When children are crying or being naughty, parents should try to avoid scolding their children loudly, especially when they are angry, and even avoid corporal punishment. If it is really the baby's fault, the mother can temporarily suppress her anger and let the child sit aside and calm down. For example, when brothers and sisters are arguing about a toy, the upset mother can take one of them away from the scene and let him sit aside for two to three minutes until the child is emotionally stable.
2. Temporarily deprive children of the right to play.
I believe that every child likes to play, but if the baby's behavior is improper, parents can temporarily deprive the child of the right to play, so that the child can be alert.
For example, "Mao Mao, you didn't tidy up after playing with toys yesterday. Mom told you, you can't leave until you put your toys away. Mom still didn't put away your toys when she saw you this morning. I hope you can put away your toys today, but you can't play with them for the time being, so wait until tomorrow. " Take advantage of this temporary punishment and deprive him of the right to play. The baby will remember it next time.
Do trivial work
Children are full of energy, and the family is prone to chaos, which will worry parents. In the long run, it will make the baby develop a habit that the house can't be sorted out, and over time, it will develop the baby's bad habits.
If you find that your baby has made a mistake in this respect, you can ask your baby to do some small work at an appropriate time, such as "Lingling, please help your mother clean the cupboard." Or "Lily, please clean the little towel". In order to cultivate children's self-care ability in life, on the one hand, it is a good way to punish children for making a mess at home.
Of course, the mother should realize that the child is still very young, and even if he is punished for doing odd jobs, the child can't do it well. In fact, the purpose of letting him do some small work is to let him know that his behavior is biased, and he will try to reduce the bad habit of screwing up the housework next time.
4. Restrict his activities.
Some babies like to climb high or run around the house. If you are not careful, you will easily fall down and make your mother sweat. In this case, their mother should limit the baby's range of activities in time and prohibit him from moving freely or running around. On the one hand, they will punish him for doing those dangerous or incorrect behaviors. On the other hand, they will protect his safety.
5. Comparative behavior.
If there are other brothers and sisters in the family and the baby shows bad behavior, the mother can "praise and criticize" the baby in front of other children, so that the child can have a sense of honor and shame, know whether his behavior is right or wrong, and stimulate his shame after doing something wrong. For example, "yesterday, mom saw your sister making a noise in the room, but she didn't listen." Do you think her sister's behavior is right? " In this way, let the baby know that other brothers and sisters have not acted like him and let him reflect.
6. Isolation mode
Children quarrel at home, and the scene is easy to get out of control. At this time, whether the baby is unreasonable or several children are quarreling together, the punishment that the mother can use is not to criticize or to beat and scold all the time. At this time, parents should calm down first, take the baby away from the scene, let the baby calm down gradually in an isolated way, and then appease the baby.
"Isolation" is not only to take away from the scene, but also to let the baby know that another way to be punished actually includes self-reflection.
7. Satisfy normal desires instead of other bad desires
When the baby was young, there were many reactions that imitated the parents' behavior. Therefore, adults should try to avoid making false demonstrations. But if the baby misbehaves in life, they can replace other bad desires with methods that satisfy the baby's normal desires. For example, when the child is noisy, the mother can take him out for a walk, play and divert his attention to replace the baby's restless mood at home.
Step 8 prepare pens and paper
I believe many parents will have this experience. As long as the baby at home picks up the brush, he will like to doodle everywhere. The clean walls, desktops, quilts and cushions at home are all baby's masterpieces. At this time, the mother should not rush to anger the baby or scold the child. Mothers can prepare pens and paper for their babies and let them draw on them. Over time, the child will understand that the next time he wants to draw, he should not scribble on the wall, but draw on the drawing board or paper.
9. Stay away from the noisy scene
When some children are alone at home, it is easy to make noise or disturb others. At this time, you can take the children away, play with them, tell him stories or play music one-on-one, and don't punish them when they are noisy. What is the reason for the children to quarrel first? Then appease him, maybe the child is crying because his parents are not around and feel insecure. Therefore, when the baby annoys his parents in a very annoying way, it is best to take the child away from the scene first. If older children have good and complete oral expression skills, they can also be encouraged to express their feelings in words instead of always blaming him.
10. Temporary side wall
Sometimes the child is really out of line. In order to make the child deeply remember what he did wrong, the mother may let the child stand on the wall for a minute or two once or twice to calm him down a little and carefully reflect and think about what he did wrong. However, when punishing children in this way, it is best not to spend too long, so as not to hurt their self-esteem.