There is a saying that "if you are poor, you will change." For most parents, children should belong to them completely. A child, from a very young age, will do whatever you say, but if one day, the word "no" pops up in his or her mouth, parents will have a very contradictory psychology. On the one hand, parents will be happy because their children finally have their own ideas, because their children have grown up; On the other hand, parents will feel that their children seem to be out of their control and even feel a little hurt. This contradictory psychology often has a bad influence on the daily parent-child relationship. As children grow up, friction with their parents becomes more and more frequent, and some rebellious psychology begins to appear in their behavior, which makes parents very headache.
A few days ago, at the parent salon of Shenghua Education, dozens of parents discussed the parent-child relationship together, and some questions raised by parents were quite representative.
The child is covered with thorns.
Comments: Respect is the most important.
A parent said that his child has changed since he was in junior high school. The temper is getting hotter and hotter. Never heard of it, just look at it coldly, as if it were covered with thorns.
Another parent also said that his children have similar problems. Usually, children and parents are restrained, but they often break out after accumulating to a certain extent. If words don't work, it is a slap in the face! Let's talk after the fight and calm down. "It will break out almost every few months. After hitting him, I can calm down and talk for an hour. It will be better after a while, but after a long time, the old state will appear again. " The parent said that her husband is also a hot-tempered person, and his childhood tutoring experience is similar.
Parents have a heated discussion on this issue, but their opinions are quite consistent, that is, under no circumstances should violence be used against children. Yin Yongsheng, president of Shenghua Education, commented that children can sit down and communicate with their parents for a certain period of time, even if the atmosphere is not very good, which shows that children are also looking for solutions. In the family, the most important thing is mutual respect. Don't treat children as your own private property, and one person has the final say. Instead, we should abandon the high shelf and stand on an equal height with children.
The child is extremely disobedient.
Comments: Never say "no" to children.
A parent said that his child was extreme and didn't listen to advice.
The parent said that for a while, when the child came home, he said that a teacher in his school was neither good nor bad. In a word, he has a deep prejudice against the teacher. This parent is very skillful, because the child is stubborn at ordinary times and immediately ignites the powder keg when he makes a mistake, so she did not refute the child face to face, but talked with the child's teacher several times in private and learned the truth.
After that, the parents repeatedly considered how to discuss this matter with their children. Finally, the parent had an idea and said to the child, "Son, I talked to your teacher. Your teacher feels that he has done something wrong, but he can't save face and apologize to you, but you should also consider whether what you have done is inappropriate. " The child didn't say anything, but the parents obviously felt that the child's view of the teacher had changed, and they never spoke ill of the teacher at home again.
President Yin said that this parent is full of wisdom in handling this matter. Because children are in a period of psychological growth, they are quite sensitive to the outside world. So once you make it clear that he is wrong, he will definitely blush and refute. "Some children, as long as the words' you are wrong' pop out of their mouths, the next communication will be invalid, because they have no mind to listen to your reasons at all, but try to find loopholes in your speech to prove that they are right." President Yin suggested that when a child does something wrong, he should never deny it, but first affirm his correct part and then turn to his inappropriate place.
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