China's parents' three sharp weapons: "Listen to your mother." "You shouldn't do that." "I'm doing it for your own good." Parents in China hope to make their children obedient through "repression", but what is exposed behind this is anxiety about education, which is actually forcing their children to do things they don't like. Children living in such families are either as lifeless as machines; Or break out and fight with all your might.
In fact, the repressive education model is very harmful to children, and the specific harm is as follows:
Eliminating children's learning nature, children who are often suppressed by their parents will become depressed and gradually lose their learning nature. So I dare not fight for my future. Because I am too afraid of my parents' words, I lose my confidence and have no correct understanding of myself, so I am even more afraid to move forward.
Children are more likely to rebel and aggravate the contradiction between parents and children.
Children who are depressed themselves will react more strongly when they enter the rebellious period and will oppose their parents everywhere. What should have been a harmonious parent-child relationship has become an "enemy" relationship. It is conceivable that it is difficult for children under this kind of education to form a healthy personality, and it is also difficult to feel the happiness and freedom in their growth.
It will make children hate themselves, and children who are often suppressed by their parents will become timid. They will become timid in everything they do, for fear that they will do something wrong. Even in the process of getting along with others, I am afraid, care too much about other people's ideas and lose myself. Such children are still more dependent on their parents in the future, and feel that they can accomplish nothing without their parents.
Generally speaking, this "repressive" education has many potential hazards, which can be said to be "the advantages outweigh the disadvantages", which is very unfavorable to the healthy development of children. Therefore, as parents, we must try to avoid repressive education.