Difficulties are the best shield for people who like to avoid responsibility. You may have heard that many people blame their failure on their lack of college education-for these people, if they do have a college education, they can still find various reasons for themselves. Mature people don't. They will try their best to overcome difficulties instead of making excuses to escape.
Alexander bell once complained to his friends, Yue Se and Henry, that his work was not smooth, which was entirely due to his lack of knowledge about electrical machinery. Joseph henry is the principal of an engineering school in Washington, DC. Although he agreed with Bell, he didn't say to Bell, "Unfortunately, Alexander, it's unfortunate that you didn't have a chance to study electrical engineering!" In this case, Bell was not told how to apply for a grant or how to ask his parents for help. He simply told him:
"Go and read!"
Unsurprisingly, alexander bell took a course in electrical engineering, and finally became a person who made great contributions to communication science in history.
Perhaps the greatest difficulty in life is poverty. So, will poverty be the most powerful reason for failure?
US President herbert hoover was the son of a blacksmith in Iowa and later became an orphan; Thomas watson, the chairman of IBM, worked as a bookkeeper when he was young, earning only two yuan a week; A Duo Zuko, a famous producer, once worked as an assistant in a fur dealer, earning only two yuan a week.
None of these famous successful people think that poverty is their obstacle. They put all their energy into their work, so they have no time to feel sorry for themselves.
Robert louis stevenson was ill all his life, but he didn't want his illness to affect his life and work. People who associate with him think that he is very cheerful and energetic, and every line he writes fully shows this spirit. Because he is unwilling to give in to his physical defects, his literary works are more colorful.
Many world-famous figures in history have their own physical shortcomings. For example, Sir Byron had a deformed foot, Julius Caesar suffered from epilepsy, Beethoven later became deaf due to illness, Napoleon was a famous dwarf, Mozart suffered from liver disease, franklin roosevelt suffered from polio, and Helen Keller was deaf and blind since childhood. Singer Jane F. Lomonte was seriously injured in an airplane accident. Thanks to her indomitable spirit, she not only recovered, but also became a famous singer. Susan boyle, a famous actress, once sawed off a leg, but this did not affect her happy married life. She was very active in the film industry until her death.
Bernard Shaw is impatient with those who often complain about the bad environment. He said: "people often complain that their environment is not smooth, so they have not achieved anything." I don't believe this statement. If you can't get the environment you want, you can create one! "
The fact is that if people feel that the environment is not good all day, they will certainly blame their mistakes on "defects" or other reasons. When I was young, I was often discouraged because I was taller than others. After several years, I gradually understand that height, like many other congenital conditions, can have advantages and disadvantages, depending on my attitude.
If others have two legs, I only have one leg; If others are rich, I am poor; If I am fat, thin, beautiful, ugly, blond, black, shy or enterprising-anything that makes us different may be our defect-as long as you think so!
Immature people can always regard their differences as defects and obstacles, and then expect special treatment. Mature people, on the other hand, realize their differences first, and then see if they want to accept or improve.
Life is not a smooth journey of happiness, but always swings between luck and misfortune, sinking and floating, light and darkness. We can't bury our heads in the sand like ostriches, refuse to face all kinds of troubles, and the troubles will not be solved. Suffering is a part of life, and only when faced with reality can it be a mature performance.
The most common mistake made by immature people is to shrink back from things and dare not face the reality. Many children often refuse to play games because they have no chance of winning, but mature adults don't. They will try again until they succeed.
Michael joined the army at the age of 2/kloc-0 and was ordered to participate in the war between Israel and Arabia. His eyes were badly hurt in a battle, so he couldn't see. Although he has suffered so many injuries, his personality is still very distinct. He often plays jokes on other patients and gives his cigarettes and sugar to his good friends.
The doctors tried their best to restore Michael's sight. One day, the attending doctor personally walked into Michael's room and said to him:
"Michael, you know I always like to tell the truth to patients and never cheat them. Michael, I want to tell you now that your eyesight can't be restored. "
Time seems to have stopped and the room was silent.
"I know, doctor." Michael finally broke the silence and calmly replied, "In fact, I knew this would happen. Thank you very much for putting so much effort into me. "
A few minutes later, Michael said to his friend:
"I don't think I have any reason to despair. Yes, my eyes are blind, but I can still listen and speak well! My body is very strong, not only can I walk, but also my hands are very sensitive. Besides, as far as I know, the government can help me learn a skill to make a living. What I need now is to adapt to the new life. "
This is Michael. A blind soldier with good eyesight. Because I am busy calculating the happiness I have, I have no time to curse my misfortune. This is 100% maturity-that is, the way we face problems.
God does not favor anyone. As a person, we all have to go through some hardships, just as we have experienced many joys. Life itself will teach us sooner or later that we are all equal in the bitter experience. Whether they are kings or beggars, poets or farmers, men or women, when they face pain, loss, trouble or suffering, they all suffer the same pain. Immature people, no matter what age, will show special pain or complain, because they don't understand that all kinds of hardships in life, birth, illness, death or other misfortunes are actually the necessary stages of life. People who hide in the volute will never grow up. Only by bravely abandoning the shield, taking action and challenging difficulties can we change our destiny and reach the other side of success.