In adolescence, if too strict measures are taken to discipline children, the contradiction between children and parents will become bigger and bigger driven by rebellious psychology, and sometimes the contradiction will be too big to be solved, and even emotional wars will occur between the two sides. Therefore, children have no gratitude to their parents when they grow up. They will only quarrel with their parents and choose to solve the problem by hurting each other instead of using gentle hands.

Rebellion and contradiction will further stimulate children's grumpy emotions. Children tend to be rebellious and parents will not communicate with their children in time, so children will develop grumpy emotions. This kind of emotion is not good for children, but will only bring some trouble and burden to children. Parents think that children are rebellious because they want to control their psychology too much, so once children have their own ideas and don't listen to their parents' suggestions, parents will think that children are rebellious, their wings are hard and they will not be disciplined again. Most parents in China have this mentality and are too possessive of their children.

For adolescent children, parents should pay attention to making their children independent and fully tap their self-care ability. Let the child get into the habit of dealing with trivial matters in his own life, otherwise everything will be done for him, which will conflict with the enhancement of his self-awareness. From authoritative influence to objective analysis and guidance. Due to the rapid development of society, the authority of parents is gradually losing. To avoid compulsory "education", children only need to get objective analysis and guidance from their parents after encountering difficulties, problems and setbacks, and this analysis and guidance should be like friends.

It is very important to fully respect children's personal dignity and opinions, because for many parents, they often think that children have no right to speak, but in fact, children also need to have the right to express their opinions. Parents should fully respect them, let them have their own personality independence and integrity, and let their physical and mental health develop to a greater extent.

Children's education is not only the process of children's growth, but also the process of parents' continuous learning. Some parents are always old-fashioned. They always think that our parents taught us the same thing when we were young, and the children at that time were not so rebellious. Therefore, after such a comparison, they always feel that the child is disobedient and the child's rebellion is the child's own problem.