The baby just eats, drinks and plays every day. Seemingly relaxed and enviable, in fact, their life is not as easy as we thought. Every child is learning everything that happens around him at every moment of growing up. For them, the movement of an object, the landing of a spoon and the sound of a voice are all courses for them to learn the laws of the world. Parents are even more important teachers for children. Most of children's cognition of society, feelings of socialization and values of the world come from their parents.
A newborn baby is like a blank sheet of paper, and how parents draw it is very important. When we go out one day and see lush trees, if we say to our children, "This is a tree, green, a plant." The child will keep it in mind. However, if we tell our children, "This is a tree, red, and it is an animal." Children will undoubtedly remember it. Psychologists' research on 3-year-old children found that children of this age believe what adults say, even if what adults say is not true. Therefore, children's understanding of the authenticity of the world originally came from their parents. When we make promises to our children and break our promises, we will make them feel confused and don't know how to face the world.
Second, emotionally: let the children down.
Preschool children, especially those aged one and a half to four, are more sensitive to emotions, which is what we usually call "rebellious 2 years old". Children of this age begin to have all kinds of emotions, but they have not enough ability to control and manage those emotions. So emotions tend to get out of control. Although it is said that children's world can't be smooth sailing, they will always encounter things that disappoint and grieve them, but this is not an excuse for us to disappoint our children. As parents, we should educate and help our children to manage their emotions, instead of pushing them to the brink of emotional collapse at the beginning. Therefore, while criticizing our children for being unruly on Xiong Haizi, we should also think about why children lose their temper.
2. Education: Let children learn the behavior of breaking promises.
The structure of the human brain is very complex, but our learning process is sometimes very simple. Parents give their children an agreement and cash it at the agreed time. This is the process for children to learn what an agreement is. If parents can keep the agreement every time, then the definition of "agreement" that children learn is an unbreakable and inviolable promise. On the contrary, if parents violate the agreement from time to time, then the definition of "agreement" that children learn is a behavior that can be violated and will not bring adverse consequences to the future. In the long run, if parents don't keep the agreement, it will not only make children no longer trust their parents, but also make them grow up to be faithless people.
A simple agreement, please think twice before you act. Whether to train a child to be a person who keeps his word and is responsible for society and life, or to train a child to be a person who doesn't keep his word and can't keep his promise, the final decision is in the hands of parents.