Coaxing men is a woman's wisdom.
Coaxing men is a woman's wisdom. A woman's heart should be soft. What I especially admire in Tao Te Ching is water. Women are made of water. Grasp the character of water, and everything in water conservancy will be indisputable. What a high level this is.
What moves you most about women? What is clear is language. Therefore, a woman's elegance, gentleness and euphemism is one of her virtues. Remember, don't talk because you are beautiful, and don't talk because you are ugly. Talking is a woman's skill.
I know an excellent woman who came to me crying: "My man divorced me, and he found an uglier woman than me. I can't stand it. " If I find a woman who looks better than me, I can understand. "She felt really hurt. I asked the woman what she had, and she said that she had no skill, and her only skill was cheating. Oh, I said it was a skill. Coaxing men is a skill. If you say that's not a skill. If you know everything, you won't coax a man. Isn't that a skill?
Harmony between husband and wife in Teacher Sun's Harmony between husband and wife and the way to teach children;
052 tenderness is clever coquetry.
A woman's greatest skill is the word tenderness. A hot man will suddenly become a noodle in your hand. This is called combining rigidity with softness, and water can overcome fire. Men are just a fire, and women are as soft as water. This is the different nature of men and women, and excellent women regard this as a science. I know a woman who has several sisters. They often talk about how to make the family harmonious. Any woman who can handle a family is good at talking. She is excellent in herself, with a successful career and a harmonious family. Her husband is notoriously short-tempered at work and has a certain position. Once he gets angry, no one in the unit dares to speak. But he was afraid that he was on fire. As soon as his wife called, he changed his tone and his anger disappeared at once. Everyone wants to know what method she used to make this man so obedient. She said, just kidding. Men have to be coaxed. Just coax a man.
From this perspective, many of us women have taken a turning point. You're not kidding, you're teasing. There was no fire, so you made a fire. Therefore, we must learn to be gentle and coquettish. I don't see anything wrong with women.
P50-5 1: When the heart is soft, the language is sweet. When a person's inner harmony is good, she will solve the bad words to anyone with dignity and low profile. Her language does not refute, but convinces you. She uses gentle language to resolve any contradiction, and she will tell you the reason why you are not angry, and a few words will make you feel very comfortable. This is not wisdom. What is this? Men also like such an understanding woman. So judging from a woman's words, your words are your heart! Words are the seedlings and portals of the soul! Never underestimate a person's speaking ability. Being able to speak also reflects her inner beauty. If the inside is not beautiful, the language will not be beautiful. First of all, you must be gentle, knowledgeable and wise in your bones, and you can speak softly. This is all learning, you have to learn.
? Harmony between husband and wife in Sun's Harmony between husband and wife and the way to teach children:? 05 1 Women's words are a virtue of women.
P49-50:？ Women's words are a virtue of women! What do you think women do nowadays? It's basically like cockfighting. All you have to do is say something to her, and you'll be furious. She always quarrels with you, and she is angry at any mistake you make, so angry that you faint like a sword and a gun. She's totally practicing your concentration. Nowadays, both men and women have a lot of cancers, all out of anger. You are angry with others, and others are angry with you, so this family is getting more and more angry, just like being tied in an explosive bucket.
P50: Now many women don't understand that women need to find their own attributes. Instead, she learns from men. Men can go straight, and men can drink whatever they like. Finally, she became a man, embarrassed herself and lost the love of others. She's beautiful. But I can't listen to her. It's too straight, choking. I have a bad relationship with my in-laws because I can't express it in words. Many people don't live with their in-laws. I am afraid that being a daughter-in-law will easily offend my in-laws. In fact, she can't talk.
Reading and sharing: When children are young, they can't even speak clearly and don't know how to be a person. Where can they learn to treat people? Inspired by the education of parents and elders, lead the demonstration.
? The secret of motherhood:
1. The more fashionable you are, the more confident your child will be;
2. The more beautiful you are, the more proud your child is;
3. The more enterprising you are, the more diligent your children will be;
4. The more you insist on being yourself, the more independent your child will be;
5. The more you know how to give love, the more sunny your child is;
6. The more honest and friendly you are, the more upright your children will be.
7. The more personality you have, the nobler your children will be.
8. The more knowledgeable you are, the more children love reading.
9. The more modest and kind you are, the more easygoing and happy your children will be.
-A mother should live a wonderful life, even for her children.
Song Cuilin shared yesterday's activities …
As the tree, so the fruit. My own understanding is that life is like a wheat field. Some people only know how to harvest wheat with sickles, but they don't know how to grow wheat. But only by planting good wheat and working hard can we gain more. Some people work hard, but they may not succeed, because these are just help. Taking the heart is like focusing on the harvest. How much you can get depends on how many seeds you plant. Pay the heart, now in all kinds of seeds, wait patiently, one day there will be greater gains.
Wenwen Jiang Mumu realized and shared yesterday:
? The happiness of life has two veins: the blessing vein and the wisdom vein. The blessing pulse determines the size of people's blessings, and filial piety follows the blessing pulse. As we all know, even the best mobile phone, if there is no power supply, all functions can't be started, and so can people. Only by linking with parents can we fully absorb the energy of the universe. Our relationship with our parents is like the relationship between a mobile phone and a charger. Wisdom pulse determines a person's ability to solve troubles, respect teachers and follow wisdom pulse. ? The so-called Tao refers to the laws of nature, and the teacher is like a pipeline, constantly conveying these laws to us. Respect for teachers is not just talk, it must be integrated into our bone marrow and blood.
Lilac realized and shared yesterday that happiness in life has two veins: blessing and wisdom. The blessing pulse determines the size of a person's blessing, followed by filial piety. As we all know, even the best mobile phone, if there is no power supply, all functions can't be started, and so can people. Only by linking with parents can we fully absorb the energy of the universe. Our relationship with our parents is like the relationship between a mobile phone and a charger.
? Wisdom pulse determines a person's ability to solve troubles, respect teachers and follow wisdom pulse. ?
The so-called Tao refers to the laws of nature, and the teacher is like a pipeline, constantly conveying these laws to us. Respect for teachers is not just talk, it must be integrated into our bone marrow and blood.
Reading and sharing: Old people with grandchildren are ancestors and the roots of their families. Couples have children and become parents like tree trunks. Trunk is more important than career. Roots have rich experience to educate future generations to understand life. This is family education.
Harmony between husband and wife in Sun's Harmony between husband and wife and the way to teach children:? 049 be a virtuous woman:
Three mother gods appeared in the Zhou Dynasty: Tai Jiang, Tai Pregnancy and Tai Si. Tai Jiang is Zhou's empresses. She is a very wise person. Her daughter-in-law is pregnant and so is her grandson's daughter-in-law. These three mothers were the key figures who laid the great foundation of the Zhou Dynasty and carried out behind-the-scenes projects, and the official history spoke highly of them. These three mothers know how to bring the best, highest and greatest virtues of women into full play.
P48-49: What is a woman's highest virtue? "Women's Commandment" says: "Women have four virtues: first, women's virtue, second, women's words, third, women's appearance, and fourth, women's merits. Female virtue: don't be different; There is no need to argue with a woman's words; Women's faces don't need beautiful colors; Women's jobs: You don't have to be smart. Quiet, chastity, neatness, being ashamed of one's behavior, and behaving appropriately are called the virtues of women. Words and sentences are women's words, not bad words, but words spoken, so don't tire others. Wash away dirt, dress fresh and clean, take a bath in time, not dirty and not shameful, which is called a woman's face. It's a woman's job to concentrate on spinning, not laughing, and tidy up the tables and serve the guests. These four are indispensable for a woman's virtue. " In fact, there are four words around virtue: master.
Share real water without fragrance:
Once again, when I can clearly perceive my mind, I consciously adjust my behavior and heart, and feel much more relaxed.
1. I am a very lucky person, and I have been helped by many people, but in practice, I haven't done enough, I haven't accumulated happiness, and my savings are too small. Huimai's energy is still insufficient, and problems in life are endless. Every time I meet something new, I still don't have enough wisdom to solve my troubles.
The so-called getting through the second pulse of Ren Du should also be the time when the internal energy is sufficient. It is a coincidence that, together with external forces, a wonderful situation is achieved. At present, I have a long way to go.
I also realized all the troubles caused by not accepting myself in my heart. Only on the basis of the present can we grow. Accepting yourself and accepting the status quo is the first step.
2. The harmony between people and social relations is generally a kind of balance. This kind of balance is a kind of dynamic balance, which can be adjusted in time in the face of changes. Material and spiritual needs to be balanced, so do individuals, a family, a team, a country and the whole society. Of course, spirit is the guide, higher than matter. However, this height should not be empty, but should be combined with reality.
3. The relationship between self-interest and altruism.
Personal survival needs a certain foundation and premise. Egoism is the first level.
On the basis of self-interest, realize the needs of others and consider for others. This is the second level.
Realizing that there is no difference between others and yourself, the process of altruism can feel the improvement of energy, that is, the process of altruism and the process of self-interest are integrated. This is the third level.
I vaguely felt that there was a fourth kind, but I never realized it. The third is the direction and goal of my current efforts.
On the way back, I saw the green bristlegrass on the roadside, and my fingers felt so soft that I felt everything was great.
Harmony between husband and wife in Teacher Sun's Harmony between husband and wife and the way to teach children;
? 053, can you be coquettish and play dumb?
P5 1: Can you be coquettish or play dumb? We call coquetry and playing the fool the two weapons to conquer men. Can you be coquettish? Generally, a girl whose family is not warm can't be spoiled. She has a bone and a thorn in her heart. Girls who are spoiled by their parents, have tutors and are full of sunshine will be spoiled.
After listening to our class, many women who are said to look like men practice coquetry at home. But even if the language is coquetry, it is not harmonious if the heart is not gentle. Tenderness and coquetry are entirely internal, not technical. Why did the ancients in China talk about women's virtue? It's the Tao, which emanates from the bones. We should have the art of being a woman, that is, soft wisdom, which is a virtue of women.
Many women always say that there is something wrong with each other, but in fact, women often have the final say in family relationships. Women's energy field is 16 times that of men, and women have the ability to change their partners and children. If a woman is not 100% devoted to this relationship, a man can feel it. Why do men need love, why do women need to care about him and be gentle with him? Because his nature is to look for his mother, his soul has been looking for the warmth and love of his mother since he separated from his mother's body, and he is eager for the other party to take care of him and love him like a mother.
p 5 1； Many people think that men are strong by appearance, but they don't know that men are the most vulnerable. He wants women to love him most. A woman can't change a man, but if she accepts all his advantages and disadvantages, she will change herself, otherwise he will always resist. In fact, children are also like this.