Is psychological counseling useful for rebellious children?
Useful, it is not only useful but also beneficial for children to rebel and disobey. Because parents are not psychologists after all, they are not sure about the psychological trends of children of different ages. So consult a psychologist, who will give you professional guidance and help you analyze your child's rebellious behavior. Find the right medicine, find the corresponding methods, and guide children's wrong customer service practices to the right track.
How to educate rebellious children?
First, communication is the premise. Parents will find it difficult to communicate with children who are obviously rebellious. We need to take part in more children's activities. By participating in children's activities, we can get to know children, care about them and close their psychological distance. Only when the heart is around can the work be completed. Parents should not always stare at their children's weaknesses, and compare their children's shortcomings with other children's strengths. When in contact with children, parents should try their best to find the advantages of children and encourage them to reduce their resistance to parents.
Second, listening is very important. Children in rebellious period are generally unwilling to communicate with their parents, which is the reason for both children and parents. On this issue, Wan Min Shuo once conducted a questionnaire survey, and 70% to 80% of children were unwilling to communicate with their parents. Their answers are "as long as what my parents say is for your own good", "everything can be linked to study" and "everything I do is wrong". In the long run, children are reluctant to tell their parents. Therefore, when communicating with children, parents should respect their children, treat them as adults and listen carefully to their demands.
Third, it is unacceptable to beat and scold. Some parents have a bad attitude towards their children in the process of interacting with rebellious children, and sometimes they are anxious to get angry. Parents are angry, and if they don't fight, they will scold, which can only be counterproductive and cause a strong rebound of children. It is certainly irrational for parents to educate their children with emotions, even to beat and scold them, which will lead to more resistance from children. Therefore, parents should not educate their children when they are impatient, irritable and not calm. After you calm down, you can communicate with your children.
Fourth, learn to let go, parents should trust their children, learn to let them go, let them handle what they can, let them decide what they can, and be lenient in disciplining them.
Fifth, give children the right to be masters of their own affairs. Don't be the master of everything for children. Learn to let go and give them a chance to show themselves.
6. The best way for parents and children to get along is to be friends. Children are willing to talk to their parents when they are happy or sad. Parents can understand their children's words and deeds from their children's standpoint, put forward good suggestions and lead their children's thoughts and lives.