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Understand the seven key points of education in the touch screen era and solve the long-term parenting challenge.
Children, stop playing with mobile phones. This is written by Deborah Haettner, a famous American education expert. She has many years of educational experience and has served as a professor at Northwestern University and Depaul University. It is a set of practical guidance programs provided by the author for worried parents, so that we can learn how to guide our children to master their own digital world.
Another work she published, Smart Connections in the Digital Age, was used as a textbook by American universities to help students cope with the social and emotional challenges in the digital age.
You will benefit from this book.
1. Tell you what to say and how to do when you encounter similar problems with parenting scenes that parents feel the same way.
2. Guide children to use electronic equipment wisely and stay away from its negative effects.
3. In children's different age stages, conduct positive guidance according to the actual situation, and intelligently reduce children's "screen reading time", so that children not only know when to say "no" to temptation, but also know how to make better use of scientific and technological products.
Next, let's talk about the core content of this book.
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Why do we need to guide children to use mobile phones?
/kloc-The 0/3-year-old boy left without saying goodbye and took his mobile phone at home to play the glory of the king;
The deposit of 20,000 yuan was gone 10 days, but Xiong Haizi played the glory of the king and Altman OL;
/kloc-children aged 0/0 spend all their father's funeral expenses and their mother's life-saving money on rewarding the anchor;
My son was addicted to mobile gambling, spent all his parents' pension money and owed 500 thousand. ..
The power of digitalization is self-evident, and parents are beginning to have new worries: Is the future of digitalization a scourge? What kind of people will the "digital aborigines" they raised grow up to be? How to raise them scientifically and make them grow healthily?
As parents, everyone may have had such confusion. Should my children play with mobile phones? What should I do if my child has to use a mobile phone, but I want to prevent him from indulging in it?
These problems are the troubles brought to us by the "touch screen era".
So what is the "touch screen era"? The so-called touch screen era refers to the era when touch-sensitive smart devices such as smart phones and tablet computers quickly enter people's lives, and people of almost all ages like to use these devices.
As a product of the development of science and technology, touch screen equipment brings convenience to our study, life and work, but the development of everything has its two sides-"advantages and disadvantages".
From the convenience point of view, children in the touch screen era have unlimited opportunities, and related cooperation, creation and sharing activities are much easier than before. However, the digital world is full of complicated interpersonal relationships.
Dealing with interpersonal relationships through interaction on the Internet requires certain skills, such as how to respond appropriately to others and how to judge privacy security according to different environments. These methods and techniques are based on correct values.
Therefore, it is very important for parents to set an example and convey correct values to their children.
Moreover, every article we publish and share in the digital world is actually creating a field with our own personal style, which will have a certain impact on ourselves and others.
Because children are still in the stage of self-exploration, they don't know much about the rules and details of the digital world. Just like walking a tightrope in the virtual world, some mistakes will inevitably occur, and some mistakes will even have a very bad influence, which requires the correct guidance of parents.
Nowadays, electronic entertainment emerges one after another, occupying a lot of time in people's lives. It is more difficult than ever to choose how to spend time in the right place and how to use electronic products reasonably.
Only with the correct help and guidance of adults can children learn to control those distractions and concentrate on all the work, which requires great efforts from parents.
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How to guide children to live a better life with technology products?
Children's future success depends on whether they really have strong digital skills and healthy interpersonal relationships.
So, how should we guide children to live a better life by using technology products? Here are seven educational keywords for you.
As parents, we must believe in ourselves and realize that our understanding and needs for children are better than others'. Whatever you do, don't give up easily.
Although some situations are beyond your control, you can actively and consciously guide your children and manage various electronic devices accordingly. At the same time, encourage family members to be considerate when using social media, avoid conflicts and unnecessary troubles, and lay the foundation for the success of children's online socialization.
As parents, we should accept our children's digital world with an open mind and sincere attitude. Through constant intervention, in-depth understanding, sincere discussion with your children, and understanding their common applications, these are all good methods.
Only by understanding the positive side of technology can we see the great potential of technology. As parents who take a positive view of technology, we should encourage children to use various applications correctly on the one hand, and use technology to solve problems on the other.
If under your guidance, children can not only use technology to solve their own problems, but also know how to switch between the online world and the real world, then they can calmly cope with any challenges that may arise in life.
It is a good way to guide children to the bright side of the Internet, let them learn to identify and evaluate the media platforms they use, and cultivate their creative thinking and social critical ability during the game.
Parents should guide their children to master the etiquette of digital communication and avoid excessive sharing. It is necessary to teach children to establish empathy, that is, to understand empathy and learn to understand and appreciate the feelings of others. For example, you can only share other people's photos with their consent, so as to show respect for others.
Parents can show their children how to maintain good interpersonal relationships by respecting their wishes, so that children can make better choices when dealing with the new media environment. Encouraging children to communicate with others by email and telephone is a good way to train their related skills.
5. Create a healthy family education environment
Children often establish their own values and codes of conduct by observing their parents' words and deeds. In order to let children know that we are the people who control mobile phones, parents should set an example, strictly control the time when children use electronic devices, set a good example for children, and let children understand the role of technology products in family life.
You can also create some unplugged family activities, let them do more things themselves, play some treasure hunting games or do physical training, so that offline life becomes more meaningful. Or create some space to encourage children to create content, so as to balance the time of using electronic devices.
6. Guide children to set the boundaries of making friends.
In a sense, social media has redefined the concept of friends. So, how to help children grasp the boundaries of making friends? Here are some useful methods:
For example, let your children talk about which posts are positive and which are negative, encourage them to express their views, cultivate social awareness and help them make friendly friends. This method is very effective on any platform.
As parents, we need to often discuss with our children what we should share with others, when we can obey others and when we should stick to our own opinions. Help children draw their own conclusions confidently and give them positive feedback.
7. Restrain the "distraction" of children.
In the case that electronic devices must be used for homework, on the one hand, parents need to help their children avoid using two electronic devices at the same time;
On the other hand, children can be arranged to complete all offline homework within a certain time limit before doing online homework. Children should be willing to accept interference interception software, such as anti-addiction plug-ins, and use technology to suppress technology.
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The key ultimate goal of the seven major educations is to let children become their own "equipment stewards". At this stage, children can deal with the following problems:
How to use all kinds of social media correctly, cultivate privacy awareness, and have a correct understanding and rational handling of sexy photos;
Fully aware of the dangers of over-sharing;
Learn to manage your digital footprint and so on.
In the digital age, children's future success will depend on whether they have correct cognition and digital skills, which will not only make them resist the bad interference on the Internet and become more wise, but also determine whether they can succeed in interpersonal communication.
In this growing process, parents will play an important role. Parents are role models for children to learn, and their technical ability will affect your parenting ability, leadership ability and teaching ability.
As a necessary parenting manual for parents, "Children, Stop Playing with Mobile Phone" will teach you how to improve digital literacy in the new era, become a qualified tutor, and lead children to ride the wind and waves together in the digital world to meet a better future.