Every child is an independent person and develops differently in all aspects. Some parents are extremely anxious when they see that their children of the same age are better than their own children in a certain industry, and try their best to let their children catch up.
However, children's development is determined by congenital genes and environmental damage in the middle and late stages, and it cannot be changed overnight. The way parents "encourage their children" will only get twice the result with half the effort.
Nowadays, many parents begin to make various learning plans for their children from childhood, from learning slowly to various counseling institutions on weekends, which makes their children breathless and have no time to play. This is often said that "children can't fall on the starting line". Therefore, parents try their best to learn more from their children than others.
However, I don't know that the educational model is extremely abnormal. Children's growth and development has its own periodicity and timeliness. Parents' sense of responsibility for their work will make their children feel at a loss, and they will think that they are not sure what their parents want, but they are not good, which will lead to inferiority complex. For children's cultural education, parents should follow the norm of "three points to teach seven points".
Children with complicated language skills will not only fail to understand, but also find it boring. Parents should try their best to communicate effectively in a concise and favorite way when educating their children. For example, in order to make children love reading more, a piece of chocolate beans or honey will be put in the book to make children feel that "books are sweet" and form their "first cognitive ability" for books.
Children's cognitive level at different ages is unique. For example, children can generally walk around at the age of one. At the age of 2, you can say some simple words. Therefore, at different ages, parents should grasp the professional ability that children should have, and cannot force children to ensure that they are beyond their actual age.
"Mirror function" means that parents should be like a mirror of their children when solving their daily behaviors. Children can reflect on themselves in all directions according to their parents' behavior. Therefore, for children, parents should not be the general goal of children's fear. They should only try their best to be themselves and let their children follow their example and communicate effectively with themselves.
In addition to cultural education, parents should also have a "seven-point system" for their children, which means that parents must wait carefully enough for their children's development trend.
The child is alone, and parents can't let the child follow according to their own needs. They should only attach great importance to the whole process of children's own rapid development and growth. I believe many parents have read the short story of "pulling hamsters for fun", so parents can't always feel that the road is so urgent. They must have fun with their children at every stage and be proud of every development trend of their children.