There are three rebellious periods in children's growth. The first rebellious period is about 2 years old, the second rebellious period is 7-9 years old, and the third is 12- 15 years old.
The characteristics of children's rebellion in each time period are different. As parents, we should know in advance and think about the corresponding countermeasures.
Correct education can make children correct in time, otherwise it is easy to "go astray." Parents should also know why their children are rebellious before they know their rebellious mood.
There are several reasons why children enter the rebellious period.
1. Children will have ideological deviations when they grow up.
For children, their ideas and concepts are also in the process of growing up. As children's self-awareness becomes stronger and stronger, their awareness of the surrounding environment has also improved.
Therefore, in the process of growing up, it is inevitable that there will be ideological deviations, which will lead children to enter a period of ideological rebellion.
2. Parents' over-education has brought unacceptable pressure to children.
Improper parental education can also lead to children's ideological rebellion.
The absolute dominance of parents makes children dare to be angry and dare not speak. When the child's psychological depression reaches its peak, the child is on the verge of rebellion, and the child's psychology is also stressful.
Moreover, children are too young to know how to send negative energy, and they are easily rebellious.
The influence of children's rebellious period is not only on themselves, but also on their future growth.
1. Change previous characters.
Children's personality will change when they are rebellious. He may always be an obedient girl, but he will talk back after rebellion. Or a quiet child can easily become a grumpy character, which is easy to happen when his thoughts are rebellious, and his personality can be changed.
2. Daily behavior habits will also change.
The change of children's way of thinking leads to children's rebellion, and his future life may become cautious and irritable, especially prone to conflicts with his parents.
I often contradict my parents and don't recognize their educational ideas. Children are usually impatient with their parents when they are reasonable.
1. The first rebellious period: terrible two years old, terrible rebellion.
After the child is two years old, his self-awareness will gradually become stronger, and he will change from a "white rabbit" to a "little gray wolf".
At this time, the baby may easily embark on the road of "little devil". No matter what parents say, children always habitually add the word "no" as an answer, such as "don't eat! No shower! Do not brush your teeth! "
Children are parents' mirrors. Parents' every move will be seen in their eyes and remembered in their hearts, and their words and deeds will be reflected.
Therefore, before educating children, we must first change ourselves. The way to raise children is to practice. Parents should not often talk to their children in an "imperative" tone, and children will unconsciously remember the simplest word "no"
2. The second rebellious period: 7-9 years old.
At this time, the child went to primary school and his thinking began to change faster than before. Parents' education methods should also keep up with their footsteps in time, otherwise the little devil can't be cured.
When children master a little life experience, they will think that they have grown up and begin to want to get rid of their parents' "palm".
If parents don't change their education methods in time at this time, it will easily lead to children often "singing the opposite tune", and serious children's academic performance will show signs of decline. At this time, parents should give their children some room to play, discuss everything and make decisions, and don't engage in parental monopoly.
It is necessary to develop good living habits for children and make agreements with them.
3. The third rebellious period: 12- 15 years old adolescence.
Adolescent children gradually mature physically, but their hearts are still not mature enough.
At this time, it is easy for children to become irritable when they encounter setbacks.
Really understanding and respecting a child is the most effective way for parents to communicate with adolescent children. You can take your children to learn some biographies of celebrities. When children follow a person's example, it is also an opportunity for children to break through themselves for their goals.
Don't participate too much in your child's social circle, and give your child appropriate space. At the same time, we should also take our children to visit famous universities, influence them with a bright future campus life, and make them look forward to the future.
You can also take him to meet new friends and take part in extracurricular interest classes to reduce the pressure of study.
When a child has a goal in his heart, it also stimulates his fighting spirit, which is also a normal reaction of adolescent children.
Therefore, parents, the first two rebellious periods have come, and this is the most important rebellious period. Parents should also actively cooperate with their children, which has a very important impact on cultivating their future behavior habits.
It is normal for children to rebel and talk back.
Babies enter a period of ideological rebellion, and their thoughts gradually become more independent, and they begin to have their own ideas and are extremely active.
When parents find that their children are becoming more and more independent, have their own ideas and don't want their parents to interfere too much, this is the rebellious period of their children. Of course, the most obvious feature is that they will talk back.
For parents' criticism and education, children will talk back and enter a "period of ideological rebellion", which is a necessary stage for children to grow up.
Because new things happen every day in the world, children gradually understand the outside world, so when children make mistakes, they are often scolded by their parents, often showing impatience and even talking back.
In fact, communication and empathy are the basic principles that parents and children should abide by. Parents and children should understand each other, when parents are no longer a powerful and unshakable dominant position.
You will find that children will share more "little secrets" with you, so you should put yourself in your shoes and talk like friends occasionally.
Specific can refer to the following five points.
1. Equal communication helps to bridge the generation gap.
Parents can try to kneel down and communicate with their children, allowing them to express their ideas and discuss their views and opinions on something with them. If parents respect their children's ideas, the baby will reduce the situation of talking back.
2. Change "not allowed" to "don't like it, don't"
Parents often say "no" and children often say "no". Parents should change their attitude since they want to accept their children's opinions.
Parents can try to replace "I won't allow you" with "Mom doesn't want her baby to talk back, and mom doesn't like children who talk back." "I can understand how you feel, but mom doesn't like the baby talking back."
3. "You can convince me with your reasons."
Parents should talk less. In the face of children who talk back, parents should hold their horses and don't blame them. When you are angry, you lose. Children may habitually talk back, and parents should control their emotions.
If the child still talks back, parents can say to the child, "If you don't want to do it, you have to convince me with your reasons."
Parents who lead by example are the best.
Parents should set an example, don't be grumpy in front of their children, take more children to live with the elderly, and let the children observe how their parents get along with their grandparents.
On weekdays, things are peaceful, you are not in a hurry, and children will follow suit in their eyes when they see their elders respect your words and deeds. It is very important to set an example.
5. Give children space and divert their attention.
It is important to give children space to develop themselves, but this degree is difficult to master. There must be freedom and moderation, but remember, do not give children compulsory education.
If children feel depressed and can't feel happy in life and study, it's not as simple as talking back.
Children who are negative for a long time will have psychological problems. Parents can let their children have more hobbies after class, such as piano and basketball. Hobbies can not only relieve the pressure of study.
It can also help children solve psychological stress, practice what they like when they are negative, and the depressed mood will be freed.