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I heard a story about my daughter's classmate's home when I was chatting with my neighbor recently. I was deeply moved. Let's talk about children's education:

Let me briefly talk about this classmate's family situation. Her family belongs to a typical family of "the man is the master outside and the woman is the master inside", and it is also a widowed family education model.

What does this mean?

When the child is growing up, because his father has been working hard in other places for a long time, he goes home for a weekend every 2-3 weeks, and then he is away at other times.

For a long time, the mother has been at home, responsible for the children's food, clothing, housing and transportation, as well as all the requirements for their education, study guidance and daily play.

The most frustrating thing is that my mother is doing all these things without any help or response. What depresses the mother most is that the father of the child seems to have never grown up, and the child has grown up and gone to school, but the father of the child is still very playful. Even if he goes home occasionally, he still has to take time out for dinner and get together with friends, just like when he is single. When I get home after eating and drinking, I always lie on the sofa with my children. Hehe, where is the time?

Once a child does not study well, it is not only the child who is unlucky, but also the child's mother: "Take the child at home every day, and the child still learns like this. What can you do? "

Yes, that's the father. He naively thinks: I work hard to make money outside every day. Why can't I do such a simple thing just by watching a child do his homework?

So, what happened to the family and children later? We'll talk later.

Let's start with a stay-at-home mom. What should we do in the face of widowhood and parenting?

Former US President Barack Obama once said, "I won't be president all my life, but I will be a good father all my life."

He once said that one of his proudest things was that he never missed his daughter's parents' meeting even during the February/Kloc-October presidential campaign.

Children's education needs the cultivation and companionship of both parents. Without his father's company and education, it is like losing half a wing for a child, which may have a great influence on the development of his character.

For example: insecurity, loneliness, lack of self-confidence, inner loneliness, etc. And some problems that may arise in the process of interacting with classmates, etc.

You know, the whole educational environment has changed now. From this educational environment, children's education is a very important thing in many families. I hope that children can change their class through education and make themselves suffer less in the future, which has become a tacit idea of many parents.

In recent years, after weighing the balance between family education and career development and considering various factors such as family conditions, many mothers around them finally chose to return to the family or put family first. In this way, the monthly income is reduced, but in the long run, the influence of companion education on children is positive, effective and meaningful enough.

The environmental and social changes faced by children today are completely different from our parents and our childhood. Parents' ideas should naturally keep up.

There is a saying on the Internet that a mother's affection and education for her children is the feng shui of a family. The father's model determines the direction of the family.

Children's education must require the joint efforts of both parents to achieve the best results. Father is the first male image that children come into contact with in life. He shoulders the responsibility of helping children better understand the world and broaden their horizons. From dad, children can easily learn the personality characteristics of courage, decisiveness and rational logic.

We ask ourselves a question: if we tutor our children at home full-time, will we feel that we have no income when we don't go to work, will we feel useless and feel safe? Do you feel that you have not realized your self-worth?

If you think so, then in raising children at home, perhaps the mother also feels lost, or from the heart, extremely insecure about herself.

Actually, it's not necessary

We should realize that accompanying children is also a process of self-cultivation and growth. Accompanying children is also a very important job. Children only grow up for a few years. At the age of three, they look older, and at the age of seven, they look older. It's fleeting During this time, children get enough companionship, which is their eternal spiritual wealth.

At this stage, the mother has gained the experience of parenting, the love for her children, the improvement of her mood, the decision to deal with problems, and the planning for her next life. Isn't this a stage of progress? Wouldn't it be a better start to learn from it and develop your own sideline?

So mothers should enjoy the time with their children with peace of mind. The sweetness of parent-child relationship and love from children are the best gifts. With the mother's faith and trust in herself and the growth of her children, she can spend more time on her own growth.

Mom, only by stepping out of the obsession of a perfect mother such as "selfless dedication" and "being a mother is strong", admitting that she will be out of control, anxious and irritable, and will need the approval of others, combing her emotions from the heart, knowing herself and loving herself, can she please the feelings of suppressing grievances and regain growth and rebirth.

Only when a mother falls in love with herself can she have a stable mood, take good care of her children and give them a good guide. Therefore, whether it is a full-time mother or a working mother, it is good to educate children and confidently recognize their own values. No one can blame mom at will, after all, not everyone can see behind the efforts.

And what about the mother of the child's classmate? Now I have found a job near my home, and I have changed from seeking outside to practicing inside. The whole mood is getting better and better. In terms of children's education, we have also changed our strategy, but unfortunately, in the treatment of mother's depression, children are rarely managed. At present, they are at the bottom of the academic class and are still influenced by many factors. Alas.

Children's education needs the joint efforts of parents!