Some time ago, Xiong Haizi's incident of hitting people with toys was exposed. The thing is this: a child was playing with a water bomb toy in the community and accidentally bumped into another child. The child felt particularly painful at that time, and the parents of the child who was beaten were distressed and asked who hit him. But at this time? Murder? The child's mother shouted to him. What are you doing to my child? Will it be more civilized for children? What qualities! ? Pretend we're not wrong.
Once this video broke out on the Internet, the majority of netizens were accusing the mother. Her behavior is extremely defensive. Your child made a mistake and insulted others, saying that others have no quality. Where is her own quality? . Her behavior made netizens feel ashamed. A little thing can show the mother's morality and quality, and some even say: Forget about her biting others. From letting the children play with water bombs in a crowded place like the community, we can also see the quality of this mother, knowing that there are many people in the community and not stopping it. This irresponsible behavior also makes us feel that she is extremely lacking in quality? .
Children are copies of their parents. If the copy is wrong, the original is not much better. It is impossible to cultivate an excellent child in this way of education. If you make a mistake, you don't admit it, but you also scold others. This move makes people feel sad for their children. Being in this educational environment for a long time has a great influence on children, which may make children unruly, have no quality, be rejected by people around them, and even embark on the road of crime. The future is worrying.
How should parents ask their children when they make mistakes?
First, point out his mistakes.
Some children don't know where they are when they make mistakes. At this time, it is necessary to point out his mistakes and let him realize his mistakes and correct them.
Second, admit mistakes in time.
Many children dare not admit their mistakes and lie to avoid their responsibilities. We must guide them. Making mistakes is not terrible. It's important to admit your mistakes. Take the above case as an example. When a child hits someone with a water bomb toy, the correct way for the mother is to tell the child in time that it is wrong to hit someone with a water bomb, which will cause harm to others.
Third, apologize to others and take responsibility.
It is the least courtesy to apologize to others after doing something wrong. When a child hits someone with a water bomb, the mother should ask the child to apologize in time and check whether the other person is injured. If the other party is injured, take the initiative to ask for compensation, make others feel polite, stabilize their emotions and get forgiveness from others.
Fourth, parents become role models for their children.
We all talked about it? Children are a mirror, and parents' literacy can be seen by their behavior? . For the parent above, what she did was to bring negative education to her children, which is completely wrong. If you want your child to be an excellent person, first of all, parents should be role models for their children. In the process of children's growth, parents' words and deeds will affect their children. First of all, we must be strict with ourselves and let our children learn from us. Good quality, learn to educate children correctly.
Every time a child makes a mistake, it will become an opportunity to learn. What matters is how parents handle it, just like the parent above. Extremely defensive? The handling method is completely wrong, which gives children a negative education and has a great influence on their future. It is very important to educate children correctly. Parents' every move will become the object of children's imitation. To educate excellent children, parents should set an example and give them a good atmosphere.