1? Principle class method
? Maintain a good attitude of "patience+recognition+encouragement"
Children will make all kinds of mistakes for various reasons. At this time, parents should be patient enough to give their children a chance to try and practice. Don't intervene because you are afraid of trouble, and don't criticize and blame your child for making mistakes. The process is more important than the result. Parents should have more patience, recognition and encouragement, so that children can gradually improve their abilities, realize their own values and build their self-confidence in the process of doing things independently.
? Adhere to the iron general principle of "freedom+guidance+affirmation"
Freedom means giving children a certain degree of autonomy and meeting their reasonable independent needs. Children have the need to publicize their wishes and the desire to do things independently. Education should promote the realization of this desire and ensure the independence of children.
Guidance is not an order, not a sermon, not a constraint, not an arrangement; Guidance is to let the child do his own thing, guide him to learn to do what the child can't do, and urge him to insist on doing what the child can do; Guidance means respecting children's desire to do things independently and promoting their ability and habit of doing things independently. Smart parents should not use crutches as guides.
The significance of affirmation is self-evident, but the influence of affirmation from parents on children's growth may be far beyond your imagination. Even simple verbal praise, cheering and clapping, hugging, kissing, patting the shoulder and touching the head can convey positive support and kind response to children, encourage them to study hard and make progress, help them build up their sense of honor and self-confidence, and give them strong motivation.
2? Actual combat method
Combining attack and defense to correct children's "rebellious psychology"
? Meet children's reasonable independent needs
Freedom is not a slogan, it should be implemented. Let children try what they want to do on their own initiative as long as there is no danger. Due to the limitation of development level and ability, children do things less comprehensively than adults, but the process they are trying is also a process of improving their ability.
Enhance children's ability to distinguish right from wrong.
During this period, children's self-control ability and ability to distinguish right from wrong are still relatively poor, and it is easy to make some unreasonable demands, which requires the guidance of parents to help them establish a preliminary concept of right and wrong and a code of conduct. Just pay attention to methods in the process of education.
? Praise good behavior
Praise and encouragement can increase the frequency of children's good behavior, and this positive reinforcement can better shape children's good behavior. Praise should be timely and specific. Praise should be sincere when children's good behavior is discovered, when children can accept parents' suggestions and take the initiative to improve their behavior.
Ignore bad behavior
It is difficult for parents to ignore their children's bad behavior. Seeing that children are not doing well enough, many parents are "eager to do well", often involuntarily correcting this and that, which invisibly interferes with children's autonomy and easily stimulates children's rebellious psychology. Wise parents should be able to control their temper and learn to let go.
3? Parent-child tips, a teaching method to make children obedient.
A little humor.
A witty and humorous way will give children a sense of freshness and generally will not be rejected.
Turn the task into a game.
Children like games, and I believe they will be more willing to accept them if they turn tasks into games.
Don't give children a chance to say "no"
Don't give your child a chance to say "no" to some questions that you can't refuse in principle. Giving orders in a negotiated tone can easily lead to arguments and cannot be obeyed. If you ask, "Should you go to bed?" It is estimated that a word "no" will blurt out from the child's mouth. Say "it's time to go to bed, go to sleep!" " )
Turn instructions into choices.
For example, "Do you want to put away your toys and read, or do you want to put away your toys and watch TV?" In this way, no matter what choice the child makes, he must first pack up his toys.
The opposite is true.
If the child always goes against his parents, say the opposite, so that what he will do is what you actually think.
? Take turns with the children.
Children in this period are more concerned about fairness. They do it with children, or take turns with them. Everyone obeys the same rules, so children will have no reason to object.
4? Clever response, resolve the contradiction caused by disobedience
? diversion
Distracting children's attention is a very simple and effective method. Draw the child's attention away from the wrong behavior, and then tell the child another thing he can do to effectively prevent the child from crying.
? cold-treat
If the reason has been explained, the child is still unreasonable and even has some extreme performance. For example, lying on the ground and rolling, hitting yourself and so on. At this time, you must understand that this is the baby threatening adults to achieve their own goals, and it is best to "cold treat"-ignore him for the time being. After a while, he will get bored and stop crying.
? Isolation method
To put it bluntly, think about it, punish them for staying in a boring but safe corner of the room, and calm down the children who have been fooling around in this compulsory way.
However, before punishment, you should give your child a warning (for example, "If you throw books around again, you will be punished in the corner"), so that the child can know the reason for punishment.
If the child is still me, do it at once and be firm. The isolation time does not need to be too long, 3 minutes for 2-year-old children and 5 minutes for older children. Studies have shown that after a few weeks or months, the effect is remarkable.
♀? abstract
When dealing with children's unreasonable troubles, we must adhere to two points, namely: adhere to principles and appease! In the critical period of shaping and forming children's psychological quality, parents must grasp, handle and guide well, and never get angry, don't get angry! One more thing, now that triplets are open, many parents have welcomed their babies. On the issue of triplets, parents must handle the relationship with their children and do psychological counseling. Children's psychology is very sensitive and insecure, so we must make sure to give enough love and care more.