There is a famous saying in education: Let every child walk with his head up. "Head" means having confidence in yourself, the future and what to do. Anyone, when he is holding his head high and striding forward, has many works in his mind, such as "I can do it", "I can achieve my goals", "I will do well" and "small setbacks are nothing to me" ... If every student has this attitude, he can make progress and become a good student in all-round development.

However, in fact, there are quite a few children who lack self-confidence and courage to make progress, and only six points or less can have great motivation. In the long run, it is difficult to cheer up and become a shadow of inferiority. Not only will it delay progress, but it may even be pessimistic and behave worse, which is very terrible.

Why is this happening? This is the result of external and internal interaction. Externally, it may be that there are too many negative comments, and there is no chance of success, and the situation is not good. Internally, it may be that self-esteem and self-confidence are damaged and lack of self-control. For example, if a child is not in the group in class and has no expressive ability, it will hurt his self-esteem and self-confidence if he is criticized, accused, even satirized or sarcastic in front of teachers, parents or some setbacks (just like guidance and help after examination results). Then, poor performance will cause new contempt and a vicious circle.

Everyone respects and is proud, including children. In some aspects, self-esteem and self-confidence are the first psychological motives.

So how to cultivate children's confident families?

First of all, we must respect the child's personality. Respect for personality is regardless of time and place, and the advantages outweigh the disadvantages. If a parent respects his child when he has achievements, but does not respect him when there are problems, it is wrong to act arbitrarily. Parents may use psychological empathy to think that they have shortcomings and mistakes and hope others will treat them. Children are eager to be respected, first of all by parents and teachers. Respect your children, and don't belittle or hurt your self-esteem. "For you", "You are hopeless", "Your brain is a pig's brain", "I'm completely disappointed in you", "You shouldn't be like this" and "You've humiliated me" ... These words from parents should be in the language.

Secondly, children are often encouraged to help them. Any small success can enhance people's confidence. A child, when he wrote a word, made a question, a red flag, washed a pair of socks, made a plate, a button and wiped the floor, he had the joy of achievement and could look forward to doing better next time. As a parent, it is not so difficult for him to help his children gain a little successful experience. This is both honest and honest. Get a little success in one minute.

Teach children to learn more positive methods. Be those children who lack self-confidence, especially those who feel inferior, affirm their education in the small progress, and give positive self-hints when they face difficulties and setbacks: "I can do it", "I will work hard" and "I will not be intimidated by difficulties" ...

In addition, to cultivate children's self-confidence and ability to be a teacher, so that children can also get a chance to succeed in school, be encouraged and not be despised.

Second, the importance of cultivating children's non-intellectual factors

In real life, some students were once considered to be superior in intelligence when they were in school, but they accomplished nothing after graduation. Facts have proved that high IQ can be an undeniable fact, and the truth behind genius is that it depends on many non-intellectual factors besides some intellectual factors and social conditions.

It is generally believed that intelligence factors include six aspects: attention, memory, imagination, observation, Li Siwei and creativity. Non-intelligence factors are not directly related to emotion, will, interest, personality, needs, motivation, goals and ambitions, beliefs and opinions. These non-intellectual factors play an important role in the growth of talents. A person with a high level of intelligence will often not achieve much if his non-intelligence factors are not well developed. On the contrary, a person with average intelligence can succeed and make greater contributions if his non-intelligence factors are well developed. Psychologically speaking, emotion, will, interest, personality, needs and goals, ambition and the concept of intellectual development are all internal factors. Through internal factors. A person's non-intellectual factors are well developed, which not only contributes to the full development of intelligence, but also makes up for other deficiencies. On the other hand, if people lack the relief of will, it will affect the development of intelligence.

Third, from children to the development of logical thinking ability

Logical thinking ability is the key factor of intelligence. A person's mental level, mainly through logical thinking ability. Families should have a correct understanding and consciously take educational measures in the process of children's growth to make them smarter.

Thinking is commonly called "thinking", "thinking" and "thinking", and it is one of the abilities of the brain to deal with objective reality. Li Siwei is a man with thinking ability. The level of thinking reflects a person's level of intellectual activity. This is manifested in different ways:

Independence: A strong person in Li Siwei must be good at independent thinking. In learning, you can think independently and find the answer when you encounter difficulties in life. Even if he asks others to consult information, it is based on independent thinking.

Flexibility and agility: Li Siwei is a strong man, agile and inflexible, and can solve problems quickly.

Strong logic, close integration with Li Siwei, a scientific problem, no forced analogy, no fragmentation, well-founded conclusions, clear evidence and clear context.

Comprehensiveness: Li Siwei is very strong. He can't look at the whole thing from different angles.

Creative Li Siwei: Very strong, he can put forward creative ideas on problems, and he can think when others think.

Cultivate the habit of independent thinking. Young children always want their parents to give them answers when they are in trouble. They did tell some parents' problems to their children, and then answered the solutions to the problems, but in the long run, it is not good for children's intellectual development. For parents, children often have to rely on answers, rather than looking for answers themselves, and it is impossible to develop the habit of independent thinking.

The parents of the children, facing Gao Ming, told the children to find a way. It is also a question that should inspire children, how to think, how to use his analysis, how to learn knowledge and experience, how to read, how to consult reference materials and so on. When you are a child, he will get successful answers, improve his thinking ability and generate new motivation.

The problem still exists, that is, thinking, and the brain often faces active problems. When children love to ask children all kinds of questions, parents should discuss these questions and explain the positive influence of parents on their children. Especially when parents don't understand, they ask others, consult materials and think. This process is a complete answer and can improve their thinking ability. After two years, some children don't ask questions, and parents should take the initiative to raise some questions for discussion, including some family problems. Sometimes, parents should put down their airs and ask boys some development problems they don't understand. These practices are all good ways for children to think.

In children's life, in the study of family life, there are often various problems that need to be solved. Parents should guide their children, discuss with them, design solutions to problems and put them into practice. In this process, we need analysis and induction, imagination, reasoning, and ideas of solutions and procedures. Improve thinking ability and ability to solve practical problems.

Four children are good at learning and teaching.

There is a rule that the students who study best are often the most diligent. In other words, even if your children study hard, they can become the best students. Why? There is a good learning problem here.

At present, study fatigue is a common phenomenon among primary and middle school students. Study fatigue is a physiological and psychological state in students' continuous learning, which is manifested by: slow brain response, pain, numbness or distraction, stagnation, emotional upset or thinking, and lack of interest.

Being good at learning is to overcome study fatigue and improve learning efficiency.

First of all, reduce the excessive burden. Some teachers' teaching methods, according to the problems of relevant departments, require no homework, but often make the children who "question the sea tactics" and "study hard" tired of coping. However, some gifted parents can also deploy their children's teachers, assign homework at different levels, and add some exercises, or give their children a lesson and a lesson at weekends. "Listening is better than not listening." Like this food, every time you eat too much, you are still full of dissatisfaction. Can you not be tired? Therefore, families and schools should work closely together. "Sea Tactics" is not suitable for every student. Teachers must have different requirements according to different students.

Secondly, brain science, combining work and rest. It seems that a study time should not be too long. The school arranges a break between classes and a rest in the middle of homework. How long to study depends on each child, but one lesson must be studied at an interval of 10- 15 minutes. During the break, you should also take a positive approach and participate in sports activities, such as brisk walking, deep breathing, doing gymnastics and chest-expanding exercises, or listening to music and singing a poem or two. In short, the brain is relaxed and has more oxygen. If the child can't control his alarm clock, parents can remind him in time.

Third, change rigid learning methods and cultivate good study habits. Some children learn by rote and only use their brains. There is no big difficulty. Learning is not as hectic and busy as a tripod. A long-term study has exceeded the mental limit. Often, the efficiency is not high, the procrastination is too long, the sleep is insufficient, and the brain is not fully rested. The result may be counterproductive.

Fourth, cultivate students' interest. Several subjects in a subject are still not interested in learning, do not attend classes, do not do homework, and do not do homework. If you bite the bullet, physical and mental exhaustion will cause fatigue. There is no pleasure in learning.

Fifth, strengthen brain nutrition. Mental activity is an advanced nerve activity, and nutrition must be guaranteed. protein, vitamins and sufficient oxygen are indispensable. Even if you eat high-protein food, staying at the table for too long, shortness of breath and lack of oxygen will make your brain tired.