refused to admit it. Some children have strong personalities, such as stubbornness, stubbornness, willfulness and self-righteousness. They don't want to admit that they have done something wrong, for fear of losing face after admitting their mistakes. Some children never have the habit of admitting their mistakes, which is related to their parents' education. For example, when a child falls, parents complain badly instead of educating their children to be careful when walking. When there is a dispute between children, parents often protect their children and say that others are not; Inconsistent educational methods among family members, etc. , are the reasons why children do something wrong and refuse to admit their mistakes. For such children, parents should not rush to investigate the size of mistakes, but should focus on how to help admit mistakes. First of all, parents must change the above incorrect practices, and whoever is wrong is wrong. They should seek truth from facts and don't blame others to confuse children's right and wrong concepts. Then encourage children to tell the truth and tell them in a friendly way: "It doesn't matter if you do something wrong. As long as you bravely admit your mistakes and are willing to correct them, you are a good boy. " At the same time, I seriously pointed out: "I made a mistake and refused to admit that it was a mistake! Mom and dad don't like such children. " After the child admits his mistake, he affirms his progress, and then helps the child analyze where the mistake is, its severity, bad consequences, etc. Teach children how to do it, let him learn from it and lay the foundation for correct behavior in the future.
3, children do something wrong, afraid of being punished, and dare not admit their mistakes. Some parents' education methods are simple and rude, either scolding or beating and scolding, which often makes children panic and feel at a loss. When children do something wrong, they have to lie to cover up their mistakes in order to escape the punishment of their parents. To help children overcome and correct this bad behavior, parents must change the bad education methods and adhere to positive education.
Paternalistic style is unacceptable, and democratic family education is most conducive to the formation of children's good quality. Although the child is young, he also has his desire for independence and self-esteem. It is a failed educational method for parents to beat and scold children when they have done something wrong. Parents should take a calm attitude, analyze the reasons why their children did something wrong, give priority to motivation and ignore the consequences, and forgive their children's mistakes caused by physiological and psychological factors and lack of experience. After all, children are children, but we should severely criticize their behavior and moral mistakes, help them distinguish right from wrong, enhance their moral judgment and make fewer mistakes.
What should children do if they are stubborn and don't like learning? Children's problems actually reflect the problems of parents' education methods. It is difficult for parents to solve their children's problems without changing their educational concepts. Even if it is solved on the surface, it will be repeated in the future.
On the issue of educating children, parents should set an example by what they say and do, respect, understand, be patient and careful, and not abuse or spoil their children. We should spend more time with our children, care more about them and create a respectful and relaxed environment for them. It is also necessary to understand the different physiological and psychological needs of children at different stages of growth.
Only when the quality of parents' love is improved and the educational concept is scientific can a series of problems in children be completely solved. When solving problems, we should also have enough patience, which is a great test for parents' cultivation.
There is not much difference in the degree to which each parent loves his children, but the quality of love is quite different! Whether a child can grow up healthily and happily depends on the small environment in which the child lives and the quality of love.
I recommend a good book that can help you solve problems: A good mother is better than a good teacher.
For children, study hard and improve the quality of love!
How old is the child? If he reaches a certain age, he can find a job, not to earn pocket money, but to experience life. Let him (her) know that studying is much happier than working.
Most of the time, you can't teach what you haven't experienced, so you can't die in the Yellow River. Only when you meet, will you wake up. It's not a bad thing to fall, just remember it better.
What if a two-year-old child is too stubborn? This is a normal phenomenon in the baby's growth process, and it is a manifestation of his self-awareness. This is a good thing!
If it is related to the baby's safety, such as electricity, fire and other dangerous goods, in the case of ineffective education, it is necessary to fight!
If it is other unprincipled questions, you can give the baby the right to choose independently and determine two or three answers, so that the baby will feel respected and more willing to accept, and the rebellious psychology will be better!
In addition, when the baby is stubborn, don't just be serious with him, find other things to distract attention, and then carry out proper education when the baby's mood is calm, which will have a good effect!
In fact, how to determine the right or wrong standard of things? Why are we right and the baby wrong? Besides dangerous things, how can you be sure that what the baby is doing is wrong? Or the conclusion made by adults themselves, is it too unfair to the baby? From the baby's point of view, think of him! It is difficult to deal with such a big child. Slowly explore the baby's personality characteristics and communicate with him!
My child 13 years old, male, is particularly stubborn. What should I do? 1. Understand children.
Children are now in adolescence, and their self-identity ability is not very strong. They are eager for independence and always want to prove themselves. At this time, parents should understand their children. Parents should not always look at their children's problems from their own perspective. They want to be understood. At this time, the child is actually rebellious. The more you stop him from doing something, the more he wants to do it, so don't go against them.
2. Encourage children.
At this time, children are more competitive and want to prove that they can be better than others in many aspects, but the willpower of adolescent children is not firm enough, so parents should always encourage their children instead of blindly criticizing and opposing them. Your encouragement will give him the motivation to stick to it. Even if a child makes a mistake, he should not only be responsible, but let the child know where he is wrong in a respectful way.
3. Don't compare.
In fact, parents rarely find a problem, that is, they often compare other people's children with their own children and always tell them when they are frustrated. They always like to talk about how good other people's children are, which will have a very bad influence on their own children. Therefore, parents should remember not to compare their children with others all the time, which will hurt their self-esteem, most of them will play a bad role, and even their children will become more and more rebellious, so it is ok to let their children make progress.