If only the family is complete, will children be happy when they grow up with a father who is prone to cold violence? If parents' feelings break down, will children be happy when they grow up in an environment of endless quarrels? If the father is not ready to take responsibility, should all the faults be borne by the children? How naive the child is. As a mother, anyone with a good heart can't bear to let her children suffer ... When there is a father, how many ordinary families live the life of a single mother? ...
Only those who have really experienced despair know how wonderful it is to find hope again. My daughter gave me the courage to continue living, because I couldn't bear to leave her alone in this world. I have experienced pain and fear, and I am sober. Since my value can't be reflected here, my children can't feel warmth and love. Why not live in a different way and let them feel safe alone?
After the divorce, forced by the helplessness of life, I adjusted my status as soon as possible. At that time, I told myself: children are a gift to me, and they are the people who give me the strength to move forward. We will get better and better in the future. ...
In the following days, I took my children on business trips, went to work and lived with them 24 hours a day. I'm inseparable. With getting along with friends around him, the child's personality becomes more cheerful and his language ability is very strong. They will be good at expressing their ideas, asking me a lot of "why" and being friendly to the children around them. From her, I can't see the loneliness and sadness of single-parent children. Maybe life is deprived and there are gifts. While taking care of the child's young mind, she also exerts a subtle influence on me, heals me, makes me brave and strong, and makes me feel that I am me.
I think children from single-parent families should be "willful". When I say "willfulness" here, I don't mean that she can do whatever she wants, but I have the responsibility to guide her to do the right thing, formulate appropriate rules, and let her know that rules are rules, and once they are established, they will not be broken. The way I get along with my daughter is very simple, that is, to be her best friend. I think spiritual communication is far better than appearance.
First, I accept children's coquetry, losing their temper, crying and expressing their emotions. This is out of trust in me and will make my children really live.
Secondly, I encourage my children to talk to me about their ideas. When they are injured or make mistakes, tell me in person, and we can discuss ways to solve the problem together.
Thirdly, I allow my child to do what he likes, and support her to pursue her hobbies and constantly explore and discover new things.
Being a mother for the first time, I also have a lot to learn. Sometimes I make mistakes, and I won't be arrogant because I am a mother. It is common to lose my temper, but when I calm down, I will tell my daughter that I will apologize to my child in time and explain why I did something wrong. This is also to make her a person who dares to take responsibility and make our relationship more harmonious. I kept my word, and I promised my daughter that I would be an honest and trustworthy person.
Giving children a hug, a trust and a sense of security is a bridge between us. My children can be smart, slow-paced and naughty. She can have her own personality characteristics without any labels. I think this is what her childhood should look like. I just want her to grow up safely, healthily and happily