How to correctly cultivate children's three views, children are born with a blank sheet of paper, and many parents will worry about their education. It is the wish of all parents in the world to educate their children well. Let's share with you how to correctly cultivate children's three views.
How to correctly cultivate children's three views 1 1 and insist on setting an example?
Parents are the first teachers of the children. As the saying goes, "like father, like son", that is to say, a large part of children's behavior is to imitate their parents. Therefore, if children want to have a correct world outlook, outlook on life and values, they must persist in setting an example.
Don't shirk your responsibilities at work, take on family responsibilities in life and spend more time with your children. In the process of getting along with children, we can tell them right and wrong step by step, and cultivate their independent thinking ability. Therefore, if parents want to guide their children correctly, they must first take care of themselves and don't want their children to be greedy and delay their studies. Then they should not leave their mobile phones, play games and brush videos every day.
2. Keep a kind heart.
Some parents have no scruples about swearing in front of their children, and always talk to others in a threatening tone, even dismissing people who are not as good as themselves in their professional and material lives. Such behavior is easy for children to form habits, and most of the bad habits such as bullying and insulting classmates, disrespecting elders and fighting are learned from parents' manners.
Many parents can't treat people around them with a kind heart, and the consequence of bad words is that their children are also infected with anger. Therefore, as parents, we should be kind-hearted, broad-minded, and let our children feel the same. After all, kindness is the most precious virtue of human beings.
3. find an example for your child
Many parents don't know the power of role models. In fact, having a good example is a very good way for children to establish a correct outlook on life. Once upon a time, we learned from Lei Feng, followed Comrade Lei Feng's example, and learned his precious moral character and enthusiasm for serving the people wholeheartedly.
Now many parents don't set an example, they just "nag". Such nagging education is counterproductive for children to establish correct three views. Therefore, as parents, they can find a good example for their children, let them judge right and wrong through the example, have their own ideas and opinions, and cultivate their independent thinking and personality.
4. Create a good family atmosphere
School is the place to impart knowledge to children, while family is the place to cultivate children's character. In a harmonious family, children will become gentle and kind, while in an unharmonious environment, children will become withdrawn and even rebellious, which is a great obstacle to their growth. Therefore, it is necessary to have a good family atmosphere and cultivate children's good character and good temper.
To establish a correct three views, we should start from an early age, and they all say "look at the old at the age of three." Parents are the key to whether children can grow up healthily and have a healthy psychology. Giving children more companionship and better education is a compulsory course for parents. Educating children is also a process of facing up to yourself.
How to correctly cultivate children's three views 2 1? Teach children to learn how to manage money: cultivate children's correct values and let them know their parents' salary and the standard of monthly expenditure. You buy things for the children, and the children pay and keep accounts. This will not only let children know how to be grateful, know how to control consumption, but also cultivate their sense of family responsibility.
2, refuse to spoil children: don't give children everything they want, so it is easy to develop children's excessive self-centeredness, can not be obedient to children, and produce a lot of comparison psychology.
3. Observe the children's friends: If most of the children's friends are keen on economic comparison, and the children are not as good as others, it is easy to get disgusted with their parents. In order to get the children near Zhu Zhechi, the mother moved three times. If children's friends are willing to learn and communicate with each other, then children will be willing to learn in order to integrate into nature.
4. Keep children optimistic: Whether children are positive and optimistic has a lot to do with family environment, harmonious relationship between parents and healthy hobbies. If the mood is positive and optimistic, children's preferences and pursuits will not be just material enjoyment.
5. Change the focus of children's comparison: In fact, a sense of comparison can be understood as a sense of competition. It is also a good thing if parents can grasp their children's psychology and guide them to compare in learning, talent, perseverance and good habits.
6. Parents should be strict with themselves: don't compare their children with other people's children, which will only make children become negative and have a comparison mentality; Don't compare between adults, but guide children to learn to compare with themselves, compare their own this time with the last time, and compare today with yesterday.
How to correctly cultivate children's three views? 1. Does the criterion of judging right or wrong absolutely come from family and parents?
Lead by example. Parents are children's first enlightenment teachers, and their values, world outlook and outlook on life directly affect the germination and formation of children's values, world outlook and outlook on life. Therefore, parents should read more books, communicate more, think more and feel more, especially pay attention to absorbing nutrition in promoting Chinese excellent traditional culture.
Parents' values, world outlook and outlook on life have improved, they can correctly answer various questions raised by their children, and they can convey positive energy to their children through words and deeds to promote positive growth. Most of the influence on children comes from family members, but it is not absolute.
Second, we must adopt different education methods for different children.
Teaching students in accordance with their aptitude. It can be said that today's children are very smart, and every one is a genius. "Destiny is nature, frankness is Tao". This is the most important educational concept in China's traditional culture. It is an irrefutable truth to discover a child's talent and nature, and let it be fully developed and released. Parents and schools should be good at discovering, cultivating, achieving and caring for geniuses.
But in the process of cultivating children, many of them violate this truth. Inventing and designing geniuses according to their own utilitarian ideas is counterproductive and stifles genius. This situation must be prevented and corrected. Parents should correct themselves immediately.
Third, how is the correct outlook on life formed?
Every parent expects their children to have a correct outlook on life and become socially recognized people when they grow up. But as I said just now, even family education may teach children incorrect judgments. What should I do? What can be done to give children the most correct value orientation?
I think the most important thing is that parents and children constantly revise themselves together. Stubborn parents are the least desirable. As I said just now, in fact, each of us is not perfect, and we need to spend our whole lives constantly correcting and perfecting ourselves. Only when parents admit this can they educate progressive children.
Secondly, I think parents can provide their children with as many correct social group cognition as possible, such as some history books, and educate their children's cognitive judgment through historical events that do exist. Provide children with more scientific books, so that children can enrich their judgment through learning.
Therefore, sometimes the collective judgment of society is wrong, such as ancient feudal thought. At that time, the collective behavior of the whole society, tying women and tying their feet, was collectively recognized at that time, but must this be correct? Parents can usually create some platforms for their children to ask more questions, and then prove their views through some scientific theories.
Furthermore, don't define a child too early. Assuming that the child is a child of …, even adults will refute their previous views themselves, right? So are children. Even if there are some deviations in children's cognition at present, it doesn't mean that children can't realize their mistakes. Parents need active and patient guidance, and there are always some children who will re-judge right and wrong.