Frustration is the so-called "hitting a nail." The road of life can't be smooth sailing, there will always be bumps, just like there will be dark clouds in the clear sky, wolves will come to the beautiful grassland, and the calm sea will set off huge waves. Frustration is a part of people's life, which is inevitable; Frustration is unpleasant, but it can be controlled; Frustration is a school that can teach people to learn to live. Contemporary middle school students grew up in a very smooth environment. They were soaked in honey water. Therefore, they are more likely to suffer setbacks in life and study. For them, when they encounter setbacks, they are often at a loss and often suffer heavy losses. After being frustrated, it is often manifested as: aggressive behavior, fleeing behavior, sloppy behavior, stubborn behavior, and various revenge behaviors. Therefore, it is very necessary to educate students about setbacks and let them know and understand setbacks. When educating students about setbacks, teachers should teach students to enhance their frustration ability, which is particularly important in mental health education.

Suhomlinski, a great educational practitioner in the former Soviet Union, believes that children must be taught that life has a difficult word, which cannot be separated from labor, sweat and calloused hands, so that when they grow up, they will greatly shorten the social adaptation period and improve their ability to withstand setbacks. As the song "True Hero" sings: "How can you see a rainbow without experiencing wind and rain? No one can succeed casually. "

So, how to educate middle school students about setbacks?

First, a correct understanding of setbacks

Help students correctly understand setbacks and make them understand that setbacks are inevitable in life and study. For example, some students are criticized for their unsatisfactory exam results, resulting in negative emotions of not wanting to study; Some students are tired of learning because of the weak conditions of some courses. For example, in physical education class, some students are fat, have poor quality, have no self-confidence and are tired of learning. They don't want to play sports with everyone in the class. At this time, the teacher needs to pay more attention to her, guide her, discover her advantages with her classmates, encourage her, cheer her up, help him build up confidence and avoid "broken pots and broken falls". Tell him that setbacks are not terrible, and turn them into a driving force for progress. With the help of teachers and classmates, he finally made progress.

Second, create frustration situations.

A few years ago, the summer camp competition in Sun Yunxiao caused an uproar in the society. More and more people realize that it is necessary to create certain frustration situations for students as a way to hone them and get what they can do. Our children are too fragile to stand a little setback now. The ancient method of "hanging the beam from the head and biting the cone into the bone" is worth learning. With certain setbacks, students will always be exercised. Is it not true that the Japanese advocate "hardship education"? It is an exercise to let children walk in shorts in winter. Of course, it is not to say that our classmates should do the same, but it is worth taking as a way of exercise and a means. Therefore, consciously give students a little frustration in their usual study and life, let them suffer a little and benefit for life.

Third, treat setbacks correctly.

Let the students understand that there will always be setbacks in the process of progress. Without hard training, like flowers in a greenhouse, there is no exuberant vitality. The edge of the sword comes from sharpening, and the fragrance of plum blossoms comes from bitter cold. When designing educational activities, let students feel pain, hone their will and grow their ability. The same is true of subject teaching. When students are intoxicated with their achievements and get carried away, teachers can consciously design some difficult topics to give students a failure and let them hone their will in a depressed environment.

Educate students to work hard when encountering setbacks, sum up experience in failures, take setbacks as the driving force, overcome many difficulties and achieve success.

One of my students usually studies hard, and his parents have high expectations of him. I hope he can be admitted to a key middle school. To this end, he made efforts. However, the results of further studies are not ideal. From then on, he was devastated and very depressed. Seeing all this, I chatted with him and told him that failure is not terrible. We must bravely overcome setbacks and stand up. (inspirational www.lz 13.cn) I told him the story of Zhang Haidi and the story of Paul. After many heart-to-heart talks, he began to calmly analyze the reasons for his failure and cheer up. After entering middle school, through my own efforts, my academic performance has been among the best.

The key to infiltrating frustration education in teaching lies in how to treat setbacks correctly. Therefore, it is beautiful to infiltrate the ideal in teaching, but it is a long, tortuous and arduous education to realize the ideal. Encourage students to have the courage to overcome difficulties, not afraid of difficulties and setbacks.

Fourth, strengthen psychological counseling and attach importance to individual education.

(1) Understand and trust students and eliminate opposing emotions. Objection is a kind of rebellious psychological reflection after students are frustrated. Teachers should improve their ideological understanding and strengthen their rationality through positive education and heart-to-heart talks. Because every teenager has strong self-esteem and self-motivation, and is eager to get respect, trust and encouragement from others, it is necessary to seek their opinions and safeguard their self-esteem when something happens; At the same time, I believe that students will make progress. We should create a relaxed and harmonious environment and eliminate opposing emotions.

(2) Praise encourages students to eliminate inferiority. Teachers and parents should not be too eager to educate students, let alone criticize them in public. Instead, we should put forward goals and tasks according to the principle of teaching students in accordance with their aptitude and step by step, so that students can always feel that they can jump and touch, let them experience the joy of success, enhance their confidence and perseverance, and eliminate their inferiority. At the same time, he is good at discovering the bright spots of students, and using the law of migration to transform students' achievements in A into confidence in B, that is, the so-called stones from other mountains can attack jade.

Every student will encounter setbacks, which requires our teachers to give them appropriate guidance after they encounter setbacks. The road ahead is tortuous. As long as you find the right direction and persevere, you will succeed. Marx said, "There is no royal road to science, and only those who climb along steep mountain roads can hope to reach the glorious summit." I think this sentence will always push us forward.

In short, setbacks are temporary and permanent, and the ability to resist setbacks should run through a person's growth. Western education and mental health experts all believe that people's good attitude towards setbacks is acquired through constant setbacks and difficulties in childhood and adolescence, and so is the so-called "learning from mistakes". Students' sound psychology, especially good will quality, is also formed and developed in the study, life and practical activities, and in the struggle against setbacks and difficulties. If life is compared to a sharp knife, then frustration is an indispensable stone. In order to make the knife of youth sharper, let our students bravely face the tempering of setbacks!