Teacher Niu Jinfang, a master of education, an expert in pre-school education and a teaching supervisor of the General Association, said that kindergarten has just started, and we often see such a situation: some children are brought into kindergarten by their parents, and their faces suddenly change, dragging their parents out and unwilling to stay in kindergarten. Some children hug their parents as soon as they step into the classroom door, crying and making trouble, and refuse to enter the door anyway. At the same time, in kindergartens, these children will suffer from reduced diet, restless sleep, emotional instability, little talk or even refusal to eat. This phenomenon, called "separation anxiety" in psychology, is actually a normal psychological reaction when children leave their parents, so parents don't have to be anxious or too nervous.
There are many external manifestations of this "separation anxiety". Because of the differences in personality characteristics, each child behaves differently. Lively and cheerful children may adapt faster, and introverted and sensitive children may behave stronger, but these are normal psychological manifestations. Effective methods can eliminate children's separation anxiety and contribute to their physical and mental health.
● Don't wipe your tears when you see your child sad.
For children suffering from "separation anxiety", Teacher Niu said that if parents follow certain methods, they can help their children get through this adaptation period as soon as possible.
The first thing parents should do is to be firm in their determination to send their children to kindergarten, especially mothers. Don't see your child crying with a broken heart, wipe away the child's tears and pass on the bad emotions to the child. When a child cries, parents should not care too much, and let the child know that crying is not enough. At this stage, they must go to kindergarten. In order to comfort children, parents can make some agreements with their children and give them psychological hints before going to kindergarten. "For example, before going to kindergarten, parents can promise their children to do one thing, then make an agreement with them and put a small seal on them." What they say must be done. This kind of suggestion every day will slowly slow down the child's anxiety. "Cow teacher suggested.
● According to the individual differences of children, admission to the park can be gradual.
Some children are particularly uncomfortable in this respect because they are introverted and sensitive. In this case, Mr. Niu suggested that parents can communicate with kindergarten teachers and let their children adapt to the kindergarten environment step by step. For example, parents can spend half a day with their children every day for a week or so, and then leave when their children are familiar with kindergartens, kindergarten teachers and other children. Or, parents can let their children go to kindergarten for half a day, take them home after lunch and get used to it for about a week, and then let them go to school all day. "We all advocate humanistic care to enter the park now, and we don't advocate hard violence. A kindergarten teacher said that if the child is crying, let him cry if he has nothing to do, and stop crying when he has cried enough. This laissez-faire approach is also undesirable. Parents and kindergarten teachers must find ways to solve the problem of children adapting to kindergartens. " Niu Laoshi said.
● Parents should not be too attached when they leave kindergarten.
Some parents may not pay much attention to it, and the way they leave kindergarten has a great influence on their children. Teacher Sun, a senior kindergarten teacher, said that after parents send their children to kindergarten, no matter how they cry, they should resolutely say goodbye to their children and say that their parents are going to work. Parents can stay a little longer, but not too long. The longer the time, the stronger the child's attachment to his parents.
Similarly, parents should not sneak away, which will leave a shadow in their children's hearts: why did mom and dad suddenly disappear? Where did they go? This is also bad for children's growth.
● Be calm and reasonable to children who love to lose their temper.
At this stage, many children are very angry and cry easily. Sun said that this is actually the normal venting of children's anxiety and nervousness at this stage. Parents should not be rude to their children when they lose their temper, which is also inappropriate. Parents can wait for the child to cry to comfort him, and then reason with the child. Children over 3 years old can be reasonable.
If children often lose their temper, parents should take the initiative to communicate with kindergarten teachers to understand their children's performance in kindergarten and find out the crux of the problem. For example, it may be that the child had an argument with other children in kindergarten and then pointed to the crux of the child.
Children who refuse to take a nap can take a toy to kindergarten.
Sun Yu, the teacher of Kailuan, said that the performance of some children made the teacher have a headache. Other children went to take a nap at noon, but no matter how comforting the teacher was, he refused to take a nap. This is actually a manifestation of "separation anxiety". For such children, parents can communicate with kindergarten teachers, let children bring a favorite toy to kindergarten, let children sleep with toys, reduce their loneliness, and let children transfer their attachment to their mothers to toys.
At the same time, parents also need to communicate with kindergarten teachers to let them know their children's sleeping habits, whether they like to sleep with lullabies or being patted. Teachers' understanding of these special situations of children is conducive to their rest.